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Would this upset you or am I being silly?

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ChangeyMacChangeName · 22/04/2024 13:13

Whilst cooking dinner I told my aunt a cooking tip. Perhaps everyone knows about it, and it seriously is a tiny thing, but something that works well in a recipe. I'm probably the last to know!

My husband leaned over and smirked at my aunty and uncle and said "for my next tip, I'll be teaching you all to suck eggs".

Everyone thought it was hilarious and laughed loudly.

I know its a just little thing but I felt upset and stupid. Face went red and hot. My husband said there's nothing wrong work what he said.

Am I overreacting? I can laugh at myself normally and do. I dont know why this upset me, DH doesnt normally poke fun at me in front of others - which is what it felt like. I'm being silly right?

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Mrsjayy · 22/04/2024 13:46

I didn't know about yoghurt in flat bread either.

Thindog · 22/04/2024 13:45

You can also use that yoghurt and flour recipe to make small dough balls and cook in air fryer.
(Make a little hole in the top of the egg shell , and a pinprick in the bottom , to suck egg.)

pensione · 22/04/2024 13:45

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Charming. No surprise that you’re ageist.

ZetuianRose · 22/04/2024 13:44

If you were just trying to be helpful, and it was clear that’s what you were doing (as opposed to being patronising) then he was being very harsh and I would feel just as embarrassed and uncomfortable as you did. He needs to understand that.

(I had no idea re yoghurt, as I’ve never made a flatbread)

Spirallingdownwards · 22/04/2024 13:43

The thing is you said he said it in aa jokey voice and they laughed.

It wasn't said in a sarcastic manner and they weren't then embarrassed for you or looked horrified at what he said.

So on that basis perhaps you are being a bit sensitive rather than silly.

Mrsjayy · 22/04/2024 13:43

ChangeyMacChangeName · 22/04/2024 13:29

It was literally such a simple thing, adding Greek yoghurt to flour to make flatbreads. I'm sure the world knows but I didn't.

He said it in a jokey voice and my uncle and aunt both laughed.

He unintentionally embarrassed you does he do it often ? A joke is only funny if everyone laughs you took it the wrong way and that's OK you don't have to laugh along, just don't let it hang over you.

nervousweddingguest · 22/04/2024 13:43

pensione · 22/04/2024 13:35

Yes, you are.

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you litterally called her partner a cunt and a twat! and made the judgemental comment that was clearly very sexist...

maybe her partner and his family are all fully qualified chefs! you've cheered my day up

FuzzyWuzzyWuzABear · 22/04/2024 13:43

ChangeyMacChangeName · 22/04/2024 13:36

I absolutely don't think I'm Top Chef or superior. My aunt and I chat a lot about absolutely anything and she'll often say random tips or things about cooking etc. I was saying it more as a "isn't this awesome" as it really does make lovely flatbread whilst I was cooking (something different), we were just chatting in the kitchen around me cooking food.

I normally can laugh at myself and frequently do. I was just trying to understand why it was so funny for everyone. He just came up to me and said I'm bring ridiculous for being upset, he still thinks it's funny and would say it again....

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I can laugh at myself normally and do.

So what happened then?

I think it's funny and I can't think of anyone I know who wouldn't at least just smile and roll their eyes, even if they didn't laugh.

benid · 22/04/2024 13:42

Thanks for the tip! I have greek yogurt and flour and am now going to do this, this eve!

PS your husband was being a bellend

EatCrow · 22/04/2024 13:41

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nervousweddingguest · 22/04/2024 13:40

I'm very sorry OP, you are clearly very upset by this comment that your partner has inflicted on you..

but really! some of the comments are just classic! and did you ecpect anything less? you want the world to validate that your partner is a DICK. well, by the end of this thread you'll have it

😂😂😂

BobbyBiscuits · 22/04/2024 13:40

If I was already making flatbread to my own trusted recipe, I wouldn't exactly relish in being given a helpful 'tip' mid way through, without asking for any input. It could be taken as, 'my method works better than yours'.
I would understand him making a joke as it could have been to ease the awkwardness. Maybe don't bother give cooking tips to your in laws while they're preparing meals in future?

pensione · 22/04/2024 13:39

EatCrow · 22/04/2024 13:34

Race to the bottom. 😁

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I think you both should get together with OP's DH, same puerile humour seriously, grow up.

sandalsinthebin · 22/04/2024 13:39

Agree it's a great tip. Unless your aunt is from the Middle East or somewhere where flatbreads are made and eaten frequently in the home I'd guess that she probably didn't know this.

saraclara · 22/04/2024 13:37

MILTOBE · 22/04/2024 13:31

I didn't know that and I really doubt your husband knew it!

