If someone could please give me some advice I’d be grateful, I’m feeling so lost.
Myself and my partner need to separate, he’s not the person I thought he was. There’s no abuse or anything of that sort but he hardly even speaks to me anymore and I feel so alone. We are not compatible in anyway and he’s admitted he doesn’t really feel the same for me now.
Now the problem:
We have a 5 year old son. We also have a joint mortgage (although we are not married).
We live 170 miles away from my family. His family are round the corner.
If we are to split up, I would really like to move back to where my parents are as I have nothing here. I have a couple of acquaintances but that’s all.
My problem is I don’t know how I can move back to them because of our son. His dad has made it very clear he would want 50/50 and to be fair he is a brilliant father. I can’t fault him on that.
So the options are very limited. Our son is also at school here, although I know moving schools isn’t a really big deal at this age.
As far as I can see it, I am destined to be here living away from my family indefinitely. As there are no other options that are viable.
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I move back on my own and leave my DS here with his dad (not something I want to do, as then I’d hardly see him and I want to be a part of his life)
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I move and take DS with me, away from his dad, which would then end in a court case/decision and I may not win that anyway.
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Me and DP split up and I move out in this area on my own, we share childcare 50/50 but I continue to be far away from my support network and family.
I don’t think there are any other options, my parents won’t move here as they’re not in a position to.
If anyone can help and offer me guidance I’d be very grateful.