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Help me word this?

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TheWayTheLightFalls · 23/04/2024 18:01

Really minor, but the sort of thing I tie myself in knots over.

I’ve hired a teenager to collect DD from school once a week and then help me at home with the very cushy (imo!) job of wrapping my eBay sales. She’s paid over the odds but per hour / on the clock.

DD loves her, she is diligent, she lets me know if unwell etc. But - last week DD let me know that they went via Costa on the way home, so she could get a coffee. This week they went via Costa and via a bus stop out of the way to (according to DD) walk another friend there. And were later home by 15 minutes or so, at my expense. She only does 1-1.5 hours a time, so it adds up.

It feels slightly piss taking and I’m not sure how happy I am at my six year old going via a coffee shop every week anyway. How can I word this to her? I really just want to say, Hey, the scope of the job is collecting DD and heading straight home to get on with things here.

OP posts:
TheCultureHusks · 23/04/2024 18:08

Hi X, I’m afraid I need you to come straight home from school with DD when you pick her up. I don’t want you in the position of being responsible for her except for the straightforward walk home, it isn’t fair on you or her. I also need you here for the packing job for the full time we agreed. Could you sort your own errands either before or after the time we agreed? Thanks

Onetiredbeing · 23/04/2024 18:07

I think this is something you actually do need to be very firm and direct about. I had a formal contract with a nanny and put this into the contract. That she was to bring my dc home from school, on a route agreed on. You wouldn't believe the amount of people who thought it was ok to quickly do detours with your child. You don't have a contract but I say that you still need to be clear about this.

MyBreezyPombear · 23/04/2024 18:06

Are you there when she gets home with your DD?

If you aren't - is she getting the job of wrapping the ebay parcels done?

jackstini · 23/04/2024 18:05

I couldn't really get wound up about this. She is still looking after dd and as long as she gets the parcels done then fine

Does dd mind going via Costa/bus stop though?

Alwaysalwayscold · 23/04/2024 18:04

"Hi X, DD said you've haven't been coming straight home from school and have been to Costa etc first. Could you make sure you stick to the arrangement please as taking her elsewhere adds a lot more risk factors into play. Thanks, OP."