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To wonder what is dangerous about my child’s lunch

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NameChangeAK · 22/04/2024 20:20

I received a message from school today saying my child’s lunch contained a prohibited item and to please review the policy “as there are children with severe allergies and it’s dangerous not to comply”

I don’t usually provide packed lunches - DC has school meals, but they did like todays meal options.

Ive responded and asked what the item was but waiting for a response, but I’m confused - it’s clearly a nut free school but I can’t see anything else anywhere about other banned foods

the packed lunch contained:

  • ham sandwich (with butter) on brown bread
  • apple
  • frube (strawberry flavour)
  • carton of own brand apple juice
  • Pepperami
  • babybel

any ideas what could be the problem or Aibu to think they’ve mistaken the ham as peanut butter or something ridiculous?

OP posts:
PercyJackson · 23/04/2024 13:37

adviceaunt · 23/04/2024 13:36

Could any of those things... ask!

Thank goodness she did ask (as she said she'd done in her OP) and found out what it is several pages ago!

adviceaunt · 23/04/2024 13:36

DoAWheelie · 22/04/2024 20:26

Was it a seeded bread?

Good point

adviceaunt · 23/04/2024 13:36

Could any of those things... ask!

CelesteCunningham · 23/04/2024 13:34

CustardySergeant · 23/04/2024 13:33

Thanks, Celeste. I'm sure my ignorance of those cakes is totally due to the fact that I'm absolutely ancient. 😄

Lol, me too. Grin Must be an Irish thing! I thought they were universal.

Sadly, clearly due to be banned due to UPFs.

CustardySergeant · 23/04/2024 13:33

CelesteCunningham · 23/04/2024 13:28

Lol, does everyone not have top hats?!

These things:

Thanks, Celeste. I'm sure my ignorance of those cakes is totally due to the fact that I'm absolutely ancient. 😄

HappyEater · 23/04/2024 13:32

Theunamedcat · 23/04/2024 13:31

But does it have more than five ingredients?

Oh god, mumsnet crossed with Eddie Abbew. What fresh hell.

Theunamedcat · 23/04/2024 13:32

Needanewname42 · 23/04/2024 13:25

Good god why is everyone on their high horse about UPF????
Technically baby milk is UPF but nobody in their right mind would suggest parents don't use it.

Where have you been living? Everyone uses baby milk as a stick to beat people with

CelesteCunningham · 23/04/2024 13:32

PercyJackson · 23/04/2024 13:31

I have never seen these before! That's my lunch sorted...

Afraid to break it to you, but you had an empty, joyless childhood. Wink

PercyJackson · 23/04/2024 13:31

CelesteCunningham · 23/04/2024 13:28

Lol, does everyone not have top hats?!

These things:

I have never seen these before! That's my lunch sorted...

Theunamedcat · 23/04/2024 13:31

HappyEater · 23/04/2024 13:28

A MN dream… a big salad is fine, everything else is not.

But does it have more than five ingredients?

Gettingonmygoat · 23/04/2024 13:30

Snippit · 23/04/2024 12:28

Thank Christ I no longer have children of school age, it’s gone fukin crackers! Are crackers allowed by the way? 🤔

Probably not, too much salt no doubt.

CelesteCunningham · 23/04/2024 13:29

PercyJackson · 23/04/2024 13:27

Is UPF just the latest bandwagon for everyone to jump on and use as a stick to beat others with? It's never done in a helpful or educational way, just thrown in as a 'way too much UPF for me' dig.

Yup. Ill-defined and usually spouted by the "chemicals = bad" brigade.

godmum56 · 23/04/2024 13:29

Caerulea · 23/04/2024 13:24

@godmum56 not forgetting that by The Laws Of UPF wine & beer are better than a glass of reconstituted orange juice...

well that's true enough!!

HappyEater · 23/04/2024 13:28

PercyJackson · 23/04/2024 13:27

Is UPF just the latest bandwagon for everyone to jump on and use as a stick to beat others with? It's never done in a helpful or educational way, just thrown in as a 'way too much UPF for me' dig.

A MN dream… a big salad is fine, everything else is not.

