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To not go on holiday with stepchild?

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Ponnnder8 · 22/04/2024 08:43

My parents are taking mine and DHs child away this year on quite a big special holiday.

DH is now asking that whilst they are away, we take my stepchild away by ourselves, DHs son. I have said no.

I don't want to go away without my child and would rather wait until our DC is back and all go together. I have never asked DH to go away without DSS so I don't think I should be asked to go away without ours.

He thinks I'm being unreasonable not to spoil DSS this time because our child is getting a special holiday. But I just do not want to go unless our child goes too.

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Ponnnder8 · 22/04/2024 08:49

I don't see how it's any different to DSS going away with his mum and then also coming with us (as is what happens). We don't go "perfect, he's going away with his mum so we don't need to invite him with us then this year".

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Ponnnder8 · 22/04/2024 08:48

sarahsunny · 22/04/2024 08:48

I don't understand - are your parents taking your child plus one of your stepchildren, but not the second stepchild?

FWIW i think YANBU - I wouldn't want to go without my child either.

But why was second DSC left behind from your parents' holiday?

No my parents are just taking our joint child.

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sarahsunny · 22/04/2024 08:48

I don't understand - are your parents taking your child plus one of your stepchildren, but not the second stepchild?

FWIW i think YANBU - I wouldn't want to go without my child either.

But why was second DSC left behind from your parents' holiday?

Riverlee · 22/04/2024 08:47

I don’t see a problem with the three of you all going away together. Maybe you could do age appropriate stuff with dss which your dc wouldn't normally enjoy.

LittleMonks11 · 22/04/2024 08:47

Is it during school holidays? How long for?

Workawayxx · 22/04/2024 08:46

I don’t think Yabu. Maybe your DH could take SS away just the 2 of them even if it was a cheaper holiday like a haven caravan or camping. Then you all do something together.

MahMahMahMahCorona · 22/04/2024 08:45

How old are all the children?

Youcannotbeseriousreally · 22/04/2024 08:44

Nope. Thats not fair. You should take them all away at another time.