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He complains it hurts but won’t take pain relief!?

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Farmwifefarmlife · 19/04/2024 20:28

DH will complain of something, headache, backache. Tonight is a sore eye. Yet he won’t take any pain relief. AIBU to tell him to stop complaining? He’s really driving me up the wall tonight with it.

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SabreIsMyFave · 19/04/2024 20:46

Oh yeah men always do this. They won't take painkillers/meds because it might make them better, and then they won't have anything to whinge and moan about, and try to gain sympathy for.

I'm sure men never used to be like this. My dad (born in the 1930s) certainly wasn't - OR my uncles, OR my grandfathers.

Seems to be a 'man born after 1960' thing.

AdultReindeer · 19/04/2024 20:45

Definitely YANBU. If someone says this to me, I'm likely to tell them to shut and enjoy their headache then.

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Farmwifefarmlife · 19/04/2024 20:44

NeverDropYourMooncup · 19/04/2024 20:31

Paracetamol isn't particularly likely to do much for a dry or scratched eye. Saline made with boiled water and sea salt might help.

I do agree but he won’t do anything suggested in the NHS website nor will he see a doctor.

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BettyOBarley · 19/04/2024 20:43

Another DH here who says "they don't do anything" 🙄

Eloraa · 19/04/2024 20:41

YES. This happens all the time in my household.

I have a tonne of sympathy if you are doing what you can to help yourself.

I have hideous period pain, and keep going because… y’know, small kids, job, house. So ‘I have a headache and I’ll have a lie down not a paracetamol’ pisses me right off.

Ourshoddyhouse · 19/04/2024 20:39

When I was younger if I moaned I had a headache and then wouldn't take painkillers my DM would say "well, it can't be that bad then"

I now say it to DH 🫣

KestrelMoon · 19/04/2024 20:34

My husband complains a lot about aches and pains. My issue is he will take a lot of pain relief and then refuses to see a doctor because he thinks they will just say he is old and to suck it up. So I sympathise with you on the constant complaining combined with unwillingness to try and help himself. I think if his arm fell off, he’d try and glue it back on before seeing a doctor. 🤣

KidsandKindness · 19/04/2024 20:32

I'm afraid I can NOT stand people who moan but will do sod all to help themselves OP. My DH knows not to whinge unless he's already taken pain killers, otherwise he just get's an earful, lol

pictoosh · 19/04/2024 20:32

My dh does this. Won't take painkillers because they "don't do anything", then complains about being in pain. I ignore him tbh...not interested in the whinging if he won't do anything about it.

NeverDropYourMooncup · 19/04/2024 20:31

Paracetamol isn't particularly likely to do much for a dry or scratched eye. Saline made with boiled water and sea salt might help.