CelesteCunningham · 23/04/2024 13:28

CustardySergeant · 23/04/2024 13:25

CelesteCunningham I'm so puzzled by the last line of your post at 10.07

"DD came home with two top hats, delighted with herself."

She came home with two of these? 😕

Lol, does everyone not have top hats?!

These things:

To wonder what is dangerous about my child’s lunch
PercyJackson · 23/04/2024 13:27

Is UPF just the latest bandwagon for everyone to jump on and use as a stick to beat others with? It's never done in a helpful or educational way, just thrown in as a 'way too much UPF for me' dig.

HappyEater · 23/04/2024 13:26

Snippit · 23/04/2024 12:28

Thank Christ I no longer have children of school age, it’s gone fukin crackers! Are crackers allowed by the way? 🤔

A gooseberry and cinnamon yoghurt wouldn’t be allowed! Hark!

ScrambledEggForBrains · 23/04/2024 13:26

I’ve got a friend who is severely allergic to strawberries

Needanewname42 · 23/04/2024 13:25

Good god why is everyone on their high horse about UPF????
Technically baby milk is UPF but nobody in their right mind would suggest parents don't use it.

CustardySergeant · 23/04/2024 13:25

CelesteCunningham I'm so puzzled by the last line of your post at 10.07

"DD came home with two top hats, delighted with herself."

She came home with two of these? 😕

To wonder what is dangerous about my child’s lunch
Caerulea · 23/04/2024 13:24

@godmum56 not forgetting that by The Laws Of UPF wine & beer are better than a glass of reconstituted orange juice...

godmum56 · 23/04/2024 13:16

Caerulea · 23/04/2024 11:54

@godmum56 nothing is wrong it, nor malt extract.

It's a food obsession based around privilege & snobbery. Yoghurt, for example. The vast majority of yoghurt has things added, especially low-fat. Of course, authentic Greek yoghurt tastes nicest & contains things that are good for you but it's also much much more expensive. As are most things with the fewest ingredients.

Sure, fancy sourdoughs are great (hate it myself) & artisan breads are all pure like our ancestors used to make but they aren't that fun to eat in truth & are rarely multi-purpose.

Normal ppl working on a budget just need their kids to eat & cannot afford the luxury of obsessively checking every single ingredient especially when most people don't even realise what the weird looking ingredients are or that perfectly natural ingredients have E-numbers.

In truth! The most dangerous thing we can do with food is burn or overcook it. Or in the case of meats, undercook. Incorrect storage & reheating is more of a health issue than if there is rapeseed oil in your bread. The whole thing drives me batty.

oh I so agree! I do think you have to watch out for high salt and sugar levels and basic stuff but there doesn't even seem to be consensus on what a UPF is. The silliest one I have seen is anything that contains more than 5 ingredients....so a pizza with flour, yeast cheese tomatoes and extra virgin oil is by definition a UPF and bad for you and a ploughman's lunch is not?

Lassiata · 23/04/2024 13:07

2/3 cubes of gruyere
Small container with natural Greek Yoghurt and a drizzle of honey

Pissing myself. My kids eat adventurously too, but this is so pretentiousness it's like a sitcom scene. Not to eat it, but to go online upbraiding other mothers because their kids are eating frubes and not gruyere... 😂

@EnglishBluebell there's a difference between processed and UPF. Important not to confuse them.

PurpleCacao · 23/04/2024 13:06

godmum56 · 23/04/2024 11:21

can I ask what is wrong with rapeseed oil?

My understanding is that all oils apart from extra virgin olive oil (which is machine pressed) are what most people would call ultra processed - they go through hydrogenising, bleaching, refining and deodorising, which are industrial processes.

It’s not that straightforward though. A bit of 100% rapeseed oil in your saucepan for cooking is, on balance, probably fine. It’s an ingredient. But for something like sliced bread, a cereal bar or fish fingers to contain rapeseed oil, it could be an indicator that the food is UPF.

However there is no consensus really on seed oils being UPF or not. Personally I still cook with seed oils sometimes. It’s not an ingredient which overly bothers me. I guess the key is asking yourself “is this a product that needs to have oil in it”.

CelesteCunningham · 23/04/2024 13:01

hartman · 23/04/2024 12:58

pepperami. choking hazard.

RTFT. Frube, serious milk allergy.

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