Horrible experience in supermarket

Gently op, you need to toughen up a bit or you will never leave the house. Are you always like this - if so, maybe consider talking to someone. No one was judging you or giving funny looks - people are generally way too self absorbed. Two older blokes being dicks is not the end of the world - turn round next time and call them out for their shitty attitude. Get out there, live your life and enjoy your baby.

What? A supermarket is no place for a baby? What nonsense.

OP you do get used to it, my middle child was a terrible baby - screamed all the time and it felt so big and stressful and embarrassing, but mostly people aren't really interested so just get on with what you need to do. British culture is so intolerant of children and babies, despite them being everywhere, but a lot of people who have had kids will be sympathetic. I do remember once a woman did the 'oooh someone's not happy!' to me about DS and I said 'yeah, me. Do you want to help?' she soon fucked off.

Me too, the BB. 😁
OP, it all gets different for you with time! 💝

Perhaps best to do food shop when your DP is home to look after the baby. It isn't really a place for a baby, especially with Sundays being sooo busy.

"Sorry was I slowing down your access to iced buns and beer? I wouldn't want to get in the way of the comfort food you need to forget what a horrible sexist prick you are."
You are doing great OP so sorry you had to deal with that.

when I was with my friend the other day in a shop, her newborn was fussing. My friend said that everyone was looking at her.

they weren’t. Or if they were, they were trying to get a peek at the cute little newborn.

you’ve got this mama 💪🏻

I think the someones not happy is more of a conversation starter and showing sympathy as we've all been there. But the men I would have had to say something as that isn't ok

Yes exactly. people are just acknowledging that baby isn't happy, it's some people's way of sympathizing.

I still get it and my child is not even a baby but he's in primary school so they think he should know better than to stand still infront of the trolley when he is looking at things on the shelf. Sometimes he doesnt click he is in the way till someone kindly says excuse me and then he will move. (I clearly tell him to move to the side so people can pass ..he is SEN) but they think he should automatically react and move people are so impatient.
Even when I apologise I get the tut and the eye roll as if I can't handle my child.

The men were arseholes, and cowards. You can bet your life they wouldn't have said that if you'd been a 6ft 2, 16 stone bloke. Don't give them a second thought.

I had 3 under 3 and generally had positive experiences out and about. It helps to just focus on you, your dcs and the job in hand - try and shut out any tuts or raised eyebrows. A busy supermarket at the weekend can test a lot of people's patience so, if you can, try and shop at quieter times while you find your 'mum' feet.

I still vividly remember carrying one of mine, screaming til the roof tiles rattled, out of waitrose (the horror!) under my arm, completely stiff like a plank of wood. I was mortified and trying to avoid making eye contact with anyone, but a couple of people did catch my eye and just smiled sympathetically.

Chin up, OP, and don't worry about it

Please don't let those nasty arseholes put you off. I found the majority of people lovely when mine were newborns. You just got unlucky that time.

What @CherryBlossom321 said

You poor thing 💐

Op it says far more about them than it does about you. Ignore these awful misogynistic men.

Yes because finding your phone, engaging with bolshy strangers and threatening the police is a sensible choice for someone struggling with a crying young baby on a supermarket outing in which they are already stressed

That's not normal behaviour

It's misogyny.

It's taking a woman down a peg, lest she get notions of her own strength.

The newborn stage can be overwhelming op, and some situations have us closer to the edge than others! Supermarket shopping alone with a new baby is an impressive feat only recognised by those who have been there. You did great and I'm sure you're doing great. Heed the advice if other posters - fuck 'em, concentrate on your baby and yourself and fuck the miserable bastards. ❤️

You poor thing OP. You did amazingly just to be out and in the supermarket with such a tiny baby! (Though I highly recommend switching to online deliveries until they are old enough to sit up in the trolley and enjoy a shopping trip. It's just far too stressful- not that it should be!) What horrible men.

Please don't waste time reporting this to the police they will not be interested.

The men were arsehokes

Most other people were probably sympathising.

Most people don't care or aren't interested and are very unlikto be judging. Judging you for what?.

I find this a lot. Why do you think this is? Horrendous.

Some people are lovely when you have a new baby, others are shit bags
You have every right to go at your own pace, maybe if you take your baby in the car seat, and if you have a hood that comes over and attaches to the handle, use this, if your baby is looking at bright lights it may be a bit uncomfortable. Take distraction toys (attached to the car seat handle so you don't lose them) and feed just before you go so they're fed, changed and hopefully snoozy.
Good luck and enjoy your baby, don't let others spoil anything g for you. Oh and don't forget that you hear your baby much louder than other people as that's how we're designed, just take it all in your stride 😊

People can be so vile. I remember that raw new mum feeling very well.
Take care and try to go shopping when it's quieter if you can - not meaning to judge at all, just wishing you an easier shop.

Found this too. I loved the pram pushing days. People very kind and helpful, holding doors open etc and also lots of people keen to chat about baby and coo over him.

Absolutely this!
I had the same experience.
Just ignore them, @Sally922