To think you don't actually get treated better if you're slim, it's because your attitude changes?

She didn’t say it to me, she said it to her partner, but she would have known I could hear being right behind them. Yes, factual in the sense that she is smaller than me, but why did that need to be her immediate response? I’m assuming he hasn’t realised she had wandered away and had sensed someone the other side of the aisle, so thought she was just there. He didn’t mistake me for her in the sense he didn’t speak or anything like that, and I doubt he was looking at me at all as he had his back to me.

Oh I’m sure it’s because they think it’s an aspirational look and they have the time, energy and resources to achieve it.

Genuine question, why do you care?

Eg noticed when waiting for service, let through doors, people making suave instead of Behaving as if you don’t exist and barging through you.

I think you do get treated more favourably the more attractive you are perceived to be.

Including weight, age, looks.

When I have my hair down I get treated differently. More favourably.

Especially true by men ime. As I’ve got older and plumper I have become invisible. It’s actually been amazing to notice it happen.

Depends how you define being treated badly/well.

When I was slim(mer) I just got more attention from men, not necessarily in a positive way either.

Some people (not random strangers) did treat me better , mainly because they see being fat as a moral failure /character flaw. Those people are arseholes.

I can't say I noticed a significant change either way in my interactions with the general public.

Unless you were a teenage parent, I think that this is far more likely due to your age, not your weight - I've been big, I've been small and everything in between - the more white in my hair, the more I experience people being courteous, irrespective of size.

Put the age aspect and experience of dealing with medical staff together and that's also more likely to put you in a position where you can't be dismissed as an anxious young Mum.

No, that's complete bullshit. I've been fat and thin and I always have a miserable grumpy attitude, I am an asshole if I do say so myself. I am definitely treated better now as a thin person. And people tolerate more of me now. The difference is like night and day.

I'm probably more slim/average now 8-10, but when I was a teenager and super slim (I did a lot of sport) some people seemed to think it was fair game to comment on my weight. The same with people they perceive as being overweight.

I've been both slim and fat. Can't say I've noticed a difference in the way I've been treated.

I am 5’2” and a size 14/16, I am invisible. My leaner friends get treated better compared to me.

I am perimenopausal so have joined a gym and taken up running.

I think it depends on the size tbh. At the extremes I am sure this is true. Very overweight and very thin people do get judged I think. But I don’t think anyone would treat a size 14 person differently from a size 10 person. I think that is largely down to self perception

Re the invisibility claim, I know someone who consistently muddles two of my other friends, both of them really quite round. Beyond being heavy, one is blonde with curly hair and the other is dark with straight hair. Make of that what you will … It gets me really cross.

It’s the most depressing thing about losing weight. You realise that every time in the past that you felt self conscious in public, people really were judging you.

Interesting thought OP but not in my experience. My twins for example - one is overweight and treated completely differently by a range of people- school staff, shop staff, even family members. Ranges from unconscious bias around being lazy, greedy, neither academic or sporty etc - to assumptions that it must be she who was the bully, not the much smaller lighter child who was in fact bullying her. Her slimmer sisters being greeted with warmth and smiles, and a more reserved and colder reception for her, in all kinds of situations.

And this is A CHILD. This is largely adults perpetuating these behaviours. I see it all the time and it upsets me and enrages me in equal measure.

Just writing this makes me so sad

YABU. Whether your attitude changes or not, you will be treated worse if you are overweight, old, ugly or look poor. Sad but true.

I’m also a middle class professional and overweight and I definitely notice a difference. I know for a fact that I’ve lost at least one job interview because of my size at that time.

I've had significant periods as both slim and fat in my adult life (size 10 to size 20) and you definitely get perved on more by men when you're slim .

I expect you are right op

I think you get treated better if you are slim, well dressed, a ready smile, smell nice and generally attractive.

It’s a combination of things. I’ve lost weight recently and am now I small 14/ big 12 depending on brand. Definitely get treated better than being a decidedly lardy 16.

That said you can be thin but stinky and people aren’t going to be falling over themselves to be lovely.

Perhaps people notice the change in treatment with weight more when other things are static.

Rude she said it to you - rules say don't comment on poeple size

Sounds like it was Just factual though

No, or maybe just for extremes of people, the very slim, or the very overweight /severely obese, not for the masses I doubt.

Not for me. But then I've never been really slim, I was a size 12 for most of my life, the same weight pre and post children, now a bit overweight, hasn't changed how I get treated.