Would this upset you or am I being silly?

Not nice of him to make that joke. Also, concerning re the ‘sorry, not sorry’ attitude afterwards when he knew he’d upset you. Shows he doesn’t care much about your feelings.

I only discovered the yoghurt and flour making flatbreads around a year ago and felt morally obliged to share it with a popular Fb group I am on as I couldn't believe how easy and delicious they were so I think it's entirely possible your aunt and uncle wouldn't know this and you husband was mean saying that and you're not being silly.

I mean this kindly but IMHO you're being silly. But perhaps you don't banter with an around your DH normally? So I suppose is depends on what's normal for you. DH and I indulge in frequent gentle banter with and around each other and certainly with family and friends so I wouldn't think twice about this.. he would just get a laugh from me and well light hearted (eg bugger off!) type comment in response.

And we have a winner!! 🤣🤣🤣

I actually doubt they did know that.. as I think it's quite a new way of doing it

I mean obviously people have been doing dor years but how often do a lot of people eat flat breads. I doubt my parents have ever eaten them let alone thought how to make etc
Jamie oliver did then on his Air Fryer prog last night as if it was a novel way of making them and at the age of 50 I bought some yogurt today to give them a go.

It's always a bit risky advising other people on how to do something - when they haven't sought your advice.

Especially when offering advice to people who are older and more experienced than you. It can come across as a bit patronising.

But I guess it all depends how you phrased it. If you were excited by something you'd just learned and what a difference it's made to you - opening the way for aunty to also offer you advice, it's not a problem.

Maybe it's worth considering if DH has a tendency to rescue and protect people in social situations? As in, he was making sure a guest was okay, without thinking of the unintended consequence of making you feel vulnerable and exposed.

I'd discuss it with DH, just so you better learn how each other behaves and feels in social situations. That way you'll feed into each other strengths and be a stronger team socially.

You have lots of good husband material in a man who is sensitive to feelings of those people around him. He just needs to be aware that protecting you is his no.1 priority.

This only works for beef OXO as it is quite soft. The other ones are too hard to make this work.

oh please, what was the tip? I can almost guarantee i don't know it

My ex husband used to take delight from making me feel stupid in front of other people especially strangers. He did it in front of friends and family too. I got ,that I just ignored it. It's only one of many reasons he is my EX.

I cant believe the amount of comments telling you you're being silly. You're not- your DH set out to deliberately undermine you. All these pp's saying "we have a very piss-takey relationship" or "it's normal banter"- that's how abusive relationships start- every relationship i've seen where the couple behave like this has turned nasty very quickly. And women who "counter-banter/back-banter" are regarded as "easy", "common" and very lowly by men.

@ChangeyMacChangeName

I didn't know that either and would have been grateful to be told.

Me neither, so I'm noting that.

I read that adding full fat plain yoghurt to scone mix makes them lovely and moist. I don't bake any more though, because I'll eat everything in one session... 🌹

yikes.

now this poster is demonstrating what is a total overreaction.

Is your husband frequently like this?

I didn’t. Is the aunt a culinary genius? Otherwise it sounds like dh joking. I am usually robust and we are a very piss-taking family - but sometimes a comment just gets me. Usually because I have other stuff going on. I let them know they need to read the room but we usually manage to move on.

Don’t apologise & assume everyone else knows though.

i didn’t know the oxo cube one mentioned either - so thank you to pp.

He was being mean, especially in that context.

I only recently learned about that @ChangeyMacChangeName maybe 2 or so months ago. I'm sure many people don't know.

I only found this out quite recently on TikTok, OP. It’s a good tip and I would hate it if someone tried to humiliate me like that in front of people. If it makes me miserable or uptight according to some, then so be it. I can see why you’re upset. It was as If he was trying to say ‘’Haha, listen to what an idiot my wife is, she thinks she’s so clever’’ I’d definitely have strong words. What’s his humour normally like?

What a jerk. Ugh. Sounds like he disrupted the usual vibe in order to undermine you and make himself look amusing/superior.

He has lost something by doing this. Some trust, your trust in him to not be a dick, to be on your side, to tease you sometimes in a way that isn’t asserting dominance.

Oxo cubes never used to be sealed to do that though. You had to crumble it.

OP I think you're being over sensitive. I bet your husband didn't know that, it was a shit joke at your expense.

I would have wound up the tea towel and whipped him with it.

That's new to me I wouldn't have known
I would start addressing him as ..Oh wise one ,fount of knowledge etc
Take the piss out of him.

yogurt and flour for flatbreads isn't a "grandmother suck eggs" thing unless you are from a family that makes their own flatbreads every day.

I'd be tempted to be tit for tat though - when he comments on the weather say "and in other news a cat ran up a tree" and if he looks at you say "what? It is funny"

No you're not being silly.

What your DH said was actually quite insulting and misogynistic.

My DH can get it wrong a lot, but he would never take that tone.

Well, I didn't know it. Is it just those two mixed together?

I also rather doubt that your DH knew it, so he was being a dick.

@ChangeyMacChangeName did your husband know that tip himself? Does he cook a lot? Sounds like a mean comment to get a laugh at your expense.

I think you've been a bit overly sensitive, sorry OP. It was a joke with family, after all. May have been a bit different if in front of a big group of colleagues or similar? I'd expect him to be more aware of it in the future though, and try and reduce jokes of that nature, now that he knows.

Btw I'd never heard about the Greek yogurt either!

I'd have laughed it off & said something like ok master chef 🤦‍♀️😂