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Selling his gift

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Emstar444 · 23/04/2024 09:07

So, aibu? My partner decided that after I had scrimped and saved to buy him a gift he had asked for, to sell it on ebay, along with another gift I had purchased at his request for him. It wasn't due to fit or anything like that, he just decided to, and I quote 'get some money for them'. What they have sold for is far below what I paid for them, even though he knows how hard I struggled to get the money together to buy the things he wanted. Am I being unreasonable to feel miffed about this?

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paintingvenice · 23/04/2024 10:09

On the designer clothing I wonder if he wanted photos of him wearing it and has then passed it on? Is he the sort to instagram quite a lot? Is he trying to present an image online of a better life?

Shitty behaviour on his part.

patchworkpal · 23/04/2024 10:08

Emstar444 · 23/04/2024 10:05

So the gifts were on ebay within a couple of weeks of him receiving them.
He doesn't see anything wrong with this and doesn't think I should be upset about it.
We don't live together and have been in relationship for less than a year. These were gifts for his birthday that he had specifically said he wanted, used once, then sold for about half of what I paid for them. They were a personal care item that he specifically wanted, and some designer clothing.

A personal care item?

Sounds like he changed his mind. I'd be annoyed though.

Original poster
Emstar444 · 23/04/2024 10:08

Also to add, he has absolutely no money worries whatsoever, so he didn't need the money from them

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Original poster
Emstar444 · 23/04/2024 10:05

So the gifts were on ebay within a couple of weeks of him receiving them.
He doesn't see anything wrong with this and doesn't think I should be upset about it.
We don't live together and have been in relationship for less than a year. These were gifts for his birthday that he had specifically said he wanted, used once, then sold for about half of what I paid for them. They were a personal care item that he specifically wanted, and some designer clothing.

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KreedKafer · 23/04/2024 10:04

How long did he keep them for before he sold them, and what sort of items were they?

If you bought him an expensive watch and he sold it six months later, that's shitty of him. If you bought him an expensive jacket and he sold it five years later, that's not a big deal.

GridlockedKey · 23/04/2024 10:03

That's a weird thing to do but it does depend....

Spirallingdownwards · 23/04/2024 09:57

As another poster says it depends on when you bought them and when he sold them.

Also has he suddenly got money troubles for some reason and he sold them because he actually needs the money? Again date of receipt and sale comes into play here too.

0verandoveragain · 23/04/2024 09:57

How long ago were they bought?

HavfrueDenizKisi · 23/04/2024 09:55

Stop buying him gifts. Best way to stop doing that is also to stop having him as your boyfriend. Two problems solved in once go.

JurassicFantastic · 23/04/2024 09:53

What is the time difference between you giving the gift to him and him selling it?

If its a couple of weeks then don't ever buy him a gift again.

If it's been a couple of years, fair enough.

isthesolution · 23/04/2024 09:32

Thats very strange if he asked for them?

Also my husband would say if a gift wasn't suitable and I'd return it and he'd pick something else. Why does he need to put them on eBay?

wutheringkites · 23/04/2024 09:29

How long have you been together? Do you live together?

Haydenn · 23/04/2024 09:29

I would ask him directly why he asked you to buy them for him. I wouldn’t ever go to much trouble for the ungrateful prick again. Spend the money on yourself next time.

exomoon · 23/04/2024 09:25

PineappleTime · 23/04/2024 09:07

Don't ever buy him a gift again...

This. Stop being the bigger person and tell him to piss off for future gifts. Just get him chocolate.

I bet he makes minimal effort on your effort.

neverknowinglyunreasonable · 23/04/2024 09:10

Just put a fiver in a card from now on and he can count himself lucky to even get that.

saraclara · 23/04/2024 09:09

How long ago did you buy them? And has he used them?

PineappleTime · 23/04/2024 09:07

Don't ever buy him a gift again...

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