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To not want a photo of me in front of the tv

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Nopicsplease · 22/04/2024 12:39

Name changed as this could be outing. Last year, we went to my mum's to watch the coronation. At the very moment that the crown was being lowered onto the kings head, my mum asked me to sit in front of the TV so she could take a photo of me next to the TV image of the king. I said "no, I'd like to watch this bit". This made my mum unhappy and she sulked for the rest of the day. As it happens I had already agreed to have such a photo taken earlier in the ceremony, even though I was still in my pjs. A year later she brings this incident up in arguments as an example of me being difficult. In her view, it was selfish and rude of me to say no to a simple request and that anyone else would have posed without argument. Was I unreasonable?

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Nopicsplease · 22/04/2024 17:58

@Jk8 I mean I let her take a photo of me in front of the TV earlier in the day. She wanted ANOTHER one at the moment of crowning and to that I said no.

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Jk8 · 22/04/2024 17:23

Well ...... if you said you would do it then backed out because you got distracted/interested in something else I can see the point she's making

But the fact you even agreed to it in the first place.....? Quite odd

Noyesnoyes · 22/04/2024 14:00

🦇 💩 🤪

PamPamPamPam · 22/04/2024 13:52

Janpoppy · 22/04/2024 12:57

My mum wanted me to dress in a wedding gown and stand in front of Megan Markle on the TV. The photo is still on her mantle.

Yanbu for not doing it as it's awkward when my husbands family come to visit my mum's. And our kids sometimes tell family friends about my first husband, Harry.

Oh my god! 😂

neverknowinglyunreasonable · 22/04/2024 13:33

My whole family put on our best outfits and took a selfie while saluting when the crown was put on his head. Anything less is disrespectful.

PoppingTomorrow · 22/04/2024 13:33

The most bonkers thing about this is that it would have been and still is incredibly easy to do the shot that she wanted using an iplayer replay of the special moment

mrswhiplington · 22/04/2024 13:32

DanceMove · 22/04/2024 12:41

This is the weirdest thing ever -- your mother wanted to take two different photographs of you in front of the TV during the coronation? Was it a proof of life photo for a ransom demand or something???

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MotherWaver · 22/04/2024 13:31

My mum once came to stay, was fed, entertained etc for four days.
She then wrote via the post, to me - typed, two sides of A4 about my view that the gap between rich and poor was widening and how this was disrespectful to the boomer generation. And a throwaway comment I'd made three years previously about lifestyle choices effecting health outcomes.

My mum holds a very long grudge.
And then a global pandemic happened which meant I barely saw them for two years, which was nice.
I reread the letter every so often, it reminds me how bat shit she is and how careful I have to be to keep healthy boundaries.

Janpoppy · 22/04/2024 13:30

Nopicsplease · 22/04/2024 13:04

As far as I can tell, she wanted the pic to show future grandchildren. I dunno really.

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Oh gosh - I've just read your update about your mum wanting to show the grandkids the photo... I really wasn't far off! So sorry OP!

Nopicsplease · 22/04/2024 13:20

@Janpoppy and here I was thinking at least I wasn't the only one!!

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Janpoppy · 22/04/2024 13:14

Soonenough · 22/04/2024 12:59

@Janpoppy No way ! 😂🤣🤣🤣

You've caught me out 🙃

It didn't happen to me but I'm sure it has happened to someone! 😂

PinkArt · 22/04/2024 13:09

It's the kind of thing I can sort of imagine doing with a 4 year old, who is unlikely to remember that they watched a historic event. Not with a 30 year old!

Nopicsplease · 22/04/2024 13:04

As far as I can tell, she wanted the pic to show future grandchildren. I dunno really.

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EatCrow · 22/04/2024 13:00

Was it some kind of weird worshipful thing, you being her queen or something?

Jokl · 22/04/2024 13:00

How completely bizarre. Your mother sounds very difficult indeed. You were not unreasonable to say no to her weird photo request (or any photo request at all for that matter!) and it should’ve been just left there. To still be bringing it up a year later as ‘proof’ of your (according to her!!) difficult personality is completely unreasonable and quite mad.

Soonenough · 22/04/2024 12:59

@Janpoppy No way ! 😂🤣🤣🤣

Soonenough · 22/04/2024 12:58

🤣🤣🤣 Your mum.sounds bonkers ! Play along though for shits and giggles . Can you photo shop a picture of you and Charles for her ? Even better put a big X over Camilla on the other side? Add in the late Queen for maximum effect.

Janpoppy · 22/04/2024 12:57

My mum wanted me to dress in a wedding gown and stand in front of Megan Markle on the TV. The photo is still on her mantle.

Yanbu for not doing it as it's awkward when my husbands family come to visit my mum's. And our kids sometimes tell family friends about my first husband, Harry.

KittyCollar · 22/04/2024 12:53

Your mother sounds a very difficult woman

Nopicsplease · 22/04/2024 12:53

I'm 30 😂

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EmilyTjP · 22/04/2024 12:52

How old are you? Sounds like something you’d ask your 12 year old to do.

KreedKafer · 22/04/2024 12:50

Your mum’s mad.

Olika · 22/04/2024 12:48

I am sorry but this is one of the weirdest things I have read on MN. Your mum seriously needs to find more important things to busy herself with. I would tell her so. And go LC if she continues her nonsense.

Nopicsplease · 22/04/2024 12:46

I'm aware this is strange. I have a difficult relationship with my mum and my reason for posting is that we have been arguing a lot and this has been brought up again. No amount of explaining will make her see that her perspective is irrational.

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MidnightPatrol · 22/04/2024 12:45

OP you could make all her christmases come at once and recreate the moment for a photo opportunity.

Just get it up on playback.

She mad though, yes.

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