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People who drive 40 everywhere

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PeRiO · 23/04/2024 18:26

Sorry this subject has probably been done to death but I let it really annoy me today so just want to get it off my chest 🤣
AIBU to be annoyed at people who drive 40mph everywhere? Following a car home today, I live in a small village of which the road to it varies between 30/60. It isn't a bad road, fairly straight on the 60 bits but I appreciate 60 isn't a target speed but it riles me up when said car is happy to speed in the 30 bits but not willing to go a little faster in the 60 bits.

Anyone else?

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lazyarse123 · 24/04/2024 17:00

DappledThings · 24/04/2024 15:40

Do you point out to him you are driving safely and capably? If DH told me to slow down when I was doing 10mph under the speed limit I'd not be impressed and he'd know it.

I do tell him but he had a stroke last year and it's made him a nervy passenger. So I do it so he feels safe but not all the time and never on motorways. He was a very good driver but has lost all confidence now.

Verv · 24/04/2024 17:00

Drives me fucking nuts.

40mph dawdlers in 60 zones just end up with a queue of frustrated drivers behind them.
Im convinced that the amount of risk taking on roads is down to being stuck behind these people

kitsuneghost · 24/04/2024 16:59

Allfur · 24/04/2024 11:36

Unless you're performing emergency brain surgery, you could just chill out and accept that's the nature of driving on over crowded roads, getting so impatient and angry is dangerous

Totally agree with this
If you are feeling ragey, you need to stop and calm down. I truly believe more accidents are caused by impatience and road rage than any other factor.

RampantIvy · 24/04/2024 16:57

My favourite passtime is going infuriatingly slow in front of agressive speeders through villages. I can go soooooo slooooooow. Then I hit the 60 road & boot it. Petty but satisfying. I'm a stickler for limits in little villages and around houses etc. Other limits not so much

The roads between the villages here are 60, so you frequently go from 60 to 30 them back to 60. It's worrying that the 40 milers seem to be unable to read the speed limit signs.

I love it when people build their lives around cars and then complain about it, not everyone drives to work or school etc

I love it when public transport users get sanctimonious about drivers because they just can't imagine what it is like to live outside London or other large city where public transport options are very limited.

kitsuneghost · 24/04/2024 16:56

Also you don't know the situation in the car
People could have items in the back they are being careful not to knock over.
They could be driving home someone very unwell and trying not to make them worse by playing speed yoyo

YoureAGoodManArthurMorgan · 24/04/2024 16:56

Allfur · 24/04/2024 16:27

This has rarely happened but if it did, I wouldn't stress as there is very little I can do about it and whats the point moaning about it

How very zen of you.

The rest of us didn't just get out of our advanced meditation class though. Needless delays are annoying and inconvenient and bitching about them on MN makes me feel better!

kitsuneghost · 24/04/2024 16:51

FuckTheClubUp · 23/04/2024 23:40

Why do you think people do it? Is it because they’re nervous drivers so maybe want to go slow in case anything happens? I’m genuinely intrigued now

Petrol
Driving a slow steady pace will increase your petrol efficiency
Driving 50 rather than 80 saves me a tank a month

jolota · 24/04/2024 16:41

This is my absolute bug bear.
The last stretch of my commute is 30 to 60 back to 30.
I am never ever in a rush but it drives me mad to watch people drive 10 miles over the speed limit in a residential area to then go 20 miles below the speed limit on very straight 60 section.
To me it just seems like extreme laziness, they literally can't be bothered to adjust their speed maybe?
I don't get it! Like they're not safety conscious going over the speed limit in the 30, so why go so slowly on an easy 60 section?
Utterly bizarre but really common behaviour in my experience.

CatamaranViper · 24/04/2024 16:39

Allfur · 24/04/2024 16:25

On a bike, if there us a blockage in the road, you get off bike and walk around it. Never late.

You can't always. And you can't always know if you will or won't encounter a blockage that you cannot walk around. Therefore, whatever next appointment or time sensitive thing you have to attend, you should probably set off now to be on the safe side.

clairelouwho · 24/04/2024 16:35

Allfur · 23/04/2024 20:28

Your schedule is your schedule, nothing to do with other road users

If people don't feel confident driving at or near the speed limit in normal conditions, they shouldn't be driving or they should stick to roads that are more in keeping with the speeds they're comfortable doing.

If someone is doing 40 in a 60 on their driving test, guess what? They'd fail it. For good reason.

It's clear you're one of those drivers we're talking about.

MissBedelia · 24/04/2024 16:31

Drives me crazy. Happens a lot round where I live.

They also often slow down on corners on a 60 limit road- this cannot be necessary 🤯

Allfur · 24/04/2024 16:27

sandieollsen · 24/04/2024 16:18

Don't you get stressed if you rely on a bus and train to get to work or school etc., and you get to the stop and station to find it cancelled or delayed meaning you're late??

This has rarely happened but if it did, I wouldn't stress as there is very little I can do about it and whats the point moaning about it

Allfur · 24/04/2024 16:25

CatamaranViper · 24/04/2024 16:14

No but they very easily can be affected by other delays including slow cyclists and pedestrians. Christ you could be affected by a herd of sheep or a mobility scooter that you can't pass. There could be any number of reasons you're delayed due to other people (and animals) that you couldn't have foreseen and you can't do anything about. Is it helpful when people suggest that you should just leave earlier?

