Horrible experience in supermarket

I'm sorry, the older men sound awful!!

The other looks and comments may have been meant to be sympathetic. But sometimes it doesn't feel like that when you are in the middle of it.

I've barely stepped into a supermarket since I had my kids (over 20 years ago). I never took them with me when they were small. Have you tried setting up an online supermarket shop? I don't think I could have survived the last 20 years of kids and work without!

I agree. The men wanting to ram you are out if order though.

Honestly. This is my experience every single time I leave the house. People are weird and inconsiderate. It upsets me
all the more because as a society I always feel we should protect the most vulnerable first (could be my catholic
upbringing/ convent education speaking here) but if you see a new mum with a tiny baby it’s like for Jesus sake be patient and be kind.

People are horrible my love. It’s not you. It’s them. I avoid supermarkets with my little one (also a new Mum). I’ve had similar and worse experiences since he’s been born. It’s hard because you feel vulnerable because you’ve just given birth and you have a little baby to protect. Which is precisely why people should be considerate. Always. To all. But especially to people who need it most. Sometimes I wonder if the pandemic made people worse at this. I think in many ways it has.

You are doing amazing. In case no one told you yet today and congratulations. People are nasty but it’s no reflection on you.

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Turn around next time and say what did you just say to a women who has just had a baby - did you just threaten to ram my legs with your trolley ?Do you have wives, sisters, mothers? And is this how you talk about them…and support them?

Someone isn't happy is sympathetic comment not a criticism, it demonstrates that they understand. It was said to me 25 years ago too

No idea about the men.

We've all been there op. It's crap. It's one of the reasons we did either click and collect or deliveries for years!

I genuinely found my two hated the plastic supermarket seat. Some things helped, taking a blanket to make it warm was one. If not, how about putting baby in a sling?

Do you have a sling? Baby wearing instead of in the trolley might make things a lot easier.

They were not threatening her ffs

They might have been airing sone frustration and a belief that op wasn't being very assertive in moving forward but if you take that as a threat you will find life very difficult

I'm sorry - the trolley thing was truly horrid, but as others have said 'Someone's not happy' is a sympathetic expression, not a judgement.

Sometimes if people are being horrid I'm having a hard day I have been to tell them so and my experience has been that people back right off when they realise they are being shits. This is one of the reasons I keep frustration in check when someone might seem to be 'faffing around' or doing something that annoys because how would I feel if I had a go and then realise that they were only inconveniencing me because they were experiencing difficulties.

OMG I hope you are OK. Please know that not everybody is like this, especially those two awful men! Don't let this put you off going out with your beautiful baby, you have every right to go shopping and people should be more understanding!

Horrible idiots. You did nothing to deserve that. I never took my dc shopping, or did anything when they were little on my own. I know it sounds ridiculous but something like these comments and the sound of my baby crying would have set my anxiety off. Well done on taking your baby out op, these idiots are far and few don't worry.

They we threatening to assault you in order to get you to do as they wished (hurry up) You should report them to the police. They will prob have cctv and will be able to identify

I agree the "someone's not happy" was most likely a 'been there, done that" sympathy comment meant in a friendly way.
The men on the other hand were total twats and hopefully will get the shits from whatever food they bought 😂
I doubt anyone was judging you because you had a crying baby. Babies cry. That's their job.
Focus on your baby, on yourself and your shopping. Ignore everyone else and ignore stupid comments.
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I remember when my DD was 2 weeks old being in Boots, she was crying, I was really flustered trying to pay in a rush and the shop assistant said “someone’s hungry”. Obviously she wasn’t to know but I was massively struggling with BF at the time and it made me feel so guilty and rubbish. I wanted to cry too. Everyone has been there but tomorrow is a new day.

Yeah i go evening now..i know people judge having a baby out at 6-7pm shopping.

But honestly, no panicking about parking, not as many people around, its so much more chilled.

Shes generally had dinner, in her pjs..so she either sleeps going around then when home as shes ready for bed i just pop her straight in cot haha

I use to end up going and leaving without half of what i needed as id be rushed through the aisle or get stuck if it was crowded.

Everytime ive tried home delivery, ive had rubbish substitutions, food that is out of date the next day so i just have to do another shop.

Oh sorry but the men comments were weird I do agree with that but the rest some people love to keep looking at a new baby and the someone's not happy is just chatter 😊

Sorry I can guarantee it's not judgemental etc. Your feeling emotional, it's a first shopping. You did well going out today I've got 3 toddlers and olders but I've never felt judged when these comments are made there pretty normal tbf. It will get better it just takes a few tries to get into your rhythm

The men were arses. The not very happy comments were fine. If you feel judged by that its your issue.

Forget you're a young mum, you're a new mum navigating the hell of the early days. I was nearly 40 with a baby and I hated it. The older men were dicks and just focus on how well you did today getting out house and to the shops on your own. That's a win. x

I hated taking my son grocery shopping at that age and started to do more online shopping.
But agree with others that ‘oh dear someone isn’t happy’ tends to be to commiserate. The men were nasty idiots - that’s rare fortunately. You and your kid have the right to take as long as you want anywhere you want, if they don’t like it they can go elsewhere or shop at night.
The early days are tough. So many new routines, sense of identity, mood all over the place, so so tired … honestly, it gets easier quickly as you get into the swing of things!

You are not rubbish, They are .

I've been guilty of saying "someone's not happy" and never meant it as a criticism, and always said with a smile. But the men definitely are cunts of the highest order. Try not to take it to heart it says more about them than you.
I have never forgotten taking my DD to Morrisons she would have been about 14 months and I was 5 months pregnant with son and she had a proper tantrum in the doorway, no idea why because she'd never done it before and these two older women were both saying "you want to give her a smack and pick her up" I just replied "if you want to get anywhere near those kicking feet you're welcome to try but i won't be picking her up or smacking her but thanks for your input". They slunk off, we weren't actually in the way so I just waited till she'd calmed down. No idea why people think it's okay to tell you what to do, if I want help I'll ask.
Sorry went off on a tangent.

See I think a simple 'Piss off' would be less dramatic and more effective.

Totally opposite of my experience, one of the nicer things I found about having my baby is that everyone is much kinder to you in public.

The comments were probably in sympathy. I'm sure the lady wasn't giving you a funny look. I'm struggling to understand how you were blocking an aisle with your trolley. Most people would say excuse me and move past if they were able to move past even if you couldn't.

Gently it sounds like you're very overwhelmed and hormonal. It would be a good idea to speak to your doctor if things don't settle in case you have PND.

It is harder doing stuff with a baby in tow at first. You're doing the right thing going out and getting on with life without hand holding from your DH. You just need to be a bit more confident and worry less what other people think.