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Would this upset you or am I being silly?

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ChangeyMacChangeName · 22/04/2024 13:13

Whilst cooking dinner I told my aunt a cooking tip. Perhaps everyone knows about it, and it seriously is a tiny thing, but something that works well in a recipe. I'm probably the last to know!

My husband leaned over and smirked at my aunty and uncle and said "for my next tip, I'll be teaching you all to suck eggs".

Everyone thought it was hilarious and laughed loudly.

I know its a just little thing but I felt upset and stupid. Face went red and hot. My husband said there's nothing wrong work what he said.

Am I overreacting? I can laugh at myself normally and do. I dont know why this upset me, DH doesnt normally poke fun at me in front of others - which is what it felt like. I'm being silly right?

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MadAntonia · 22/04/2024 15:53

Something does feel off here, OP. Your husband’s ‘joke’ does strike me as cruel. Are you sure he doesn’t have a history of this? Might there have been previous ’jokes’ he’s made at your expense that hurt but that you tried to brush off?

I’d guess that most people cross the line sometimes when joking around. The thing to do is apologise (sounds like he has) but also learn from it and resolve not to do it again (which he hasn’t).

If it hurts, it hurts. He’s in the wrong, not you.

Wornoutlady · 22/04/2024 15:46

OP I think it sounds a bit embarrassing, but sometimes a harmless remark rolls off a person, and another day, depending on how sensitive you're feeling, it sticks. I would try not to dwell on it too much. I don't think this thread is particularly helpful (in terms of some of the responses you're getting).

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 22/04/2024 15:43

I think it was nasty of him to make a joke at your expense when you said nothing out of the ordinary, and nasty of everyone to laugh.

I think the best thing in these situations is to say something in the moment though.

Crikeyalmighty · 22/04/2024 15:36

Well I didn't know it OP- so knickers to him !!

ap1999 · 22/04/2024 15:33

pensione · 22/04/2024 13:25

He was an absolute cunt.

Let me guess, you do all the cooking, OP?

Please stop cooking for the twat.

What a batshit bizarre over-reaction to a complete non event.

You sound like the president of the 'professionally offended' club.

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ChangeyMacChangeName · 22/04/2024 15:15

nervousweddingguest · 22/04/2024 15:05

😂😂😂😂

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I don't get it?

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Dartmoorcheffy · 22/04/2024 15:07

I'm a chef but I only found out recently that you can make flatbread wraps with cottage cheese and they are keto friendly as well as gluten free.

nervousweddingguest · 22/04/2024 15:05

SomeTrashBloke · 22/04/2024 14:51

Need you ask what I think? I'm about to self-appoint myself Chief witch in the 'Leave him Brigade'. Pack your bags.

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SomeTrashBloke · 22/04/2024 14:51

Need you ask what I think? I'm about to self-appoint myself Chief witch in the 'Leave him Brigade'. Pack your bags.

DrJoanAllenby · 22/04/2024 14:27

Aunt and uncle would have told him off if they had thought he was being mean so the fact they laughed shows you it was simply a joke.

EarthlyNightshade · 22/04/2024 14:26

Another one about to try this out, thanks OP.

The only way I could justify your DH comment is if he told you the tip in the first place and you've been going around passing it off as your own to your (and his) entire family.
Next time though, I'd ask DH for a demo on how to suck eggs and you "always get it wrong".

Mrsjayy · 22/04/2024 14:16

He is just miffed that you don't find him "hilarious' if it was a misguided joke then I'd forget about it, fwiw I wouldn't have found it funny either it was unnecessary to pitch in with sarcasm.

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ChangeyMacChangeName · 22/04/2024 14:02

Mrsjayy · 22/04/2024 13:43

He unintentionally embarrassed you does he do it often ? A joke is only funny if everyone laughs you took it the wrong way and that's OK you don't have to laugh along, just don't let it hang over you.