Unfortunately 'we' didn't build our lives around rigid start and finish times for things. 'We' also didn't build our towns or our cities. 'We' don't often get to choose where we live or where we work.

On a bike, if there us a blockage in the road, you get off bike and walk around it. Never late.

sandieollsen · 24/04/2024 16:18

Allfur · 24/04/2024 15:51

I love it when people build their lives around cars and then complain about it, not everyone drives to work or school etc

Don't you get stressed if you rely on a bus and train to get to work or school etc., and you get to the stop and station to find it cancelled or delayed meaning you're late??

CatamaranViper · 24/04/2024 16:14

Allfur · 24/04/2024 15:59

Cyclists and pedestrians aren't affected by traffic jams

No but they very easily can be affected by other delays including slow cyclists and pedestrians. Christ you could be affected by a herd of sheep or a mobility scooter that you can't pass. There could be any number of reasons you're delayed due to other people (and animals) that you couldn't have foreseen and you can't do anything about. Is it helpful when people suggest that you should just leave earlier?

Unfortunately 'we' didn't build our lives around rigid start and finish times for things. 'We' also didn't build our towns or our cities. 'We' don't often get to choose where we live or where we work.

MohairTortoise · 24/04/2024 16:10

I tend to drive at 50mph on the 60 road where I am, because there's deer signs at intervals on this stretch of road and there are regularly deer or muntjac leaping into the road.
When I say regularly, there's not a week goes by without either a deer or muntjac leaping out of the bushes, and there is always a dead one at the edge of the road. This is in daylight hours, I tend not to drive in the dark unless it can't be avoided.
Other drivers are welcome to overtake me if they wish, and they do, usually at much more than 60.

Caerulea · 24/04/2024 16:10

Get the feeling there's a lot of pp from cornwall on this thread lol. It's an absolute shitshow here for driving in the holidays. I think the logic on the speed is 'if I go 40 in this 60 then I save that extra 20mph to go 40 in the 20'. There must be some kind of bonus thing for driving in the middle of the road & stopping at all oncoming traffic too.

My favourite passtime is going infuriatingly slow in front of agressive speeders through villages. I can go soooooo slooooooow. Then I hit the 60 road & boot it. Petty but satisfying. I'm a stickler for limits in little villages and around houses etc. Other limits not so much 😬

Allfur · 24/04/2024 15:59

CatamaranViper · 24/04/2024 15:57

Who said they did?

Okay, do you do anything that has a start or finish time? Kids in school? A job? What do you use to get from A-B?
Because the same frustrations that drivers feel can be experienced by walkers, joggers, cyclists, public transport users etc.

Cyclists and pedestrians aren't affected by traffic jams

YoureAGoodManArthurMorgan · 24/04/2024 15:57

Allfur · 24/04/2024 15:31

Just because I don't find slow drivers exacerbating, doesn't mean I am one, that's a bit of a lazy connection

I didn't say anything about whether you were or weren't a slow driver.

BIossomtoes · 24/04/2024 15:57

Allfur · 24/04/2024 15:27

Not sure how driving a taxi is affected, you either charge for time or distance

And if you’re driving an ambulance you stick your blues and twos on.

CatamaranViper · 24/04/2024 15:57

Allfur · 24/04/2024 15:51

I love it when people build their lives around cars and then complain about it, not everyone drives to work or school etc

Who said they did?

Okay, do you do anything that has a start or finish time? Kids in school? A job? What do you use to get from A-B?
Because the same frustrations that drivers feel can be experienced by walkers, joggers, cyclists, public transport users etc.

Allfur · 24/04/2024 15:51

I love it when people build their lives around cars and then complain about it, not everyone drives to work or school etc

CatamaranViper · 24/04/2024 15:49

Allfur · 24/04/2024 15:28

We're all busy, you make adjustments to your schedule to accommodate, no point in road raging

I love it when people say this.
Okay so I'll just leave work now to do the 15 minute journey to my sons school ready to collect him at 5pm. Afterall, can't predict that someone won't be crawling along the road at 5.
I'm sure my employer won't mind.

DappledThings · 24/04/2024 15:40

lazyarse123 · 24/04/2024 15:30

My DH s getting a bit apprehensive about driving so doesn't do it any more. But he sometimes says to me "it's not a race slow down a bit" this is when i'm doing about 50 in a 60 which I do if I know I'm not holding anyone up. If it's a good road and busy then I drive to the conditions.
I used to have a 2 litre Mondeo which had a lot of power and so much fun to drive I now have a Fiesta which is fine and nippy but I do miss the power of the bigger car.

Do you point out to him you are driving safely and capably? If DH told me to slow down when I was doing 10mph under the speed limit I'd not be impressed and he'd know it.

Allfur · 24/04/2024 15:31

YoureAGoodManArthurMorgan · 24/04/2024 11:44

I agree with you that getting angry when driving is dangerous. It's natural to get frustrated by bad driving, but actual anger has no place on the road.

That said, I find driving at a speed you fancy, not making effective progress, and then saying everyone else should chill out about it shows an arrogance that shouldn't be on the road either.

Just because I don't find slow drivers exacerbating, doesn't mean I am one, that's a bit of a lazy connection

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