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Yep, I haven't heard of that either. It certainly isn't on a sucking eggs level as far as I'm concerned.

I suppose it still depends how you said it, but I'd not let it get to you. He was being a bit of a prat, and if I was your aunt, I'd have handled it differently, rather than just laughing with him.

Tsulsaquoola · 22/04/2024 13:37

Is your aunt Delia Smith?

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ChangeyMacChangeName · 22/04/2024 13:36

I absolutely don't think I'm Top Chef or superior. My aunt and I chat a lot about absolutely anything and she'll often say random tips or things about cooking etc. I was saying it more as a "isn't this awesome" as it really does make lovely flatbread whilst I was cooking (something different), we were just chatting in the kitchen around me cooking food.

I normally can laugh at myself and frequently do. I was just trying to understand why it was so funny for everyone. He just came up to me and said I'm bring ridiculous for being upset, he still thinks it's funny and would say it again....

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Pocketfullofdogtreats · 22/04/2024 13:36

ChangeyMacChangeName · 22/04/2024 13:29

It was literally such a simple thing, adding Greek yoghurt to flour to make flatbreads. I'm sure the world knows but I didn't.

He said it in a jokey voice and my uncle and aunt both laughed.

That's a great tip. I have never heard that, so thank you. I don't think it's widely known in the UK.
Your DH was showing off. YANBU to give your tip. Don't let him shut you up. If he does it again, ask the aunt if she found it useful. If she didn't, so what? Just smile and shrug. I would've found it interesting :)

Andthereyougo · 22/04/2024 13:35

ChangeyMacChangeName · 22/04/2024 13:29

It was literally such a simple thing, adding Greek yoghurt to flour to make flatbreads. I'm sure the world knows but I didn't.

He said it in a jokey voice and my uncle and aunt both laughed.

I’ve never even attempted to make flat bread and would never know to include yoghurt. I doubt your husband did either. He might have intended to sound jokey but it’s the sort of passive aggressive comment my mother would have made and she’d have intended it as a snipe.
Make him a delicious chilli with the secret ingredient of senna. 🤣

pensione · 22/04/2024 13:35

nervousweddingguest · 22/04/2024 13:35

and judgemental too...

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Yes, you are.

nervousweddingguest · 22/04/2024 13:35

pensione · 22/04/2024 13:33

Let me give you a hint. The clue is in the word 'guess', which does not mean 'know'.

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and judgemental too...

ladyofshertonabbas · 22/04/2024 13:35

Not a hugely obvious tip… unless they’re all Greek?
but it’s just a joke, maybe slightly misjudged, I wouldn’t dwell on it.

NeedToChangeName · 22/04/2024 13:34

ChangeyMacChangeName · 22/04/2024 13:29

It was literally such a simple thing, adding Greek yoghurt to flour to make flatbreads. I'm sure the world knows but I didn't.

He said it in a jokey voice and my uncle and aunt both laughed.

I didn't know that. Thanks for sharing

EatCrow · 22/04/2024 13:34

thanKyouaIMee · 22/04/2024 13:31

@EatCrow

I should have known as I typed it someone would be waiting to one up it 😂 these people must be having horrendous Mondays!!

Race to the bottom. 😁

pensione · 22/04/2024 13:34

ChangeyMacChangeName · 22/04/2024 13:29

It was literally such a simple thing, adding Greek yoghurt to flour to make flatbreads. I'm sure the world knows but I didn't.

He said it in a jokey voice and my uncle and aunt both laughed.

That's a great tip.