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No, he doesn't do this normally. It just felt a bit like people needing to tear a strip off someone to put them in their place. I wasn't trying to be superior, my aunt and I frequently chat about recipies and meals. The fact they all laughed made my face go hot and red and I felt embarrassed. We joke with eachother and have a great relationship, thus I found it a bit, well, weird I guess.

If I had said something and someone told me it upset them, I wouldn't then say 'well I still find it funny and would say it again".

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LadyLolaRuben · 22/04/2024 13:58

I'm sure you were just chatting and passing time.

Your husband's intention regarding what he said is key. Did he say it to rescue a situation, break a silence, be funny and it landed badly or to mock you? My impression is that you took it as mocking you and his choice of words suggests that was the case.

Do it to him back another time, see how he likes it. My guess is that he won't like it and he'll argue it's totally different scenario.

He's a knob

Elphame · 22/04/2024 13:56

I didn't know you could make flatbreads with Greek yoghurt either and am now going to try it out myself.

So thank you for the tip!

(I did know the Oxo one though)

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ChangeyMacChangeName · 22/04/2024 13:54

Thindog · 22/04/2024 13:45

You can also use that yoghurt and flour recipe to make small dough balls and cook in air fryer.
(Make a little hole in the top of the egg shell , and a pinprick in the bottom , to suck egg.)

I'll have to try this, sounds yum!

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BobbyBiscuits · 22/04/2024 13:54

@ChangeyMacChangeName ah, ok. Sorry. In that case it's harsh. But I still wouldn't be too offended. A lot of older people can't bear to be given 'advice' about cooking. My mum being one of them, lol.

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ChangeyMacChangeName · 22/04/2024 13:53

FuzzyWuzzyWuzABear · 22/04/2024 13:43

I can laugh at myself normally and do.

So what happened then?

I think it's funny and I can't think of anyone I know who wouldn't at least just smile and roll their eyes, even if they didn't laugh.

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I don't know, it just felt.... different. He just came to me and said sorry, he didn't mean to upset me and then said he would say it again however..

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Clarinet1 · 22/04/2024 13:53

Well, a lot depends on tone of voice.
However, if I were the aunt, I might have tried to diffuse the situation by saying either “Oh yes, I do that, it’s great isn’t it?” or “Oh, I didn’t know that, I must give it a try!”

BaronessEllarawrosaurus · 22/04/2024 13:51

I'm actually surprised by the number of people on the thread who don't know that's a good way to make flatbread.

PossumintheHouse · 22/04/2024 13:50

Christ, I thought you were going to say something like you recommended adding a knob of butter to the pan or that you should chop up an onion before cooking it.

I didn't know that you add Greek yoghurt to flour to make a decent flatbread. Surely there's plenty of folk who don't know that?

Husband's comment was a bit weird. I'd have laughed because he made himself look like a bit of a cock.

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ChangeyMacChangeName · 22/04/2024 13:50

BobbyBiscuits · 22/04/2024 13:40

If I was already making flatbread to my own trusted recipe, I wouldn't exactly relish in being given a helpful 'tip' mid way through, without asking for any input. It could be taken as, 'my method works better than yours'.
I would understand him making a joke as it could have been to ease the awkwardness. Maybe don't bother give cooking tips to your in laws while they're preparing meals in future?

I was cooking. We all were chatting about food.

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Italianita · 22/04/2024 13:49

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BobbyBiscuits · 22/04/2024 13:40

If I was already making flatbread to my own trusted recipe, I wouldn't exactly relish in being given a helpful 'tip' mid way through, without asking for any input. It could be taken as, 'my method works better than yours'.
I would understand him making a joke as it could have been to ease the awkwardness. Maybe don't bother give cooking tips to your in laws while they're preparing meals in future?

Maybe don't bother making snarky comments if you've not read the OP's posts properly?
(The OP was the one cooking, using her trusted recipe, not the Aunt...)