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I don't really understand getting married

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Springisnear4 · 21/04/2024 08:24

I don't really understand the point of it other than it being a party and you get presents. I know some people do it on a budget but generally you spend loads of money, is it about showing your love to the world? I don't know, I don't get it.

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thanKyouaIMee · 21/04/2024 08:31

I mean it's a legally binding commitment and also (for me!) a religious commitment before god.

It's not really just a party with presents, that's a birthday, not a wedding!

Perhaps you've not met someone yet that you feel that way about? Perhaps marriage isn't for you?

Youdontevengohere · 21/04/2024 08:30

Marriage is a legal contract, under which the parties have certain rights and are subject to certain obligations. The wedding is the party, not the marriage.

BippityBopper · 21/04/2024 08:30

How old are you @Springisnear4?

Solgrass · 21/04/2024 08:29

OP you sound very young

BusyCM · 21/04/2024 08:29

It's a commitment. A legally binding contractual commitment of your relationship. It gives both parties protection in law for your financial stability and is proven to be more stable for children of that relationship (parents who are married are less likely to split than those not married).

EggChair · 21/04/2024 08:29

That’s a very naive post. It’s a legal contract. You can draw up a document separately which includes most but not all similar rights, protections and entitlements, but simpler just to marry. Party not necessary. We just had two witnesses.

MyOtherCarisAVauxhallZafira · 21/04/2024 08:28

🙄 try harder

Whateveer · 21/04/2024 08:28

I didnt have a party at all, nor get presents from most people as we eloped. We done it because we wanted to be husband and wife, simple.

Hopingforno2in2024 · 21/04/2024 08:27

Fundamentally it is a legal contract which grants certain rights and contains certain conditions. Everyone should read up on what those rights and conditions are and decide whether the contract is the right decision for them.

Obviously for some people it also has religious meaning.

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