Washing up - is DH filthy or am I overreacting?

Fine to wash in, as long as he rinses. Doesn't matter how clean the water is if you don't rinse, soap on dishes is just as bad. I'm only careful about washing my glass milk bottles properly with clean hot soapy water before rinsing.

How do people wash up in countries where water supply is limited?

I'm with you OP, I think you need to rinse after that. My DH is the same as yours. The stuff that goes in the wash earlier is covered in bubbles dripping all over the draining board and tasting like washing up liquid (he uses too much). The stuff near the end is dripping in brown water. It all needs a 2 second rinse!

I also don't understand how all these people with dishwashers never wash anything by hand. I got one a year ago but still do 1-2 loads per day by hand - things like the kids silicone plates which taste of dishwasher tablet if you put them through the dishwasher as it absorbs the smell, our proper kitchen/chef's knives which aren't supposed to go into anything more than hand hot water, our pots and pans which aren't dishwasher safe (tried and ruined one - and need to wait until they die to replace the whole set), grill pans which don't fit, oven trays (some not dishwasher safe and some that are but don't fit), chopping boards with a big lip which don't fit in the dishwasher unless it's not very full and can go at an angle, recycling (plastic bottles, tubs, cans, yoghurt pots, etc), toddler cups (need to handwash to properly clean the straws etc), metal water bottles and travel coffee cups that can't go in, the air fryer tray...I could go on and on. It builds up really quickly next to the sink despite the dishwasher being filled up with all the plates, bowls, cutlery, glasses, mugs, tupperware and more.

@Bollingerforbreakfast and they were probably a lot healthier than the germaphobes on this thread.

Running water is still expensive (and wasteful)

It's a generational thing in my family. Older generation (and my late grandparents) used your dh's method although in a plastic washing up bowl. They were working class and running water was considered expensive. The tea towel would then take off any soap suds and other debris. All drying was done with a tea towel which wasn't even washed daily. I think that's a bit disgusting but the grandparents lived into their 80s and 90s and didn't die of washing up mank

I don’t change water but then rinse at the end.

Or you could just use your dishwasher for its intended purpose 😁

This is why I rarely eat and drink in other people's homes. It's bloody disgusting trying to clean something in dirty water. He doesn't even rinse them so he's just swishing them about in their own grime.

Oh and I think leaving things to dry on a rack is nasty too, I dry immediately after washing. Who wants to drink out of a glass with water marks on it.

I also put bleach in my washing up bowl.

I am MN idea of hell.

#team DH. The word "disgusting" gets thrown around far too much imo.

I’ve already explained that I know my family and friends don’t do this!

Get a dishwasher, it'll save time and arguments.

Exactly. You don't.

All this hysteria over a mug. What kills germs is hot water and a bit of soap. As long as there is no visible dirt on it, it's absolutely fine if a mug has been in water with a few food particles swimming around.

🙄

So, just out of interest, before you accept a cup of tea from anywhere, do you actually enquire as to how it was washed up, and refuse to use it if it hasn't been steam cleaned at 200 degrees?

FFS Leave the man a lone if it means that much to you do it yourself.
If it was a man posting this he would get bashed for it.
At least he will wash up most men wont make a cup of tea.

I have a dishwasher BUT on the chance I handwash I don't fill the bowl up, I use running warm water and a soapy sponge ...

It sounds disgusting though, if people don’t actually also clean the bowl properly after.

Well of course you bloody do, like you clean your sink.
I don't get the point of them either but why would you assume they don't get cleaned?

There's no germs on them FFS.

I am team Op though. You need to change the water as well as rinsing for a big load.

Which is why dishwashers are actually more efficient. Yes I know not everyone can have one.

When did you last get food poisoning from food served on your own plates OP?

I’m not from the UK and have never heard of such a bowl. It sounds disgusting though, if people don’t actually also clean the bowl properly after.

Op I’m with you. Grim.

I get your point - but I think you’ll both live

Greatful?

No but they are stored in a closed cupboard and I obviously have clean hands to serve food and drink to people.

seems quite a few people on this thread would care about given a cup covered in all that crap, as would I at other peoples house, as would a nearly all of my friends and family! Luckily none of us “wash up” this way…

Reading comprehension is often not very good on MN. I wouldn’t be surprised if a lot of the YABU voters would have missed the fact your husband doesn’t rinse.

I also agree that this method of washing dishes is very British. You would get very different responses on a more international forum. I’m not originally from here and find it very odd because the water goes cold and unless you’re doing a large amount of dishes it doesn’t even save water. Why wouldn’t you start by plugging a sink and already rinsing the dishes as the water runs (turning the tap off while you scrub)? You can put dirtier items in the sink from the start so they get a bit of soak. If you have a dishwasher and only use it for knives, glasses and the odd pan I bet by the end the sink will have less water than what your husband usually fills it with and everything would have need rinsed under hot water. Just don’t leave the tap constantly running.