To think it’s rude not to wave your guests goodbye?

I don't like it when people do this. I appreciate the sentiment, but if I have a long (or even a moderately long) drive ahead of me I want to get settled in the car, sort my playlist out, sometimes I need to text DH or whatever. If someone's standing there waving I feel like I have to drive off straight away so as not to keep them standing about.

I think it's a generational thing. My MIL does it, so does an older relative of mine. I appreciate the sentiment and I'd never hurt their feelings by asking them to stop, but I'd rather people just shut the door once goodbyes have been said.

It depends on the temperature outside! I still remember my Grandparents saying 'pound notes out' whenever I stood with the door open.

Nah, I'm not going to fuck about driving around the corner just to appease some made up social convention. With kids etc as well and sorting out child seats that's hardly an option in any case.

Just say goodbye at the door and show your appreciation of their visit at that point. Job done.

I often think this too @JudgeJ . And like you; only 1 of them stands to wave me off now.

I agree.

Sometimes ‘old fashioned’ is the way to go.

We had some friends for dinner on Saturday night, they left about 11pm. They had parked on our drive.

We walked them to the door, saw them out, they got in their car, waved at us, us and them, and drove off. We went back in as their car was pulling away from the drive (they were on the main road at this point).

There was no tooting of horns or alcohol induced loud laughing btw. It took minutes if that. We’d hugged indoors before opening the door anyways.

I also wait to see people close their front doors if I drop them home.

What a shame this is thought outdated and just something old people do.

But you don't value their safety if you are happy for them to leave a safe drive and go and faff elsewhere, most likely on the side of a road.

Much higher risk of something happening faffing about on the side of the road than the ten steps walk to their car.

I live in the Southern US. We still do it here. Extra points if it's six in the morning and you are still in your night clothes clutching a cup of coffee. If your guests need time to mess about with their phones, radio, GPS, etc., you just keep waving at them until they are gone. Oh, and you and they loudly shout "Love you!" until they are out of sight.

It's old fashioned the only person who still does it is my 87 year old nana but I have to admit I do think its cute and will likely do it when I'm a gran.

How modern..

You can always drive out of view of their house, pull the car in, and then do your faffing.

I appreciate people who wave me off, and stand there and watch until I've gone.

It shows they value your visit and safety.

Fascinated by not want to be watched setting up all the stuff but then not really into audio books just turn on the radio.
I've always gone out and walked to the car and had this done to me when come for lunch and not gone till after teatime. But I'm talking not weekly visits but people who live some way away. Dropped in impromptu the other week for about an hour on an ex-neighbour, wouldn't have expected her to wait at the door or come to the car.

My guests just see themselves out 😂

We didn't really have guests when we were young, we weren't really home much at all to have any, so no "norm" for me to base anything on.

We will take people to the door, say goodbye and wait until they reach their car, giving them a final wave.
I don't wait until til they drive off as often people need to set their satnav and music before they go and it feels a bit awkward.

I was brought up in a family that always does this, and my parents still do. I have come to the conclusion over the years that it isn't the done thing any more, but I still feel very rude not seeing guests off at the door.
In a similar way, if I'm driving after a night out, I always wait and make sure the person is inside their house before I drive away - yet most of my friends think that's weird and just drop and go!

Mum & Dad always come to the end of the drive to wave us off, which has been lovely.
But last time I asked Dad (94) to go back indoors so I knew he was in safely before I set off.

I can't see the road from my front door but I usually wave from the doorstep and guests quickly disappear round the corner. I don't understand 'making sure they get away alright' if they discovered a flat tyre or the car wouldn't start I'd expect them to come back if they needed help.

I don't have any rules about it and don't remember being taught any.

Wow! Where do you live? I'm just interested.

I don't do it because I don't want guests to feel they are under pressure to go, my mam had a tiny car and I have a large concrete area for parking but she still does about a 50 point turn before getting out the drive. She'd be nervous if I stood there watching. I walk her to the car, hug/ kiss then go back in

Others have kids to settle, radio to get on, google maps etc.

My MIL stands at the door, so I get in the car and drive around the corner out of sight then set up my audio book etc before heading off.

My DH does this every time I leave the house. It’s really annoying. I set the sat nav, find audio book. See how long he’ll wait. I can only conclude that he wants to be sure I’ve gone,

My mum and dad used to do that, I loved it and really miss it! I don't do it though and I wouldn't expect others to, it's just not a thing any more

I think it might depend on who they are/how far they have travelled/what the weather is doing.

It's a thing I remember doing as a family when I was a kid.

When I visited my Dad we would have a hug at the door & he'd go back in & wave from the window.

MIL used to run down the drive & knock on the window for more attention just as we were all settled in the car & about to drive out.🙄

I used to but now it takes so long for people to prepare when they get in the car. It used to be get in - seatbelts on - drive away. Now it's faffing sorting out phone connections etc (I do this too, not a criticism). Also in the small child years it takes forever to get them in and organised.

Haha I thought this was an Asian thing ! We all walk our guests out and wave them off, it's pretty much the norm. I don't feel like it's rude if someone doesn't do it but it does feel like something is missing !

I also make my dc see off their friends properly in this way when they've been visiting. It's just nice isn't it.

I must be old school. I like to see them out, maybe walk out to the car.
My adult kids, 30’s, it’s bye mum, shut the door. Sometimes, I get to walk to the door on my own and shut it.
It feels like they can’t get rid of us fast enough

I really really want this to be true...