To think it’s rude not to wave your guests goodbye?

I don’t think it’s rude not to. As long as you say goodbye and don’t just slam the door in their faces then it’s fine.

But as a HCP working you aren’t a guest, I have a lot of HCP in and out of my
home at the moment following a mobility altering surgery, so I don’t see them out. At one point I physically couldn’t, now I could but I don’t because it’s really hard.

I hate being waved off. It goes on forever. Especially when you have kids luggage or both.

I agree, I find it rude if people shut the door as soon as we're away, feels like they can't wait to get rid of us.

I agree with this, nothing worse than being rushed to drive off.

I’d only wave at guests who’ve come a long way/we rarely see who we are very close with and usually only if they have kids eg my brother and his little ones who love to wave out of the car window

The trouble with people wanting to wave you off is that if the weather is poor you feel obliged to drive awY quickly then park round the corner and set the sat nav/ get your audio book sorted/ get out your knitting ( passengers only). For long journeys I prefer people to go inside so I can faff about in peace for 5 minutes

I do this and so do the majority of my friends & family, most of the time. I always wondered if it was a Northern thing but apparently not!

😱🙈 I had no clue that people don’t like this or that it is old fashioned! I think it might be a hard habit to break though.

You wave goodbye on your doorstep and then close the door so your guests can get on with their homeward drive.

I'll go to the door but watching them drive off feels like you are checking they have actually left

YANBU!
We always do this. My husband thinks the kids and are are crackers, and that we’re the only people in the world who do it, but it just feels the right thing to do!

Well OP I must be officially old fashioned as I always wave guests away from the door. It's just being polite really.
We all do things differently, I wouldn't worry about it if I was you.

Don't be sad, it's just not really a "love shone through" moment. A big hug before they leave is worth a lot more than waving someone off at the doorstep whilst they're trying to make sure everything's ready.

My dog loves nipping out the door when im standing with it open, as all my guests well understand and no one would bat an eyelid if i shut the door.

Its not rudeness. There are heaps of reasons why people do things. To keep the warm in. To calm kids down. Just say a nice goodbye then let people be on their way and sort their car out before they drive off. People on this site who are so self righteous about rudeness often dont consider that their ridiculous or old fashioned habits make other people uncomfortable.

Cars used to be a lot less reliable. People commonly carried jump leads, or needed a push sometimes. So waiting until their car started kind of made sense - they weren't reliably on their way until that happened.

Otherwise, if there was a problem, they'd have to come and knock on your door for help - but that would feel odd, because they'd 'left' and you'd moved on to your next activity.

I' m really surprised at the number of people who have to ,sort out their sat nav and give the kids drinks before they set off!
Is it not just an illustration that after enjoying someone's company they've got little things they want to do in the car to set off rather than feeling they've got to switch the engine on and leave because people are standing in the doorway waiting for them to go?

I'm more surprised how many people have said they think guests should hint or tell hosts not to stand at the door. There's a big middle ground between rudely shutting the door the second someone's back is turned and standing there watching the car whilst someone checks their messages, turns sat nav on, chooses their music or other small tasks just to wave them down the road.

What does it signify? I think I’d feel they were cleaning their doorstep 🙁

It is a tradition in the Balkan countries

I sometimes do it in the warm weather but I'm buggered if I'm standing at my open door while I'm freezing.

You run after the car?

How lazy. I was brought up to get inside the car with them to make sure they are home safe and sound and then make my own way home.

I remember as a kid when we were driving away from somewhere and being waved off, for some reason I used to say I was going to wave until we got home. Obviously, I never actually did. 😄

Same.

I love my mum and I understand that it´s important to her. But she even does this when I / we take the bus. So she stands at the bus stop doing her whole elaborate goodbye (wave-y, gesticulating, making a heart shape, air kisses etc.) and even nowadays it makes me feel so incredibly self-conscious 😅

And then I feel guilty because I don´t want to have emotions one might describe as shame or embarassment because she means well.
And because it seems incredibly silly to still be embarassed at my age... But I just am 😅🙈

My relatives used to do this. It always felt as though I was being seen off the premises! It was also embarrassing as they would come out to my car with me and give advice on how to pack it if I'd got presents or things to take with me. And comment on dog bed etc on the back seat and dog harness etc. And then once dog was fastened in and settled, say bye again to the dog... It was endless.
We had to do it if we had visitors too, growing up. I hated the standing on the doorstep in all weathers, watching people getting into their car and so on.