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To wonder what is dangerous about my child’s lunch

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NameChangeAK · 22/04/2024 20:20

I received a message from school today saying my child’s lunch contained a prohibited item and to please review the policy “as there are children with severe allergies and it’s dangerous not to comply”

I don’t usually provide packed lunches - DC has school meals, but they did like todays meal options.

Ive responded and asked what the item was but waiting for a response, but I’m confused - it’s clearly a nut free school but I can’t see anything else anywhere about other banned foods

the packed lunch contained:

  • ham sandwich (with butter) on brown bread
  • apple
  • frube (strawberry flavour)
  • carton of own brand apple juice
  • Pepperami
  • babybel

any ideas what could be the problem or Aibu to think they’ve mistaken the ham as peanut butter or something ridiculous?

OP posts:
Rosejasmine · 24/04/2024 20:46

Well why didn’t they spell out to you what the problem item is? You might have missed something recently about a severe dairy allergy or something, but what’s the point in not telling you- bonkers!

Noyesnoyes · 24/04/2024 20:07

OldPerson · 24/04/2024 19:03

I think it's the school you should be asking.

If only she did!

BouncebackBetty · 24/04/2024 19:59

Our kids really need their vitamin D as well.

If kids are allergic (like my own) I make sure I supplement with vitamins or other sources.
If these essential nutrients are being banned because of one allergic child, other kids are suffering.

No wonder rickets is back.

GoodAfternoonGoodEveningAndGoodnight · 24/04/2024 19:55

Needmorelego · 24/04/2024 19:06

@OldPerson ....she did and they replied. It was the Frube yoghurt.

It's becoming the new cancel the cheque 😁

Cancel the frube!

LaDamaDeElche · 24/04/2024 19:51

I've lived in Spain since DD was 7 and they don't have any of these policies. Do British people generally have more food intolerances or higher food allergy rates? I don't think this is commonplace in Italy or Portugal either.

RecklessGoddess · 24/04/2024 19:40

As far as I can see, the only allergens are dairy and gluten, and from what I know from working in catering, they're only a problem if the person allergic actually eats them. Customers who had those allergies were perfectly happy to eat other products, that were in the same area as the ones with dairy or gluten.

Needmorelego · 24/04/2024 19:06

@OldPerson ....she did and they replied. It was the Frube yoghurt.

OldPerson · 24/04/2024 19:03

I think it's the school you should be asking.

BooBooDoodle · 24/04/2024 19:02

I understand many children now have allergies but my son’s school is the same. We dread making packed lunches on days where the school dinner isn’t suitable. A very fussy eater so we struggle to provide a decent lunch for him because so much is banned because of about 3 children with allergies. At the point now where we are trying to force him to have a school meal because everything we would assume to be fine for a packed lunch isn’t. Drives us round the bend. We have a growing child who does love food when he can eat what he likes but he can’t take it into school. They are still serving a cooks breakfast minus eggs because of a kid in my elder son’s year having an egg allergy. He left the school 2 years ago! Eggs are good and it’s taken us a year to get the youngest to start appreciating them.

Islandgirl68 · 24/04/2024 18:57

Good grief who was appalled, there is nothing wrong with that lunch. Maybe peperami is not the healthiest, but nothing much wrong with the rest, everything in moderation.

Needanewname42 · 24/04/2024 18:28

celticprincess · 24/04/2024 18:16

I can’t understand why they would ban dairy, even with a severe allergy, as schools provide kids with cartons of milk. And they can’t expect all families to provide dairy free alternatives to the staples like cheese and yoghurt in lunches. Can definitely understand why peanuts are banned, but not dairy. I work in a school where kids have alsorts of allergies but only nuts are banned. The staff just have to be vigilant about what else they use in lesson (things like lentils used in sensory play can’t be used in one class due to allergies but aren’t banned from school).

They haven't banned dairy, just frubes because they squirt.

I also wonder if it's not just the frubes squirting but if it's partly because how messy they can be generally so make it a nightmare to clean, esp if kids have got it on their hands and transferred the mess everywhere

Donsyb · 24/04/2024 18:17

We had someone in work who was so allergic to strawberries we couldn’t have anything containing strawberry in the building - not even milkshake. Could be something like that.

celticprincess · 24/04/2024 18:16

I can’t understand why they would ban dairy, even with a severe allergy, as schools provide kids with cartons of milk. And they can’t expect all families to provide dairy free alternatives to the staples like cheese and yoghurt in lunches. Can definitely understand why peanuts are banned, but not dairy. I work in a school where kids have alsorts of allergies but only nuts are banned. The staff just have to be vigilant about what else they use in lesson (things like lentils used in sensory play can’t be used in one class due to allergies but aren’t banned from school).

lucindasspunkyfunkyvoice · 24/04/2024 17:42

Babybel isnt UPF

it’s just cheese

SalviaDivinorum · 24/04/2024 15:10

godmum56 · 23/04/2024 14:16

well but cold pressed ultra virgin rapeseed oil is available.....

