To think it’s rude not to wave your guests goodbye?

My grandma (78) does it to me, which I find adorable. But if any of my friends (20’s, 30’s) did it I’d tell them to fuck off back inside 😂

It's a bit old fashioned. I would still do it for non-regular guests who'd come a long way.

I had to tell my Mum to stop because she has a very long tight drive to reverse down and having her watching makes it harder!

I do this, and I'm 38!

I actually find it quite sad that it's a tradition that's clearly going to disappear within a generation or two, judging my these posts.

Thinking about it... if I know you, and you've knocked on my door, I will wave you off! Even if you've left you car running to drop something off, I'll still stand at the door and wave until you drive off. 😂

ETA: if I can see you're taking awhile to set off I will close the door so as not to add pressure but it feels rude to do so.

It depends on the person in the car, some people faff and if you were standing outside waiting for them to go this adds unneeded pressure.

Agree with @valjane ! Feel a bit embarrassed now that I always do (did?) this! I thought it was affectionate but maybe indeed it's OTT...

Oh actually my mum did so this sometimes which was awkward when trying to put some music on or set up the satnav before driving away!

The only people I know who ever did this were my grandparents. Very old fashioned and completely unnecessary and embarrassing for all involved.

We do this for the elderly parents and anyone who has come from a long way except my brother who faffs for about 15 minutes before driving off so we just wave him off at the door quickly.

Local friends I just say goodbye to and shut the door.

The only person I know who does this is my mum & I also find it awkward!

This

And also has another op said . I hate it because I feel pressured and when I suddenly drive badly like stalling and things

Yes I was always told it was polite to do this and only close the door when they had gone. I do this. However, when we're at other peoples houses I say when leaving, it's takes us a bit of time to get loaded / seat belts on, etc - don't let us keep you standing at the door.

I don’t care whether someone waves me off or not. I’m amazed anyone feels so strongly about it.

This is the final stage of the complex leaving rituals practiced by my extended family since time began which have often annoyed me (and totally baffled dh!). It's old fashioned, presumptuous,. unnecessary and annoying. And now I do it too🤦‍♀️😆 Not with friends - although I can't bring myself to defy my upbringing and close the door in their face immediately I'm not a total wrong'un, I wait until they are walking away at least and give a final "bye". But I've stood shivering at cold doors getting annoyed at my parents/other senior family members for the sheer amount of faffing they do before driving off. Sometimes you'll get a "just go it it's cold", but I know very well to ignore that on most occasions... It's mad, and now I'm mad too 😩

We try not to, as it lets all the warmth out of the house and we live on the edge of a vast golf course and regularly have bats flying above our street.

In the daytime we wave people off!

We do this in my family. I rather like it. I’ll sometimes say to my elderly mom not to wait if it’s cold but she usually does anyway because she likes to.

This!! I feel under pressure to get in the car and drive off quickly, i then have to pull over again round the corner once out of sight to sort everything out

I always wave guests off and prefer if it's done for me. When kids were little they would also be brought to the door to wave ppl off (especially grandparents). If kids leave before me in the mornings I will also always kiss them and wave them off. Obviously if I get the feeling a guest doesn't want it or wants to fiddle with the GPS or whatever, I will shut the door. But otherwise I feel it's polite, like you're showing that you're regretting they are leaving, you are correctly accompanying them.

My family all do the waving stuff for f&f and then commit the cardinal MN sin of asking the DC/sibs to text me that they've got home (motorway journey) ok! 😁
I'm sure the waving keeps our nosy neighbour entertained as she's been seething that they had the temerity to park in the street vaguely near her house!

Why are you upset over what strangers think about something you do with your grandchildren?

People can find something annoying or unusual without it being a personal attack on the one doing it.

And yeah agree with pps it's annoying as fuck when you don't just want to hop in your car and drive off within two seconds. I want to get my music on etc.. not feel all flustered because I feel like I need to drive off immediately.

Depends who it is. Someone I don't really know well I'd probably come to the door. Not sure if stand there and wave them off into the distance though, bit ott imo.

My best friends? No I'd just say c ya from the sofa!

I hate it when people stand at the door waving. I then feel I need to quickly drive away otherwise they are just standing their like gobshites waving whilst I'm trying to charge my phone, find my sunnies to put on, sort the kids out etc.

Stop doing it!

Old fashioned, I think.

Cars are much more reliable these days, and as pp have said, once you get in to your car, you're often setting things up for a bit, so it would be annoying for everyone.

I go to the door and wave them off as they walk down my path, or maybe a few metres onto the pavement, but they're adults and don't need watching to make sure they're ok - if the car has an issue, they'd just come back!

Same thing as on a different thread with the thanking people for dinner parties - my friends and I all say thanks as we're leaving, and wouldn't dream of then sending further follow up messages or note later.

Manners have changed over time - my grandparents would have done the whole waving off thing, but I really think its time has passed now. And I'm 40s.

I don't because a) I can't stand for long, b) keeping the door open let's the heat and possibly the dog out, and c) being watched makes people feel they have to rush getting the car packed up and reversing off the drive and that might be stressful for them. I do often go and wave out the window from a sitting position once I hear the car start

You'd probably find that posters complained if their relatives didn't do this, too. Complaining is just a mumsnet thing. Even things that might have been mildly irritating about my parents and in laws were clearly done from affection so always appreciated.