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To wonder what is dangerous about my child’s lunch

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NameChangeAK · 22/04/2024 20:20

I received a message from school today saying my child’s lunch contained a prohibited item and to please review the policy “as there are children with severe allergies and it’s dangerous not to comply”

I don’t usually provide packed lunches - DC has school meals, but they did like todays meal options.

Ive responded and asked what the item was but waiting for a response, but I’m confused - it’s clearly a nut free school but I can’t see anything else anywhere about other banned foods

the packed lunch contained:

  • ham sandwich (with butter) on brown bread
  • apple
  • frube (strawberry flavour)
  • carton of own brand apple juice
  • Pepperami
  • babybel

any ideas what could be the problem or Aibu to think they’ve mistaken the ham as peanut butter or something ridiculous?

OP posts:
Blondeshavemorefun · 27/04/2024 22:21

Wow. A splatter from a frube ?

I get the allergy but surely a lid yogurt can splatter as well

And if no yogs allowed they need to tell the school parents and put on website

Needanewname42 · 27/04/2024 21:58

Oldwmn · 27/04/2024 21:18

I'm so glad my kids are grown up & I don't have to deal with all this. Why is ordinary food suddenly 'dangerous'?

I think it's probably more awareness.
I'm also going to say some children with allergies maybe didn't make it as far as school.

When we're epipens invented?
How did people deal with anaphylaxis shock before them?

GoodAfternoonGoodEveningAndGoodnight · 27/04/2024 21:29

Oldwmn · 27/04/2024 21:18

I'm so glad my kids are grown up & I don't have to deal with all this. Why is ordinary food suddenly 'dangerous'?

Why is ordinary food suddenly 'dangerous'?

I don't think it's "suddenly dangerous", just that there's more awareness of serious allergies now.

Oldwmn · 27/04/2024 21:18

I'm so glad my kids are grown up & I don't have to deal with all this. Why is ordinary food suddenly 'dangerous'?

Behindthescenesnow · 27/04/2024 20:39

No worries @Rosestulips!

GoodAfternoonGoodEveningAndGoodnight · 27/04/2024 20:31

Coco1379 · 27/04/2024 20:20

I’m just wondering how you could take account of every kind of allergy children in school might have and still feed your child. I cannot see anything overtly ‘dangerous’ but surely the school cannot exclude dairy as some have suggested

T'was the Frube.
Cancel the Frube

Rosestulips · 27/04/2024 20:25

Rosestulips · 27/04/2024 19:59

All you had to do was READ OP posts to see it was a last minute decision. I’m sure with lots of notice she could have lovingly chopped 5 cubes of Gruyère and spooned some Greek yoghurt.

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Sorry that was for @RosesAndHellebores not you @Behindthescenesnow

Coco1379 · 27/04/2024 20:20

I’m just wondering how you could take account of every kind of allergy children in school might have and still feed your child. I cannot see anything overtly ‘dangerous’ but surely the school cannot exclude dairy as some have suggested

Rosestulips · 27/04/2024 19:59

Behindthescenesnow · 27/04/2024 19:41

I think you get the most condescending poster on the thread award!

Bravo!

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All you had to do was READ OP posts to see it was a last minute decision. I’m sure with lots of notice she could have lovingly chopped 5 cubes of Gruyère and spooned some Greek yoghurt.

JustAnotherManicMomday · 27/04/2024 19:55

I'm thinking peperami as I know my sons school hated them in lunches saying it wasn't healthy.

Mgraves · 27/04/2024 19:52

NameChangeAK · 22/04/2024 20:20

I received a message from school today saying my child’s lunch contained a prohibited item and to please review the policy “as there are children with severe allergies and it’s dangerous not to comply”

I don’t usually provide packed lunches - DC has school meals, but they did like todays meal options.

Ive responded and asked what the item was but waiting for a response, but I’m confused - it’s clearly a nut free school but I can’t see anything else anywhere about other banned foods

the packed lunch contained:

  • ham sandwich (with butter) on brown bread
  • apple
  • frube (strawberry flavour)
  • carton of own brand apple juice
  • Pepperami
  • babybel

any ideas what could be the problem or Aibu to think they’ve mistaken the ham as peanut butter or something ridiculous?

That looks a very sensible and balanced lunch.
Looking at other replies on here just proves that pretty well everything on there, SOMEBODY has an issue with it.
Specific personal allergies need to be respected but applied to everybody else with some common sense and factual information.