Edited

And very expensive. The chance of finding it in a processed manufactured food is vanishingly small. It is therefore safe to assume that it is almost certainly industrially produced with solvents when included as an ingredient.

PercyJackson · 24/04/2024 12:43

Iwasafool · 24/04/2024 12:18

I'm going back 30 years and getting annoyed all over again about this Twix vendetta that schools are running.😡

It's not even as if its the caramel, because in our school at least, a Rocky or a toffee yoyo would have been allowed (because it can't be bought as a chocolate bar in the chocolate bar aisle.... ffs)

Iwasafool · 24/04/2024 12:18

WittiestUsernameEver · 24/04/2024 12:09

Ours allows "chocolate covered wafer biscuits" so a full tunnocks caramel wafer or even a four finger KitKat is allowed... but not a 1" fun size twix from a box of celebrations 🤷‍♀️

I'm going back 30 years and getting annoyed all over again about this Twix vendetta that schools are running.😡

WittiestUsernameEver · 24/04/2024 12:09

Iwasafool · 24/04/2024 11:57

It is bizarre isn't it. Either have a no chocolate rule or all chocolate is OK or all chocolate coated biscuits are OK. Imagine my kids going from a Kitkat school to a no Kitkat school. How do you explain that to kids? I suppose all you can say is sometimes adults are a bit dim.

Ours allows "chocolate covered wafer biscuits" so a full tunnocks caramel wafer or even a four finger KitKat is allowed... but not a 1" fun size twix from a box of celebrations 🤷‍♀️

Iwasafool · 24/04/2024 11:57

PercyJackson · 24/04/2024 11:51

This reminds me of when I was at school and our Headteacher banned Kitkats. Her argument was that they were sold in the 'chocolate bar' aisle in shops, so therefore were chocolate bars. Clubs, Trios, penguins, all fine. Kitkat, poison.

It is bizarre isn't it. Either have a no chocolate rule or all chocolate is OK or all chocolate coated biscuits are OK. Imagine my kids going from a Kitkat school to a no Kitkat school. How do you explain that to kids? I suppose all you can say is sometimes adults are a bit dim.

WittiestUsernameEver · 24/04/2024 11:56

CammyChameleon · 24/04/2024 09:53

My son's friend takes whatever is left over from the family take away - sometimes it's a curry dish, sometimes it's chips, sometimes it's just a giant chunk of cake.

Is that MN enough?🤣

Ugh left over reheated chips?? 🤢

PercyJackson · 24/04/2024 11:51

Iwasafool · 23/04/2024 17:09

Mine are in their 30s and we had weird rules. I objected to Kitkats being OK but Twix were banned. Both are biscuits covered in chocolate. I can't remember the other rules but the Kitkat/twix unfairness stays with me as I like a Twix, particularly if it has come straight from the fridge.

This reminds me of when I was at school and our Headteacher banned Kitkats. Her argument was that they were sold in the 'chocolate bar' aisle in shops, so therefore were chocolate bars. Clubs, Trios, penguins, all fine. Kitkat, poison.

CammyChameleon · 24/04/2024 09:53

PuttingDownRoots · 23/04/2024 21:50

I thought all MN children took leftovers in a food flask?

My son's friend takes whatever is left over from the family take away - sometimes it's a curry dish, sometimes it's chips, sometimes it's just a giant chunk of cake.

Is that MN enough?🤣

Washingupdone · 24/04/2024 03:37

TempestTost · 24/04/2024 02:34

Surely they can't ban other kids eating something just because one kid isn't allowed for religious/ethical reasons?

Though the evidence for banning foods to protect allergic kids isn't very good anyway, so maybe they don't care how reasonable they are being.

I only mentioned this fact because many do not know this fact. The sweets were being used as an example, as if no one would have any problems with them, other than the sugar content.

TempestTost · 24/04/2024 02:34

Washingupdone · 23/04/2024 21:00

NameChangeAK
A packet of haribo is 100 times better than a packet of nuts if they are talking about allergies/dangerous even though the latter is much healthier

Some Haribo and other sweets are made of pork fat, could be forbidden to some children.

Surely they can't ban other kids eating something just because one kid isn't allowed for religious/ethical reasons?

Though the evidence for banning foods to protect allergic kids isn't very good anyway, so maybe they don't care how reasonable they are being.

Noyesnoyes · 24/04/2024 01:16

MegsNaiceJam · 24/04/2024 01:07

You could take someone’s eye out with a pepperami.

:nod’s wisely:

This is true.....

A risk assessment is required!

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