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Imtotallybored · 20/04/2024 23:53

DAZZlanch · 20/04/2024 23:14

Meaning, women can’t wear what they want. Because women are held to standards of accountability for their dress in ways men aren’t time and time again. It’s boring. If it offends you that much, move further away.

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Of course women can wear what they want but it is ridiculous to expect people seeing them not to have some form of opinion on what they see. Especially when a lot of clothing is designed and worn with the express purpose of inviting people to look at them.
There wouldn't be a fashion industry if people didn't have opinions on clothes.

DAZZlanch · 20/04/2024 23:53

CulturalNomad · 20/04/2024 23:45

Unless they figure out some way to prosecute ogling then the pervy men that walk amongst us will indeed go Scot free.

As a parent I did as much as I could to prevent my underage child wearing clothing designed to be "sexy" or to draw attention to themselves in a sexual manner. Protecting children is what parents do.

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Cool. You do you. I protect my children too. In a different way to you but that’s ok.

mitogoshi · 20/04/2024 23:52

There's a woman locally that wears flesh coloured ones (leggings no shorts) they look ridiculous basically

Boombatty · 20/04/2024 23:51

DAZZlanch · 20/04/2024 23:42

Not what I said. Just move. Jeeeesusss.

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I wouldn't be able to move without swapping space with someone else. And anyway, I never said I was offended by looking at it or needed to move away from it. Was just surprised by an anus appearing unexpectedly in front of my face so commented on it here.

CulturalNomad · 20/04/2024 23:45

DAZZlanch · 20/04/2024 23:31

But still, the pervy man gets away Scot free. Interesting.

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Unless they figure out some way to prosecute ogling then the pervy men that walk amongst us will indeed go Scot free.

As a parent I did as much as I could to prevent my underage child wearing clothing designed to be "sexy" or to draw attention to themselves in a sexual manner. Protecting children is what parents do.

DAZZlanch · 20/04/2024 23:42

AliciaCared · 20/04/2024 23:40

Haha. Yeah, stop the yoga class and ask if anyone would like to swap places with you, as you don't want to be looking up at this lady's arse crack.

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Not what I said. Just move. Jeeeesusss.

DAZZlanch · 20/04/2024 23:41

Soontobe60 · 20/04/2024 23:33

Do you think it’s Ok for adults who are responsible for children to allow them to wear sexualised clothing whose main purpose is to attract attention?

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No. I don’t. But I still don’t think the child should be held accountable. HTH.

AliciaCared · 20/04/2024 23:40

DAZZlanch · 20/04/2024 23:14

Meaning, women can’t wear what they want. Because women are held to standards of accountability for their dress in ways men aren’t time and time again. It’s boring. If it offends you that much, move further away.

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Haha. Yeah, stop the yoga class and ask if anyone would like to swap places with you, as you don't want to be looking up at this lady's arse crack.

ThrillhouseVanHouten · 20/04/2024 23:38

I waited decades for big bums to be fashionable - damn right I have a pair. I wear them to the gym and around the house, mostly for DP’s pleasure 🤣

StormingNorman · 20/04/2024 23:37

I always feel like such a perv just glancing in the direction of someone wearing these 😂

And those Gym Shark leggings that magnify the vag 😂

Iaskedyouthrice · 20/04/2024 23:36

Boombatty · 20/04/2024 23:28

Well yes but when stretched during cat/cow I can assure you that the anus in question was most definitely highlighted!

😁 yes, I can see why you would concentrate on the anus showing part of the leggings if there was one there right in front of you.

Boombatty · 20/04/2024 23:34

She can't have been wearing pants. The leggings were light grey. Maybe they were a cheap pair so thinner than they should be, I don't know. Poor woman probably had no idea either.

Soontobe60 · 20/04/2024 23:33

DAZZlanch · 20/04/2024 23:15

Nope. Still placing the responsibility on the child. Try again.

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Do you think it’s Ok for adults who are responsible for children to allow them to wear sexualised clothing whose main purpose is to attract attention?

