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To be shocked not to be told trans student sharing bedroom on school trips

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rosesrredviolets · 20/04/2024 19:10

DD aged 15 shared a bedroom with a trans girl (born a boy) on a school trip. Dd only found out the sleeping arrangements whilst on the trip and we only found out later. I presumed that trans students would have their own bedrooms at this age. Am shocked not to have at least been asked by school in advance. However it would appear that the policy given to schools is that sharing is fine.

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WittiestUsernameEver · 20/04/2024 19:17

They shouldn't have allowed a boy to share with a girl. The boy should have been with buys or on his own.

YABU to think they should all get their own rooms though.

saoirse31 · 20/04/2024 19:17

Crazy. Essentially your dd is sharing room with a boy, which would not normally be accepted. I would have thought that current change in attitudes would have made that unacceptable.

SilverBranchGoldenPears · 20/04/2024 19:15

It’s decidedly odd that they only told you all the arrangements after the start of the trip which implies to me that they knew they’d get backlash.

Has the trans girl been trans for long? Have they been on puberty blockers throughout puberty? These things make a difference - or are we talking about a male person who has and is going through puberty and is stronger and bigger than the girls in the room with the requisite urges that come with it? It’s hard to say anything but if it makes you uncomfortable then you have every right to say it. Your DDs comfort and safety are as important as the transgirl‘s safety. And if they aren’t ok in a room with males then there is no reason why the girls should also be accepting of it either.

helpfulperson · 20/04/2024 19:13

For all those who criticise Scotland this wouldn't be OK under their guidance but is fine under old English guidance. I haven't read the new one.