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SAHM

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VGoghsEar · 21/04/2024 20:24

To think most women would prefer to be a SAHM given the choice. I don't know of anyone IRL that would choose to work if they didn't have to.

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Cherrysherbet · 21/04/2024 20:29

I loved being a SAHM. They were the most precious years of my life and I wouldn’t change it for the world.

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VGoghsEar · 21/04/2024 20:29

Would you all still work if you won the lottery?

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Bettyscakes · 21/04/2024 20:29

I tried & hated it! Lasted 9 months and found a job.

noshadowatnoon · 21/04/2024 20:29

I think most, but definitely not all

mynameiscalypso · 21/04/2024 20:29

God no. I can't think of anything worse than being a SAHM. Plus I really like my job.

Farmwifefarmlife · 21/04/2024 20:29

I’d rather work 😂 being home with two under two and a 7 year old is hard work! My working days were a breeze in comparison. I do run a business from home though so I guess I have the best of both worlds.

onedayiwillbecontent · 21/04/2024 20:28

I’d be bored stiff if I didn’t work. Beyond maternity leave, I definitely wouldn’t want to be a SAHM.

Twistie · 21/04/2024 20:28

No, I disagree - and I’m a SAHM. Some enjoy being one, some want to go back to work but can’t, others can’t stand the thought of being one for a multitude of reasons. Everyone to their own and no one’s wrong.

PonyPatter44 · 21/04/2024 20:28

Oh god no. I really wouldn't have enjoyed being a SAHM. I had an interesting job at the time my DD was born, and and even more interesting one now. I would have hated to stay at home full time.

However if I'd had a really dull or stressful job, and was a more maternal personality, I'd probably have enjoyed being at home full-time. Different strokes for different folks, as it were.

vodkaredbullgirl · 21/04/2024 20:28

Nctodayjan24 · 21/04/2024 20:26

I would choose to work every time.

Same here, did it for a month and it was hell, worked ever since my kids are now adults.

TeenLifeMum · 21/04/2024 20:27

I did it a bit because we couldn’t afford toddler plus twins in nursery. Definitely not for me. I’m much happier with the structure of a job and security knowing dh and I are together due to love rather than tied by financial reasons.

Nctodayjan24 · 21/04/2024 20:26

I would choose to work every time.