To think it’s rude not to wave your guests goodbye?

We’re even worse… if guests come by train, we take them to the station, ask the guard to let us onto the platform and then when the train starts to move, run alongside the train waving and laughing 😆

Yes me too!...... but a bit older! However, if my guests say to go in I will do so, but it feels strange. Rather like.....thanks for coming and thanks for going!
I also was taught that if you drop somebody off after giving them a lift you should wait to see that they get in their house ok before driving off.

Aw yeah everyone in my family does this, but I don't think I'd do it with local friends. And I wouldn't walk to car if a distance away. But yeah family and relatives everyone has always stood on the doorstep and waved until we literally can't see each other anymore

My mother's vast family, all born in the 1910s/20s, used to do the waving from the end of the path thing and it always felt to me a bit like being "seen off the premises". I just tend to keep the door open until the visitor has gone through the front gate (about 10 paces, depending on inside-leg measurement) and then go in.

I'm in my late 40s and I find it rude to just say goodbye and shut the door, but at the same time I recognise that once people have got in the car they may want to set up maps app, check messages, get kids settled, etc. etc. so I stand at the door until they're in the car, quick wave and then close the door, so they don't feel like they have to drive off that second.

If they're struggling getting the kids in I'll either help if appropriate or call a goodbye (they won't see a wave as looking at the kids) and then shut the door.

I think that means that I won't feel rude just shutting the door straight away but also they're not under pressure if they need to get stuff sorted first.

We always do it in our family. I sometimes say not to wait if the weather is bad or I know I have faffing to do.
But yes otherwise it is the norm here, DD loves waving people off!

I don’t do it for absolutely everyone though. We live on a quiet tiny lane and a lot of people park further away as there’s no turning room. So we often just wave them off as they walk up the lane, but don’t walk to their car with them.

We didn’t do it when the kittens were little and not allowed out though as we had to keep the doors shut.

I always walk people to the door, and to the car if they need help carrying anything, but I don't stand and wait for them to leave in their car, I feel it puts pressure on them while they are sorting out the car/making sure all the kids are strapped in properly/faffing etc. I think it's politer to give them some space.

OMG I do this and I'm mid fifties, not 70s or 80s! I do it to everyone, I never realised it was not the done thing. I was brought up to do it and my mum, nana etc all did it. I feel really embarrassed about it now.

Woah, good horror film premise there! Not so good to instil that fear into a kid tho - must've made you think you had power over life and death!

My in-laws like to bimble about in the road, unpredictably sauntering in different directions near a moving car, waving and tapping the car as we drive off. Very relaxing.

I do think it's sweet when people toot their horn to say goodbye though!

Yes, always the norm in my circles. If there's a reason on either side not to do it, you just say 'sorry I'm going to close the door in case child/dog runs out' or 'you go in, we'll be ages faffing about getting DC in'.

This! My MIL does it and I appreciate the sentiment but when I see her a couple of times a week and only live 10 minutes away I find it unnecessary and would rather get settled and respond to messages before setting off. But as she's stood there waiting I have to drive round the corner and park up!

I think I do this

I really dislike being waved off, feel like I’m being rushed away.
So by your sentiment this is what you do, hurrying along your guest and not give them time / space to get organised for their journey.

As a guest I’m left feeling rushed and the host can’t wait to see the back of me.

it’s really weird and unnecessary.

I always do it - I find it really abrupt and rude when people just shut the door. If I need to car faff I'll suggest they go in and don't wait because I need to faff.

I do it 😁 I just think it's a nice way to say goodbye. I always say have a safe drive too, no idea where I got it from as my parents don't do it. I also watch for arriving guests so that I can be ready with an open door.
It would feel rude not to.
I also always stood at the door waving the kids off to school and watching for their return.

My mum (78) does this.

I drive round the corner and then get set up properly for the long drive home - Spotify on, phone charging on the dodgy cable, rearrange the car (she has opinions on what goes where)

Very much an older people thing.

I don't do it because I have having it done to me. If I'm setting off on a long journey I want time to sort the car etc without the pressure of someone watching me.

It’s a bit much. Good bye ! Hug! Byyyeeeeeee! Wave! Byyyyyyeeeeee! Wave wave! BBBYYYYYEEEEE!! WAVE!!

I certainly wouldn’t do it in winter! Say goodbye and close the door PDQ to keep the cold air out!

I was taught to do this and mostly still do. I have taught my children too.
My mum insisted on it because it might be the last time you see someone - borne out of a tragedy she had to deal with.

I’ve always been told it is bad luck to wave people out of sight; means you’ll never see them again!

I bet the posters who find it embarrassing are the same ones who don't open their doors to anyone unless they've had 6 months written notice.

It’s definitely OTT, my Nana waves me off and it drives me mad. I never wave anyone off, and aside from my grandparent, nobody waves me off either.

Aw no one I know does this, but my nan used to and it makes me feel all warm and fuzzy.

We've got two under 2, so don't faff with the door but do wave from the window! Think we will stand out snd wave once the weather brightens up depending on the guests 🙂

I always wave my guests off, and they do the same when I visit them.