DAZZlanch · 20/04/2024 23:31

CulturalNomad · 20/04/2024 23:18

Nope. Still placing the responsibility on the child. Try again

Actually, in the case of a child I'm placing the responsibility on the parent(s).

But still, the pervy man gets away Scot free. Interesting.

DAZZlanch · 20/04/2024 23:30

Boombatty · 20/04/2024 23:18

If a man wore leggings that highlighted his arsehole I'd say the same thing. Nothing to do with her being a woman.

This woman also has no idea of my thoughts on her yoga outfit and I would never say anything to her. But I can still comment on it on an anonymous forum. And she can continue to wear her anus leggings if she wants to.

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I struggle to believe you see her actual anus to be honest 😂 so through her leggings and her pants you can see her actual anus?!

Boombatty · 20/04/2024 23:28

Well yes but when stretched during cat/cow I can assure you that the anus in question was most definitely highlighted!

Iaskedyouthrice · 20/04/2024 23:25

They don't highlight the arsehole @Boombatty it's the whole crack. Top to bottom and right through to the front. Sorry but that needed correcting.

Iaskedyouthrice · 20/04/2024 23:23

Starlightshine · 20/04/2024 18:21

I’m sorry you are delusional. They look utterly, utterly hideous. But maybe it’s not a middle class mum you are trying to impress?

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I can't believe you actually wrote those words down. Ew. Middle class you say?

I just cannot get on board with these at all.
The women I see who wear these (school run etc) all have cracking arses and teeny waists and look bloody good in them. I would not. Not for me.

CulturalNomad · 20/04/2024 23:18

Nope. Still placing the responsibility on the child. Try again

Actually, in the case of a child I'm placing the responsibility on the parent(s).

Boombatty · 20/04/2024 23:18

DAZZlanch · 20/04/2024 23:14

Meaning, women can’t wear what they want. Because women are held to standards of accountability for their dress in ways men aren’t time and time again. It’s boring. If it offends you that much, move further away.

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If a man wore leggings that highlighted his arsehole I'd say the same thing. Nothing to do with her being a woman.

This woman also has no idea of my thoughts on her yoga outfit and I would never say anything to her. But I can still comment on it on an anonymous forum. And she can continue to wear her anus leggings if she wants to.

SusieLawson · 20/04/2024 23:16

Echobelly · 20/04/2024 22:53

Ditto - I call them butt-shorts. I blame the Kardashians for that and lots of women doing exercises that make them look like dogs peeing presumably to get that 'two basketballs' effect bum.

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I think the celeb industry is designed to dumb down society, and lower the standards of class and style, so young people think their aim in life is to be a talentless celeb, whose only ambition for their children is to sell them into the takentless celeb industry to use for their own attention. I know we have a lot of our own tacky tattoo necked celebs like Beckhams, but obecause so much of our media is linked with the USA, our media is full of USA trash like the Kardashians.

DAZZlanch · 20/04/2024 23:15

CulturalNomad · 20/04/2024 23:14

How about we hold the adult male accountable for this not the 11 yo

Of course I hold the creepy-ass adult male responsible! But that doesn't change the fact that a young girl wearing a strip of thin nylon that outlines her genitals is going to draw the attention of a pervert.

Nope. Still placing the responsibility on the child. Try again.

theeyeofdoe · 20/04/2024 23:15

Plenty in my gym too.

remember the seam stretches when you bend over to pick up weights. If you do have any and you don’t want everyone to have an intimate view of your arsehole…wear a longer top.

DAZZlanch · 20/04/2024 23:14

Boombatty · 20/04/2024 23:12

She can wear what she wants. And I can comment on it.

Meaning, women can’t wear what they want. Because women are held to standards of accountability for their dress in ways men aren’t time and time again. It’s boring. If it offends you that much, move further away.

CulturalNomad · 20/04/2024 23:14

How about we hold the adult male accountable for this not the 11 yo

Of course I hold the creepy-ass adult male responsible! But that doesn't change the fact that a young girl wearing a strip of thin nylon that outlines her genitals is going to draw the attention of a pervert.