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To do this at a child's party where I was the facepainter

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BrickTraybake · 21/04/2024 13:30

I am trying to establish a small business as a facepainter just to earn a little extra money.

Yesterday I did a childs birthday party for one of the mums at my DSS's school. I did it at a discount price for her as she said she would recommend me to all the other mums and she is the PTA and said she can get me a slot at school fairs.

I have a system where I get the children interested in having their facepainted to write down their name on the list and then I call them when it's their turn so there's not loads of bored kids queueing. The parents sign next to the child's name to say they consent to me painting their face and then they tick a box if they consent to me using images for promotion. It's worked well so far.

So yesterday one mum puts a massive X in the photo consent box and writes next to it NO PHOTOS NO SOCIAL MEDIA!! fair enough.

When it came to that child's turn, I wrote next to her name "pink Tshirt" just to remind me of who she was in case I accidently got her in the background of a pic.

Mum paid up, everyone happy. Then later on Facebook I saw her post thanking everyone for coming to the party and the mum of pink t-shirt girl wrote underneath "thanks for inviting us! Shame facepainter wrote down details of what my child was wearing?? Bit odd 😂" and the mum shock-reacted it.

I'm so upset. I was so looking forward to hopefully getting more party bookings and a place at the school fairs. This was only my third party and now I'm worried this mum will gossip that I'm a wierdo and I won't get any more.

Was I in the wrong? Should I reply??

OP posts:
FuzzyWuzzyWuzABear · 21/04/2024 13:37

Yeah, just a brief explanation and then forget about it.

You're working with the public now and the public can be weird 🤷‍♂️

BaronessBomburst · 21/04/2024 13:36

Just explain.
@Bluebellsinthesun post is perfect as it's factual, neutral, and professional.
You'd actually go up in my estimation, not down.

patchworkpal · 21/04/2024 13:36

Bluebellsinthesun · 21/04/2024 13:32

Just reply ‘it was for my own record to identify your dd so I could adhere to your request for no photos / SM’

I agree, I'd write that sometimes you write down outfits so you can comply with any requests to make sure that child isn't in any social media/advertising materials

YeahComeOnThen · 21/04/2024 13:35

You're going to need to toughen up.

Just reply with what @Bluebellsinthesun said.

purpleme12 · 21/04/2024 13:34

Of course you should reply explaining

NotaNorovirusFan · 21/04/2024 13:34

Just explain why you did it in a very non confrontational manner.

Smartiepants79 · 21/04/2024 13:33

Just explain.
You had a very valid reason and this mother sounds very weird.

InAMillion · 21/04/2024 13:32

Obviously explain why you wrote it in detail

Bluebellsinthesun · 21/04/2024 13:32

Just reply ‘it was for my own record to identify your dd so I could adhere to your request for no photos / SM’

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