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To think it's not weird, creepy or disrespectful to go for a walk around a cemetery

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JuvenileBigfoot · 19/04/2024 17:03

Told a friend I went for a walk in a local cemetery. She thinks it's creepy and disrespectful. I think it's a nice quet place to take a walk.

Admittedly I also like looking at old headstones, but I feel like reading the names and dates is acknowledging that person's life and is not disrespectful.

The cemetery in question is old, and no longer accepts burials but is open to the public. However, I've also walked around open cemeteries.

What do you think? Creepy ot not?

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Auburngal · 19/04/2024 17:51

Its not disrespectful at all.

MotherofPearl · 19/04/2024 17:45

I love walking in graveyards.

Death is part of life, so I don't think it's healthy to make graveyards no-go spaces unless you're burying a loved one, or visiting their grave.

Doingmybest12 · 19/04/2024 17:44

Personally on my own I'd find it creepy, but I don't have a problem understanding why other people would find it quiet and peaceful. I don't think it's disrespectful to have a quiet walk there but I can also understand why others might think it is.

heldinadream · 19/04/2024 17:44

Mothership4two · 19/04/2024 17:16

This thread made me think about Highgate Cemetery and I found out they have guided tours and there is a Tripadvisor page for London cemeteries.

Not creepy at all, OH and I often look around old church cemeteries while on holiday. The last one was a couple of weeks ago, St Nonna's Church, in Cornwall. I find them peaceful and like reading (and wondering about) the names on the gravestones.

When I was at primary school my friends and I used to play around the graves in an old Victorian cemetery in Clifton, Bristol. Don't think the interred minded much.

Oooops sorry Arnos Vale not in Clifton!

graveyardkate · 19/04/2024 17:43

RobinStrike · 19/04/2024 17:25

In the 1800s when many were established they were designed so that people went for walks and even took carriage rides to show off in some, with the grandest graves at the top of the hill. They were treated very much like parks.

This is true. They were pleasure gardens for the living to visit dead.

I love cemeteries (as you may guess from my username) and visit them regularly, wherever I go. Fine for a walk and to look at the graves - it's nice to pay respects even to people you don't know - but not for a bike ride or a family picnic or a ball game (which you do sometimes see people doing).

The Friends of Wrexham Cemetery recently organised an Easter Egg Hunt in their cemetery which had to be cancelled after a media / local backlash: www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-wales-68694676

heldinadream · 19/04/2024 17:43

Mothership4two · 19/04/2024 17:16

This thread made me think about Highgate Cemetery and I found out they have guided tours and there is a Tripadvisor page for London cemeteries.

Not creepy at all, OH and I often look around old church cemeteries while on holiday. The last one was a couple of weeks ago, St Nonna's Church, in Cornwall. I find them peaceful and like reading (and wondering about) the names on the gravestones.

When I was at primary school my friends and I used to play around the graves in an old Victorian cemetery in Clifton, Bristol. Don't think the interred minded much.

Arnos Vale in Bristol? - just driving past it as I read your comment!
I'm not the driver I hasten to add.
I love cemeteries, they are so interesting and thought provoking and I feel close to history and past generations of people and their lives. Opposite of disrespectful.

WithACatLikeTread · 19/04/2024 17:42

We walk to our DC's school and one of the paths is through a cemetery. The school is right next to it too. It is very interesting and very calm and lots of nature. There is a cholera grave in there plus a Quaker cemetery. I don't see the disrespect?

Dominoeffecter · 19/04/2024 17:39

Tours

Dominoeffecter · 19/04/2024 17:38

What about Highgate then, they do yours around it!

CherryPickle · 19/04/2024 17:36

I do it all the time. Your friend needs some creepy weird in her life.

Skiphopbump · 19/04/2024 17:35

I grew up near one that was created in the 1850s. It’s a fascinating place, full of graves old and new. It’s a really peaceful place to go for a walk.

PenelopeTitsdrop1990 · 19/04/2024 17:35

Not creepy at all. I'd love to visit Highgate cemetery one day...

Lenax · 19/04/2024 17:33

I always do this! So fascinating reading headstones, snippets of other people's stories frozen in time

Mothership4two · 19/04/2024 17:32

StrawberrySquash · 19/04/2024 17:21

Totally normal. And they are important local green spaces. Walking round them hopefully delays you ending up in the ground in one.

I think they are important due to the lichen too which is good for the environment and wildlife and an indicator of pollution (again don't think I have invented this).

VisitationRights · 19/04/2024 17:25

I find it creepy but that’s me, I totally understand that other people enjoy looking at old headstones and find it peaceful (my mum used to live going round an old cemetery.)

It is not disrespectful at all!

Mairzydotes · 19/04/2024 17:25

It's not weird . They are municipal areas , and either belong to the council , or the church .

RobinStrike · 19/04/2024 17:25

In the 1800s when many were established they were designed so that people went for walks and even took carriage rides to show off in some, with the grandest graves at the top of the hill. They were treated very much like parks.

QuackaRoo · 19/04/2024 17:24

Not disrespectful or weird, no

BananaLlama123 · 19/04/2024 17:24

I regularly walk in Sheffield General
Cemetary. It's a fabulous peaceful place and I like remembering my Dad. He isn't buried there, but we used to walk there together

Shityshitybangbang · 19/04/2024 17:24

It’s your friend that’s weird.

Snooperdoop · 19/04/2024 17:24

Mothership4two · 19/04/2024 17:21

I think Beatrix Potter visited a cemetery/s to look for names for her characters (don't think I made that up?)

I don't know, but DS1's name came from a war memorial.

Intruiged · 19/04/2024 17:23

I've had the joy of living next to a few of 'the magnificent seven' in London. They're a haven for wildlife, a respite from the bustle of the city for humans. This time of year, they are bursting with daffodils, bluebells hawthorns and birds building nests, some of the headstones and crypts are works of art. It's such a peaceful place to go for a walk.

Knackerednana · 19/04/2024 17:22

We have a beautiful old cemetery in Bristol, very old, and was abandoned at one stage. Now it is a vibrant place with a cafè and they also hold weddings there. My granddaughter wants to get wed there when she's older. I can easily spend a couple of hours there, especially as a keen photographer, looking at the old gravestones and taking photos of the more unusual ones

Bbq1 · 19/04/2024 17:22

There's a lovely graveyard close to us with a stream, a pond, a wildflower meadow, tree carvings, benches and a bug hotel. One of ds's favourite activities to do with my mum and dad when he was little was visit there. Thr church encouraged children to play, explore and create respectfully.

StrawberrySquash · 19/04/2024 17:21

Totally normal. And they are important local green spaces. Walking round them hopefully delays you ending up in the ground in one.

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