To think it’s rude not to wave your guests goodbye?

@Scarlet99 Can't you just respond with a wave, go on your way, then stop around the corner and do all those things that you would otherwise have done before setting off?

People do do just that. But isn’t it rude to pressure your guests to leave before they’re ready?

I understand but, at the same time, I think good manners are lovely, sadly dying out. Its out of caring and politeness that your hosts are doing this. Can't you just respond with a wave, go on your way, then stop around the corner and do all those things that you would otherwise have done before setting off? Or just say to your hosts "Oh, please don't hang around in the cold to wave me off - I take an age setting my satnav up etc and need to send a couple of emails before I go." No-one would mind.

I guess, nowadays with all the pre-mentioned gadgets to sort out (sat nav/music etc) it's probably best to give a quick wave and let them crack on with sorting themselves out😀

Sometimes new technology isn't easier and doesn't save time! Switching on an old fashioned radio just involves pressing one button on the dashboard;-) Even pressing play to listen to a tape or CD doesn't take very long!

I'm sixty and don't remember this being a thing among my friends and family. I certainly wouldn't expect it of anyone - once I'm out the door I'm heading toward my car, looking where I'm going, not looking back waving. If it's ever done at all it's more a mutual taking-the-piss sort of thing.

Everyone in my family waves visitors off at the door, it's good manners to do so. I think people who don't, must not have been taught good manners. We don't go so far as to walk them to their car, if it's not close to the property though.

Yes!!!! Totally agree 🙂

Gosh, I've always done this, but i'm in my late 50s, so maybe I'm old fashioned - it was just what i learned off my parents growing up. However there are occasions when it is freezing out and I have to close the door, but not before the obligatory wave. I don't necessarily expect it of anyone I am visiting though, especially if they have other guests still there to attend to.

I guess, nowadays with all the pre-mentioned gadgets to sort out (sat nav/music etc) it's probably best to give a quick wave and let them crack on with sorting themselves out😀

It isn't rude .

I think it's rude to stand at the door, watching them get into the car, waiting for them to organise themselves and then insist in waving until they are out of sight. When it happens to me, I feel like I have to rush, I start feeling overwhelmed and inevitably stall the car because I'm trying to leave as quickly as possible so they can go back into the house. I like to get in the car, set up my Spotify, set my satnav up etc, sometimes I might have to Google the address or whatever, I just want to do it in peace without someone watching me.

It's practically the law. Guests must also beep their horn and wave when leaving!

My 97 granny still insists on doing this. She stands with her zimmer at the door until we're completely out of view!

I used to, but 2 dogs and a baby make it impossible. X

I say goodbye, see you soon and shut the door. Excess waving and standing at the door just gives me more time to say something really awkward that will make me regret having the visitors over in the first place.

Like many, I hate this! My mother in law still does it. It’s not so bad now as they moved closer to us and kids are older (so often not with us), but when they were little and lived that bit further away it was awful being watched while we got them in the car, packed up and then tried to manoeuvre out of the tiny car space we always had to squeeze into on their road.

Please stop, you will be making your guests very uncomfortable!

These circumstances are unusual and I would never stand and watch people struggling with kids especially if my presence was adding to the problems. But this scenario was not part of the OP. If hosts and visitors are parting easily, on a friendly basis, I can’t see any harm in waving them off. I was brought up to believe it was rude to shut the door whilst visitors were still on your property, as it looked as if the host was glad to be rid of them.

I agree. I brought my son up to always go to the door when his friends were leaving to say goodbye. Once I visited my sister who I drove 7 hours to see. I stayed a few nights there then got up early to drive back to avoid a traffic problem on the way. I got up, got ready to leave and drove off without anyone coming to say goodbye or wave me off. I felt really sad about it, it came across as if they couldn’t care less about me. I personally think it is rude.

I don't like it. Puts way too much pressure in having to hurry up. Doesn't feel like a nice gesture that they don't want you to leave, but instead making sure you do!

Really disliked it when my kids were little as it just made getting them into their seats much more stressful.

I just don't get the "just stop around the corner to sort stuff out". Why is that not seen as rude? That you are so desperate for them to hurry up, that it's such an inconvenience for you that they should hurry up and pull away even if they have to pull up around the corner.

Peoples views on these so called manners are weird

I really hate it if people come out to wave me off-I need to sort out my car stuff etc.

Basically this. Or "it's a bad night,don't worry about standing you'll let the heat out"

My granny used to do it until we were the full wat round her square was so nice

I just turned 50 and I still do it as that was how I was raised and my teenage children are expected to do it too and they do. It’s polite and old fashioned yes, but that’s not a bad thing. We need to keep traditions going and I think this is a keeper! Those who don’t like it becuase they want to do their own thing once they’ve left…do it around the corner! The hostess has welcomed you etc. so finish the night politely. When I leave someone’s house and they wave me at the door it makes me feel they care as they’ve taken their time out for me- we shouldn’t be in such a rush as a society! Keep doing it OP

I agree that it’s the polite thing to do and I always do it and kind of expect others to do it and they almost always do. Having said that, you have to get in the car start the engine and drive off, there’s no time for faffing with the satnav or whatever. Which means you often have to drive to the bottom of the road turn a corner and immediately pull over just to set your satnav. Now I know people are going to ask “don’t you know your way from your friends’/relations’ home without a satnav. Answer, no, not for the ones that live in Manchester that I only see once every 10 years. And not for the ones who live in other parts of London where traffic conditions dictate you seldom drive the same route twice (thank heaven for Waze).

I do this. Well, I don't stand waving but I wait until the person is ready to drive away and wave once. With people on foot, I wait until they've walked a little way up the street, but don't wave. It seems rude to just go back into the house and shut the door whilst the visitor is still in sight.

Beeping the horn is really inconsiderate to any neighbours. Just wave and don't be inconsiderate especially if children may be in bed. Some people may be shift workers. The world doesn't revolve around you.

I don’t mind being waved off, but I hate the way my MIL will often come out and open our car door when we arrive. She opens one of the back doors where the kids are. She once did it outside a restaurant while the car was still moving.

Going against the grain, I do this and so do all my family 😁 oh and most of my friends!