To think it’s rude not to wave your guests goodbye?

@LordPercyPercy you have to hang out the window and wave while the car is still visible. You're there for aaaages if you live in a high rise, best make a cup of tea and take a snack to the window with you

This exactly!!

Another hater here. It makes me feel rushed and like I can’t sort out music, sat nav etc.

Plus if i’m parked in a tight space or whatever i’d much rather be able to manoeuvre slowly out without you standing there grinning and waving 😂

We see guests to the front door, kiss them, say goodbye and help or keep an eye on gates, etc., as they drive off.

Also do you guys do this EVERY time you have someone round? Like someone just round for a coffee, or after a play date? My friends would think I was truly mad 😄 what about tradesmen? 😄 at what point does not waving become not rude?

I don't want to be rushed off just because someone insists on coming and waving at me as I drive down the road.

I want to be able to sort my things, answer a few messages if needed, sort my music, make sure my phone is plugged in properly as the USB cable is a bit dodgy etc.

It's not that all those things take ages, it's that I don't want to be rushed. I also hate when people watch me drive as I feel really self conscious and always end up stalling or doing something stupid.

If it's cold, I say, 'I'll wave from the window' and will do just that.

Am amazed how many people can't seem to go anywhere without sat nav.

Yanbu
I've always thought it's the right, nice and friendly thing to do.

People shutting the door as soon as they can is extremely impolite imo.

It's also a bit rude to stay on someone's drive while doing these things.

Who says I'm parked on their drive?

Something grandparents would do?

My house help never does this. I don't think. Never checked to be honest.

In the summer i have no issue with it. In the winter, when my heating bill is ££££ I'm not standing in the cold and doing it. It isn't rude - one goodbye is enough!

Well why don’t you organise your route home/dinner before you leave instead of chipping away at another endearing memory your kids have of their grandparents.

My DM stands out in all weathers and waves until she can’t see my car anymore, bless her! I’ve told her not to stand out in the cold but she still does! I’m 54 and she’s in her 70s 😆

The modern-old fashioned way to indicate that you don't want to be waved off would be to say "Don't be letting all your heat out while we faff around with the sat-nav; we'll see ourselves off"

I was brought up to do this too. It's good manners. Good manners are dying out. Shutting the door as soon as someone leaves is like being glad they've gone.

if you really can't find your way home without satnav 🙄🙄then use voice control/ pull over. But seriously? How often do you need sat nav to get home?

We do this, but not to the point of waiting until people drive off, unless we're unlikely to see them again for a long time. PIL's do it with us, even though we visit all the time. Sometimes MIL will say 'I won't come to the door today because I'm a bit tired/sore/cold'. I used to tell her I didn't expect her to, but quickly learned that she expects herself to! There is the same tacit understanding that we will do it for the PIL's as they occasionally say 'Don't be getting up' with the obvious implication that we were going to and should🤣

Saying your goodbyes at the door is plenty.

I do this, and if I am the one in my car I beep the horn as I am going around the corner! Family tradition I usually inflict on my friends too.

I do this people have come a long way or are infrequent visitors. I do think the rise of car tech has something to do with this falling out of favour with younger people. Also when I was young there was probably a 30 percent chance each time that the car wouldn't start.

And where do you get the impression I 'cannot tolerate' it from?

Because you seem to be reading something I didn't write.

It's also a bit rude to stay on someone's drive while doing these things.

Only grandparents do this in my experience and it's really sweet!

I think it is because you cannot tolerate/be bothered with a behaviour that means something to person undertaking that behaviour. It's not like you are being asked to permanently change your lifestyle, just to accept a quirky bit of your hosts' personality for a tiny moment from your life

I do this, and am happy to either wait while people get sorted for their journey, or if they say Im going to be a while getting ready so dont worry about waiting then I wave until they get to their car and then close the door. It is smart phones that have changed things I feel. Why sit on someone's drive and reply to messages, other than something that needs a quick answer. I find that more strange than waving someone off

What is all the faffing people say they need to do? Car seats I get, but putting my destination into my map takes seconds not minutes. Does everyone set up an entire Spotify playlist before leaving?