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33, is it a special age?

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Isthatguystilldroningon · 23/04/2024 12:23

Were you happy at 33, at your happiest around this age-30-33? Curious as it’s said to possibly be a time when people were/are the happiest

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HenFenywFach · 24/04/2024 18:27

Looking back I was my most beautiful at 33. Wish I still looked like that!

Ankylo · 24/04/2024 14:35

I'm 33 now and I am at a happy stage in my life - happily married, home that we own, 1 happy healthy child and excited at the prospect of another.

QueSyrahSyrah · 24/04/2024 07:24

33 was probably my worst year. 36 onwards have been the best so far, and getting better.

Londonrach1 · 24/04/2024 07:22

No. Hated my 20s and 30s..happiest in my 40s. Life is amazing now and can't wait to my 50s!

PotatoPudding · 24/04/2024 06:53

31-36 for me but I lived abroad, had a once in a lifetime job, great lifestyle and the most amazing friends.

Beetlewings · 24/04/2024 06:52

At 33 I was juggling a career and children, I was brittle and exhausted. There are far better times ahead I assure you

OnHerSolidFoundations · 24/04/2024 05:33

Isthatguystilldroningon · 23/04/2024 12:30

Sounds very woo etc and not my usual thing, but reading that when we die, our age/soul will be back to around 33 as that is when we were the happiest, I know it sounds quite ridiculous, just sounded interesting

It's ridiculous

sanityisamyth · 23/04/2024 20:51

Was in the trenches of a nasty divorce, so no!!

Carsarelife · 23/04/2024 20:50

I had my 1st baby at 33 so I guess I was super happy. Aside from that my brother has been through the most traumatic experience a human could go through, I was so sad for him and this sadness made me not look forward to the birth of my baby as I should so I guess the age 33 doesn't define happiness in particular

TooMuchRedMaybe · 23/04/2024 20:33

No, I had young kids, worked full-time and a lousy husband. Much happier in my early 20s and now in my 40s. Mainly because I have got rid of the lousy husband I guess.

Whatifthehokeycokey · 23/04/2024 20:10

I don't remember anything particular about 33.

Bowsandbangles24 · 23/04/2024 18:11

Oh Jesus no massive fertility struggles. Lots of miscarriages going through IVF.

Materially amazing tho, DH a high earner and I was on a really good salary, beautiful house.

Headingforburnout · 23/04/2024 18:08

33 was probably one of my worst years but only because my kids were all very young and quite tricky then and my husband was rarely around.

BingoMarieHeeler · 23/04/2024 18:06

I’m 34 now. Nice house, 3 kids and no more to come, I’m retraining within my passion, happy marriage. At 33 we were working on the house and I had no direction so I’d say I’m happier now but overall very happy at 33. Also KEENLY aware that for our family, the worst is absolutely definitely still to come, as touch wood we have been immeasurably lucky thus far.

Melontree · 23/04/2024 18:05

Nope, not for me. I got way happier as I approached 40, thanks to DH and DC. I probably thought I was fairly happy at the time, but it was a fairly shit time tbh.

Newsenmum · 23/04/2024 18:04

Isthatguystilldroningon · 23/04/2024 12:30

Sounds very woo etc and not my usual thing, but reading that when we die, our age/soul will be back to around 33 as that is when we were the happiest, I know it sounds quite ridiculous, just sounded interesting

Don’t tell me that! That’s me now! Does it only go downhill? 🙁

britneyisfree · 23/04/2024 18:02

I heard this donkeys years ago. Funnily enough 33 ended up being my happiest time as I (finally) gave birth to my beautiful dc!!

MehGeography · 23/04/2024 18:00

Not at all, I was much happier at 24/25 when I was a SAHM to my toddlers.
At 33 I'd been back at work teaching full time for a few years with a 10 year old and a 7 year old.
Much happier again now the children are in their late teens, i get good quality time with them and I don't feel so guilty about the amount of work I do.
In short, I loved my 20s at home with my small children, my 30s were the worst balancing work and childcare, and the associated guilt but I'm loving my 40s freedom but still time with my now older children.

Sallyingon · 23/04/2024 17:54

I was happy at 33. I had a two year old and was pregnant with my second..Still had my career, was about to go on maternity leave again. We moved house. Had lots of friends. Very happy with my husband. It was a good time. I don't know if I'd pick it as my best, but thinking back I was financially secure, healthy and loved. I'd defo happily go back there.

Alalalalalongalalalalalonglonglilong · 23/04/2024 17:48

33 was my worst time. Many many reasons. My ds was incredibly difficult and we were going through that slow and horrifying realisation that something was wrong developmentally. I had my second miscarriage. Money was tight. My mum was dead. I felt absolutely shit and was rapidly gaining weight. By 36 I had 2 healthy newborns, ds was thriving in school with a much lesser diagnosis than feared and I had lost 3 stone and was on thyroid meds.

I presume the significance of the year is Jesus death at 33.

BlazesBoylansHat · 23/04/2024 17:47

@fiskalina same for me!
Met dh at 29. Fell madly in love. Brilliant place career wise. Got married at 33. Life was full of wonder & beauty & possibility! It was one of my golden ages

25 / 26 was another.

elevens24 · 23/04/2024 17:43

I've never heard of it being a particularly special age. For me I was very happy. I'd been accepted onto a funded doctorate course (for me dream career), I was happily married, 1 dc, and was the fittest I'd ever been.

Countrygirl38 · 23/04/2024 17:41

I wasn't that happy at 33. In my forties though I feel much happier.

Hiddenvoice · 23/04/2024 17:40

I was probably happiest at 29 when I was living carefree, enjoyed my job and had a pretty active social life for the first time in years. I’m now 32 with children and a lot more stress. Love my little family but wouldn’t say I’m the happiest and most relaxed that I’ve ever been.

Crushed23 · 23/04/2024 17:38

No, it was the age my most serious relationship to date started falling apart. It ended a year later when I was 34.

32 I was very happy.

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