To think it’s rude not to wave your guests goodbye?

"Making sure your guests are safe"? How hazardous is the journey from your front door to the kerb?

My in-laws do this and I don't like it, but I would never complain. I always feel like I'll make a driving error and feel really self-conscious, though in the 21 years I've been with DH, nothing has ever happened.

I always walk to the garden gate with my guests if it's not raining, then I turn round and head back indoors.
If it's raining, I watch them from my door until they're in their car and then close my door.
Everyone in my family does this.

My family are prolific wavers. It is quite cute now my parents are in their 80s and the kids teenagers.

I just drive round the corner and do all my faffing to speed the whole thing up 😁

I don't do it and hate having it done to me 😂

I'm actually pretty upset reading all these posts. I honestly thought that my love shone through to my kids and grandkids when I do this.

I still do this and most friends do the same to me. If I need to do anything when in the car, I just say I won't be driving off immediately and to go in, give them a wave and they shut the door.

I visited some friends I hadn't seen for over nine years recently, when I left, they both walked me to the door, said goodbye and shut the door. I have to say, I did think that was just really bad mannered.

As a guest it makes me cringe.

Only if guests are ones who have been staying and not seen often. DS cousin waved us off on Saturday but we only see him once a year so it’s nice. I hate prolonged goodbyes at the doorstep MIL and now dead FIL and SIL are awful for this.

I normally do but really wouldn't think anything of it if someone didn't. We always say to MIL who has poor mobility she doesn't have to come out to waves us off, but she usually likes to anyway.

Though it's also good manners if you are going to faff around answering messages, planning routes and wrangling children to say to your waiting and watching host to go back in because I'll be a while sorting myself, thank you it was lovely and goodbye.

I've said that to people before and they're still insisted on standing and waving which personally I do find really rude.

Waving in general I can see as being polite though personally I find it annoying, but if someone asks you not to and you do it anyway I think that's not very well- mannered personally.

My nan does this, at 87. No one else I know does. So we do, but only for Nan.

Other exceptions are when DTwins (little) are over invested in guests leaving, and we might lift them up to the window so they can keep waving. The guests are waving back at DTwins, not us.

As adults, if friends were over for a dinner party, we would all do our hugs, goodbyes, lovely to see yous in the house as we gather coats in the hall, and would only follow guests out to their car if they had brought something (spare chair perhaps) and we were carrying it for them. We definitely would not wave adults off and none of our peers would for us.

Yep, you’re old fashioned.

I must admit I do love waving guests off, though I close the door once they've got in the car given they may have things like sat-nav to program.

I think it's a nice thing to do given they may have travelled a long way to visit you at home.

Walking up any sleeping babies on your way.

Perfectly normal in my book 😊

I rethink your way is weird and it makes me uncomfortable when I’m reversing out etc.

I do it for a bit but if my guests are sitting in the car for 5 minutes, faffing around, then I go in! I'm sure they don't want me standing there watching them either!

I don't think it comes under the umbrella of "good manners". It's an etiquette thing.

Etiquette being expectations that particular groups of people have about how you should behave in certain situations. More often than not used to look down on or demean others if they don't conform to these behaviour.

Good manners would be not make others feel uncomfortable by continuing to watch them after it's evident they aren't just driving off. Though it's also good manners if you are going to faff around answering messages, planning routes and wrangling children to say to your waiting and watching host to go back in because I'll be a while sorting myself, thank you it was lovely and goodbye.

I have lovely memories of my now long-gone grandparents waving until our car turned the corner. But we didn't have satnav and sang in the car then. I still wave off friends and but not the plumber.

And if the guests are parked at the wrong side of the block for your flat, make sure you take a little chair so you can sit at a communal window to do your waving 😂

It's not being miserable to want to set off at your own pace without feeling like someone's breathing down the back of your neck.

Even in the days before tech, I hated it when family would stand and stare at us while we sorted the car. It just feels all awkward and unnecessary.

Totally

this is a reminder of lovelier times, great stuff. People are miseries now with their tech and “busy” lives.

It's just to make sure your guests are finally leaving and driving off, so you can actually relax in your own home.