Behindthescenesnow · 27/04/2024 19:42

RosesAndHellebores · 27/04/2024 19:38

@Rosestulips my pleasure and looking forward to it.

Where should I buy the appropriate small container? Would B&M be ok, or should I use John Lewis?

Behindthescenesnow · 27/04/2024 19:41

RosesAndHellebores · 27/04/2024 19:38

@Rosestulips my pleasure and looking forward to it.

I think you get the most condescending poster on the thread award!

Bravo!

RosesAndHellebores · 27/04/2024 19:38

@Rosestulips my pleasure and looking forward to it.

Rosestulips · 27/04/2024 19:17

RosesAndHellebores · 23/04/2024 07:33

Generic letter because they disapproved of what was in the lunchbox.

Ham - processed
Babybel -processed
Frube - processed
Peppermint- processed
Apple Juice - the small cartons are rarely 100% pressed/squeezed

In the kindest possible way @Hopper123 that was a lunchbox jammed with UPFs.

Better choices would have been:
Chicken, tuna or egg sandwich
Fresh fruit - endless choices and combinations
2/3 cubes of gruyere
Small container with natural Greek Yoghurt and a drizzle of honey
Water instead of juice

Thanks for saving us all from a lifetime of unhealthiness.

You are amazing, well done

The Smug Awards ceremony is imminent

frantique · 27/04/2024 19:11

Be reasonable.

Perhaps the school or some other parents were offended by the fact that one of their number had gone to such time, thought, effort and expense to provide such a well balanced and nutritious meal.

Or perhaps a teaching assistant's cousin once had a pen pal allergic to Tupperware.

I wouldn't dance round the houses as that would invite more nonsense. A reply such as "total crap" would compel them to supply the necessary info.

SelkieDreaming · 27/04/2024 19:10

Oh! I've just read it was the frube, d'oh!

ITryHarder · 27/04/2024 19:09

I would have responded to the message and said "please, do not send me a message like this again without telling me the specific item you find undesirable, and why".

SelkieDreaming · 27/04/2024 19:09

Was the bread seeded?

ViscountessMelbourne · 27/04/2024 19:02

Picklelily99 · 27/04/2024 18:37

The bread could be produced in an environment where nuts are also used

Or possibly instead of aluminium foil she accidentally wrapped the food in magnesium tape which spontaneously combusted and set fire to the dining hall.

If only there were a way to find out!

CelesteCunningham · 27/04/2024 19:00

FixTheBone · 27/04/2024 18:49

Id be writing a letter

Schools should not be banning foods to protect allergy sufferers, it flies in the face of the advice of every major body that advises on the issue, the largest of which is Allergy UK.

The school should have measures in place so that allergy sufferers can avoid allergans. We got our school's pokicy changed when they decided to restrict the diet of 1300 children in order to reduce the risk to one child.

When these kids go out into the world they will be exposed to allergens and need to learn how to rely on themselves to mitigate the risks.

It. Was. The. Bloody. Frube.

The school isn't trying to ban any allergens, they've taken a very sensible measure to protect a child with a serious milk allergy by banning a product that is prone to squirting yoghurt everywhere. Other milk products are allowed.

CelesteCunningham · 27/04/2024 18:59

Picklelily99 · 27/04/2024 18:37

The bread could be produced in an environment where nuts are also used

It. Was. The. Bloody. Frube.

May contains are allowed in nut free schools, many children with nut and peanut allergies eat may contains themselves.

CelesteCunningham · 27/04/2024 18:58

Jenkibubble · 27/04/2024 18:27

I’d be perplexed too

I’d get a copy of the allergy policy .
Nuts I get , but you’d rule out most stuff if you weee only allowed sterile foods (ie guarantee nut free food prep area )

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It. Was. The. Bloody. Frube.

Sterile has nothing to do with being nut free.

FixTheBone · 27/04/2024 18:49

Id be writing a letter

Schools should not be banning foods to protect allergy sufferers, it flies in the face of the advice of every major body that advises on the issue, the largest of which is Allergy UK.

The school should have measures in place so that allergy sufferers can avoid allergans. We got our school's pokicy changed when they decided to restrict the diet of 1300 children in order to reduce the risk to one child.

When these kids go out into the world they will be exposed to allergens and need to learn how to rely on themselves to mitigate the risks.

Picklelily99 · 27/04/2024 18:37

The bread could be produced in an environment where nuts are also used

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