Birthday play death

I’ll start off by saying I’m not going as my mum died last year too.

having said that, it’s the hottest ticket around, scooped some top Olivier awards, has had rave 5 star reviews from all the papers and is one of the best plays on the west end this year. It’s a top director and a stellar cast.

so if my dh did this I would give him the benefit of the doubt that he spent several hundred pounds securing a special event and hadn’t fully grasped the content.

was very interested that @LaurieFairyCake didnt like it. A lot of my circle of friends who are regular theatre goers raved about it. What was dreadful - script / acting / direction?

Does he fancy one of the women appearing in it? That’d be my first thought😂

That’s very thoughtless. I’d definitely not go and I’d tell him that ‘his birthday treat’ for me was anything but.

Not sure that tickets were selling superfast - I got offered some on a discounted ticket app.
He should have asked if you wanted to see it, given the synopsis and recent experience with you DM.

Don’t go.

I've seen it and can reassure you it's not about the mum dying at all - you don't see her dying, she's only in it as a younger mum (who causes damage to her daughters)

She's upstairs doing/saying nothing - all action is centered on the daughters now and in the past

You see the main event only in flashback - trust me you will have little sympathy or empathy for the mum - I guarantee she will be far removed from your lovely mum

However, on a side note - the play is dreadful . I go every month to the theatre and this is my worst one of last 18 months

Read a full synopsis, iy looks very interesting, and is not macabre.

It’s not the best choice that’s for sure.

It does sound from reading about it as if the dying mother is a plot device to get the sisters back under one roof and the play is more about them though.

Can understand how you feel though. Could you suggest he sees it with someone else and do something different for your birthday?

I don't think I could've seen that so soon after my own mums death. I'd have ruined it for everyone by sobbing!

It would have been nice for him to have checked the content with you first, maybe he just saw it was a Sam Mendez play around your birthday and jumped on the tickets which presumably went quite fast? (Being charitable but I often go to plays I am not quite sure of the synopsis of).

YANBU, that’s awful.

There’s no way I would go and I would make zero effort for his birthday anymore.

He hasn't bought you a gift. It is for him. And it's inappropriate to suggest you go at all, never mind for your birthday.

It's definitely thoughtless! And also looks like a present he'd choose for himself, rather than one for you.