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Pressure to buy from fragrance sellers

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SVDWoodson · 22/04/2024 21:43

Just a little info before we get into this: I have never been able to tolerate perfumes, from a young age, the moment I smell one, within minutes it triggers migraine and I've made my peace with it, so for day to day scent I use body mists instead.

Today, while shopping at Westfield, I encountered a stand in the center selling Ouds, known for their potent scent. As I walked by, the lady at the stand handed me a card. I declined, not wanting the fragrance to linger on me, and explained that fragrances give me terrible headaches, so I don't wear them. Despite my explanation, she continued talking to me, even changing the topic briefly. She was nice, so I engaged in conversation, but she eventually circled back to the fragrance and asked if I was interested in buying a bottle. She mentioned it was 'parfum,' oil-based, suggesting it might not trigger headaches like alcohol-based perfumes. I reiterated that I wouldn't be purchasing a fragrance, but she persisted, even mentioning a special offer of £85.00 for the bottle.

When another customer approached her, I took the opportunity to make a swift exit. I bolted... Honestly, I ran! I don't recall saying goodbye, but oddly enough, I feel guilty about it. In truth, I felt overwhelmed by the pressure, especially after clearly stating my position. While I understand she's likely working on commission and her manager was present, why can't a simple 'no' ever suffice?

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tuvamoodyson · 23/04/2024 11:40

Yes…a simple ‘no thank you’ as I walk on by. No need to tell her how perfume gives you headaches, just keep on walking…

MyOtherCarisAVauxhallZafira · 23/04/2024 11:40

If you don't want her to waste her time, or think that actually you might be interested in a purchase you're doing her a favour by just saying no thanks and carrying on, if anything it's more impolite to stop engage her in a conversation, and preventing her engaging with others who might actually buy something, even you have no intention of doing so. You need to reframe the scenario in your mind, if you are motivated by guilt, surely you should feel more guilty about taking up her time when she is in a commission based job, rather than giving her a straightforward honest response.

exomoon · 23/04/2024 11:39

You made the mistake of stopping. The Westfield stall holders are hard sellers, just walk past, don't engage.

MyOtherCarisAVauxhallZafira · 23/04/2024 11:37

I was at Westfield yesterday and a woman from that brand approached me, I just said no thank you with a smile and kept walking. Why did you stop and engage in conversation?

StoatofDisarray · 23/04/2024 11:33

YABU. Just say no thanks and walk on. You invited conversation by explaining yourself.

ontheflighttosingapore · 23/04/2024 08:27

I just say no thank you and keep walking. You do t owe them anything. They don't want a chat they want to sell to you

Purplecatshopaholic · 23/04/2024 08:23

seafronty · 23/04/2024 06:46

You felt guilty walking away from someone you don't know and didn't want to talk to anyway. Chalk up another one to "how the heck do some MN users cope in the real world?"

Sorry op, but this. Dont engage, keep walking. Done. The sky won’t fall in, really.

WaltzingWaters · 23/04/2024 08:20

You shouldn’t feel pressured to buy. But that’s why they’re there - to talk you into a purchase. Just say no and continue walking from the start. Once you engage with them it’s harder to say no.

Horsemother · 23/04/2024 08:17

Just put your hand up in a 'stop' signal and keep walking. If they talk to you ignore them. Simple.

Teddleshon · 23/04/2024 08:12

I have a golden rule to never engage with someone selling something unless I’ve initiated it.

jannier · 23/04/2024 08:10

Say no and keep walking anyone who stops is fair game to someone who lives on commission

GreyCarpet · 23/04/2024 06:59

She was nice, so I engaged in conversation, but she eventually circled back to the fragrance and asked if I was interested in buying a bottle

She wasn't being nice. She was drawing you into a conversation to encourage you to buy. It's a sales technique.

Once a rapport has been developed, you're more likely to buy.

Why did you feel the need to explain? I just don't make eye contact and say no thanks as I carry on walking. I'm afraid your feeling presumed and guilty is a problem entirely of your own making!

Perfect28 · 23/04/2024 06:59

Walk on by, don't. Stop.

Justleaveitblankthen · 23/04/2024 06:56

I promise you, she won't have given you a second thought. How many rejections do you think she has in an hour? They have balls of steel 😁
Glue your phone to your ear and be having a pretend chat with someone next time.

sanogo · 23/04/2024 06:55

The worst thing you can ever do is to stop walking

I say no thank you as I walk past. If they talk to me I continue walking, if you stop, they've got you

fieldsofbutterflies · 23/04/2024 06:54

You didn't give a "no", though, you engaged in a full blown conversation.

Just walk past and ignore - you don't even need to say "no" if you don't want.

fatphalange · 23/04/2024 06:53

Oh dear, you're not expected to stop and talk! There are about 3 of these kiosks where I live and walk past probably 3 or 4 days a week. You either grab the samples and say 'thanks', or say 'no thanks' as you walk by or blank or walk by out of arms' reach. I accept samples more often than not because they usually smell divine and don't trigger my migraines but if they did....I would just avoid.

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BobbyBiscuits · 23/04/2024 06:51

You engaged with her long enough for her to pitch you. They're trained to turn around any negative or barrier, so 'i can't use it because I'm allergic' becomes 'this one is oil based so won't make you allergic'. No matter what you said she would've pitched regardless. She had another customer approaching her so hopefully she got a sale. Those jobs are crap and she's probably only comission based, which shouldn't even be legal. She's probably under a fake self employment scheme. And her boss is probably a scammer.

seafronty · 23/04/2024 06:46

You felt guilty walking away from someone you don't know and didn't want to talk to anyway. Chalk up another one to "how the heck do some MN users cope in the real world?"

camelfinger · 23/04/2024 06:41

If someone is trying to sell you something (especially something clearly won’t ever want) don’t stop and don’t make eye contact. If you’re worried about being impolite remember that they are the ones interrupting you, so it’s them being impolite.

patchworkpal · 23/04/2024 06:39

why can't a simple 'no' ever suffice? you didn't give a simple no

patchworkpal · 23/04/2024 06:25

Despite my explanation, she continued talking to me, even changing the topic briefly. She was nice, so I engaged in conversation, but she eventually circled back to the fragrance and asked if I was interested in buying a bottle.

She might be lovely but she's doing her job not chatting to you for fun.

Josette77 · 23/04/2024 05:56

Keep walking. Do not engage.
Honestly if you can't wear perfume stopping and talking about it will just waste your time and theirs.