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No contact since his night out

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Poppy1997 · 22/04/2024 10:44

I’ve been seeing a guy for a few months and all was going well. He went out Saturday night and I haven’t heard from him since about midnight Sunday morning. Texts are unread and I’ve tried calling to see if he’s ok but nothing. He went out with an old friend who is going through a nasty breakup with a ex who is being nasty so he went to support her. Since then I haven’t heard from him. I’m also worried as a few weeks ago he was out and had a funny turn/black out/possible absence kind of seizure and was booked in for a brain scan. I’m really concerned something has happened to him or wether he’s gone off with the woman he was out with and is ghosting me. What would you do?

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MalbecandToast · 22/04/2024 15:16

Clearly a lie as your messages were delivered! Ditch him and move on OP Flowers

Tel12 · 22/04/2024 15:11

No, he definitely could have borrowed a charger. So I guess that you know what to do.

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Poppy1997 · 22/04/2024 15:09

I would have gone out but he didn’t ask me and then he was basically texting on the night out saying it would be good if I was there. He only told me who is with once on the night out but they’d definitely gone together. I don’t believe him at all no

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Smokeysgirl · 22/04/2024 15:08

I bet the "mate" he stayed over with was the woman he went out with. NRFT so apologies if you've already explained but why didn't you go out with them too, if she's just a friend? If she's going through a terrible break up then she might have appreciated having another woman to talk to.

TheShellBeach · 22/04/2024 15:07

Do you believe him, OP?

ThreePointOneFourOneFiveNine · 22/04/2024 15:07

If there'd been no communication at all I'd be worried something had happened to him, especially with the history of funny turns. I don't for one second believe his story though. Friend couldn't lend him a charger? I think it's your turn to leave him wondering why you haven't replied. Permanently.

EVHead · 22/04/2024 14:54

Yeah … absolute bullshit.

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Poppy1997 · 22/04/2024 14:49

Thanks everyone. I’ve actually just heard back from him

’ sorry for not getting back to you, I stayed at another mates house all day yesterday and my phone had no battery’

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GreyCarpet · 22/04/2024 14:15

Haydenn · 22/04/2024 13:56

A woman he likes is vulnerable and suddenly available and you haven’t heard from him….simplest explanation is usually the right one. I wouldn’t tie myself in knots trying to find excuses for him.

Move on

Yep.

I'd leave it now, tbh.

CoconutAmericano · 22/04/2024 14:12

He's shagged her.

Fuckstix · 22/04/2024 14:07

Can you see if he's been online anywhere so you know whether he's at least alive and well?

BaconMassive · 22/04/2024 14:03

White Knight riding, literally, to the rescue.

Haydenn · 22/04/2024 13:56

A woman he likes is vulnerable and suddenly available and you haven’t heard from him….simplest explanation is usually the right one. I wouldn’t tie myself in knots trying to find excuses for him.

Move on

awopbopaloobopawopbamboom · 22/04/2024 13:55

Yeah he shagged her.

MILTOBE · 22/04/2024 13:54

Can you see when he was last online, OP? If he's been online since then I would think he got together with this woman and is ghosting you. If he hasn't been online since his last message to you, I would have a look at her social media and see if there's anything on there.

TheShellBeach · 22/04/2024 13:53

I'd be suspicious that he'd hooked up with the woman again.

nervousweddingguest · 22/04/2024 13:52

Happybirthdaytotheground · 22/04/2024 13:49

‘If he wanted to, he would.’

Forget him and move on OP.

i know this puts this thread in a dark place, but ive known a chap to go out for a night out, girlfriend didn't hear from him as she would expect too.. phone was swtiched on etc. she reported him as she was worried, not necessarily missing but his actions were not usual.

turns out he's been to the pub, fallen backwards down the cellar steps.. mobile phone next to him... i think you can guess the rest

Itsneverme · 22/04/2024 13:50

Sounds like the other women has stayed over and as hard as it is to hear, he's always had his eye on her! His lose move on and forget about him.

Happybirthdaytotheground · 22/04/2024 13:49

‘If he wanted to, he would.’

Forget him and move on OP.

toomuchfaff · 22/04/2024 11:44

Catza · 22/04/2024 11:13

His phone is on so he is alive and well. Take a hint.

This is very true - if his phone has not died, it means its being charged, which means he isn't dead in a ditch or in hospital. If the messages are being delivered; and he is receiving them, then hes plugging that phone in to charge and hes ghosting you.

Namerchanger1 · 22/04/2024 11:43

Nah he’s done a runner, probably hooked up with that woman and not sure how to tell you

Twistingskies · 22/04/2024 11:40

As if people are suggesting to ring his workplace or the police to report him missing!

nervousweddingguest · 22/04/2024 11:35

just putting it out there... if this lack of communication is not usual, and its now been well over 24 hours... hes had time to recover from any hang over..

i'd be contacting either family or even the police to report him missing.

AutumnCrow · 22/04/2024 11:28

Can he see message previews on his phone without reading/opening the messages, do you know, OP? Like a ticker tape on the top of the screen?

You could send him something eye-catching.

’I’m ringing your workplace … if I don’t hear from you by lunchtime’ kind of thing.

Or you can wait it out.

TrickorTreacle · 22/04/2024 11:16

One word - men.

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