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Divorce maintenance payment extension?

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RestingWifeFace · 22/04/2024 14:39

Divorced for over 10 years and ex has been paying (parental and child) maintenance ever since we had the legal agreement put into place. Agreement states that it’s paid until the youngest child leaves secondary education. That time is coming very soon. AIBU to expect my ex to continue paying the/any maintenance all the time the children are living with me, even if it's not a legal requirement?

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purplecorkheart · 22/04/2024 14:57

I would imagine that your ex will now start paying his children directly if they continue with further Education. However I would expect the spousal maintenance to stop on the day your youngest turns 18 regardless of what they do. Do you work?

PoppingTomorrow · 22/04/2024 14:55

What @Sunnyday777 says.

Do you work?

Sunnyday777 · 22/04/2024 14:53

Surely once your children are at uni any help your ex might provide would go to them directly rather than you? You can’t expect to continue to receive child and spousal maintenance once your children reach 18. Are you supporting yourself? Do you work? You need to be asking your children for a household contribution if they are still
going to be living at home. If they’re going to be away at uni, then you need to start funding your household yourself.

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RestingWifeFace · 22/04/2024 14:52

PoppingTomorrow · 22/04/2024 14:50

Why might you expect it to continue?

Maybe if the youngest decides to go for further education

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BoohooWoohoo · 22/04/2024 14:51

If the kids are going to uni then dad will hopefully give them (not you) some money.

If they are going to working (even as an apprentice) then they need to pay you board if you need the money.

PoppingTomorrow · 22/04/2024 14:50

Why might you expect it to continue?

PotatoPudding · 22/04/2024 14:47

If the child is remaining in education, it’s fine to ask. If the child is not really a child
anymore and is now working age, your adult child should really supporting themself and contributing towards the running of the house.

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RestingWifeFace · 22/04/2024 14:46

Octavia64 · 22/04/2024 14:44

He is being reasonable to stick to the legal agreement.

Was the divorce settlement generally fair?

Is the child looking at uni etc? Sometimes parents will pay the child directly.

Thanks. We split the equity from the sale of the family home 50-50, and the payments were higher than the government minimums. If either go to uni, I am expecting some help with that for sure, and I am sure my ex will help.

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Octavia64 · 22/04/2024 14:44

He is being reasonable to stick to the legal agreement.

Was the divorce settlement generally fair?

Is the child looking at uni etc? Sometimes parents will pay the child directly.

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RestingWifeFace · 22/04/2024 14:43

Luckydog7 · 22/04/2024 14:41

Where are you? I've never heard of this kind of maintenance. Is this for the child or is it some kind of spousal maintenance or both?

UK - it's actually a combination of child maintenance and spousal maintenance

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Luckydog7 · 22/04/2024 14:41

Where are you? I've never heard of this kind of maintenance. Is this for the child or is it some kind of spousal maintenance or both?

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