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Therapist keeps asking for photographs?

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RhapsodyinBlue2 · 21/04/2024 12:34

I started therapy three years ago, after my husband died, and my therapist has always been there for me, which I really appreciate. But she regularly asks for photographs, for example, of my children. And now I have started a new relationship, very early days, and stirring up a lot of emotions for me, although he is genuinely lovely and caring - and she keeps asking for a photograph of him. He is a very private person and I am not really comfortable at sharing a photo and I just say I idon't have one - but also thinking is this normal?

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WhatThenEh · 21/04/2024 12:48

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Crapuscular · 21/04/2024 12:47

That doesn't sit right with me at all.

noctilucentcloud · 21/04/2024 12:46

No I don't think this is normal. Even if it helps her I don't think its appropriate and especially as you are uncomfortable about it. Is she registered with a professional body? Or was your therapy arranged through an organisation?

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RhapsodyinBlue2 · 21/04/2024 12:44

I think she believes that she can understand the situation better if she can see images of the people involved.

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fieldsofbutterflies · 21/04/2024 12:43

This seems incredibly inappropriate to me. I would be looking for a new therapist.

Notimeforaname · 21/04/2024 12:42

What's the reason they are giving for needing the photos?

Redshoeblueshoe · 21/04/2024 12:40

Maybe it's time to re-assess if you still need therapy.

Justkeepingplatesspinning · 21/04/2024 12:39

I had therapy on and off for 5 years with the same person. She never asked much of anything about my partner or children, other than occasionally asking safeguarding questions relating to whether my parents were ever allowed near them (no they weren't).
This would be ringing lots of alarm bells about crossing boundaries.

IncompleteSenten · 21/04/2024 12:38

No it is not normal.
You should ask her "why do you need photographs?"

Then find a different therapist.

LetsGoRoundTheRoundabout · 21/04/2024 12:37

What type of therapy?

Sounds very inappropriate to me.

loropianalover · 21/04/2024 12:37

What type of therapy is it?

I would find this strange too and wouldn’t want to share photographs.

Beeebabababom · 21/04/2024 12:36

What's preventing you from telling the therapist how you feel about it sharing photos?

MaidenheadRevisited · 21/04/2024 12:36

It's absolutely not appropriate for your therapist to be asking for photographs. In what context does she do it? Does she give a reason for asking?

W0tnow · 21/04/2024 12:35

The obvious question is….why? Have you asked?