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AIBU - Etiquette disembarking plane

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planeetiquette · 19/04/2024 14:30

I recently flew into LA, the flight was jam packed and the overhead lockers filled up quickly so the flight attendants took bags off people and put them wherever they could find space in the lockers.

I was in an aisle seat, and had a connecting flight, so when the seatbelt sign went off I stood up like everyone else, got my carry on out of the overhead locker and waited to disembark.

That's when an American lady from the row in front of me turned to me and said she needed to get past me to get to her luggage and then bring it backto her place in the queue.

I said sorry, that's not going to work as the aisle is really narrow and filled with luggage right now, it'd be best if you sat down and waited until some people have disembarked so there's more space.

She got angry and said "Fine, if you don't move I'm going to BLOCK the aisle. We'll get the flight attendants involved"

It wasn't just her, there was also a group of men in front who needed their luggage from the back of the plane as well and they backed her up (!)

After such a long flight I was over it, and said in my most calm but firm voice:

"Guys, waiting is a fact of life, you're just going to have to sit and wait.

"Your luggage is down the back of the plane. I'm sorry but that's not my fault. This is a very narrow space and I don't know what you want me to do."

In the end the flight attendants never got involved, as someone behind me passed luggage over my head to the lady and the men.

At the time I thought I was in the right (I fly a lot for work). But the more I think about it, is that just how they do it in the US? If you're "ahead" in the rows, you retain the right to get off first even if you're not prepared? If that's the case, I understand why she was angry.

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LipstickedPowderedAndPainted · 19/04/2024 15:27

I simply do not understand the crazed panic that occurs as soon as a plane stops and everyone jumps up, scrambles for their stuff and acts like the world is about to end unless they ask get off in an instant. It's just illogical.
The very rare exception is if you have a connection with an extremely small window to catch it ( time is obviously imperative then). Luckily on the only two occasions this has happened to me, crew have actually allowed myself and the other handful of passengers making those connections to disembark first. I have seen this a handful of times over the years, presumably when the margins are tiny.

It would make do much more sense if the rows were just disembarked in order and that way the would be none of this kerfuffle and racing.

I'll happily set in my seat until its all died down and just walk off at the end when the aisle is clear. I can't be bothered with it. Life is too short for the stress of the Altercations, shoving etc.

Arlanymor · 19/04/2024 15:27

You don't know if they had connecting flights to catch either though. It might not be your fault that their luggage was stored away from their seats, but neither was it theirs. A bit of sympathy might have gone a long way.

Before the doors open then why can't people just shuffle around the cabin and collect luggage and return to their seats and then file off sensibly once the doors open. I never understand why people have to behave like gorillas on planes. Although that is unfair to gorillas...

Legolland · 19/04/2024 15:26

idontlikealdi · 19/04/2024 14:49

I've never understood why people jump up as soon as the seatbelt sign goes off

It’s so you can be in the first half of passengers disembarking, rather than the last half. It means you can get to passport control / baggage reclaim / connecting flights / the toilets more quickly. 😊

CleanShirt · 19/04/2024 15:22

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planeetiquette · 19/04/2024 15:22

Luxell934 · 19/04/2024 15:19

Not sure why you posted this thread then OP??

@Luxell934@Haydenn @CleanShirt As per my OP, I'm asking if there's different etiquette in the US.

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EmilyTjP · 19/04/2024 15:20

Weighnow · 19/04/2024 14:46

Come on, connecting flights aren't so tight that the last person off the plane would miss it.

😂 you have no idea

Haydenn · 19/04/2024 15:19

planeetiquette · 19/04/2024 15:17

Yes that's correct, the men that also wanted to hold everyone up while they got their luggage from the back of the plane.

I think we'll have to agree to disagree on this one!

Well you posted on AIBU…. So one would’ve assumed you were interested in other’s opinions. My mistake 🤣

Luxell934 · 19/04/2024 15:19

planeetiquette · 19/04/2024 15:17

Yes that's correct, the men that also wanted to hold everyone up while they got their luggage from the back of the plane.

I think we'll have to agree to disagree on this one!

Not sure why you posted this thread then OP??

planeetiquette · 19/04/2024 15:17

Haydenn · 19/04/2024 15:13

The fact that other people backed her up suggests despite your even tone, you were being condescending and a bit of a dick

Yes that's correct, the men that also wanted to hold everyone up while they got their luggage from the back of the plane.

I think we'll have to agree to disagree on this one!

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EmilyTjP · 19/04/2024 15:17

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Have you never flown into the US where the immigration queue can take hours?! There’s every need to rush instead of sitting down and waiting for every passenger to get in the queue before you!

VeryQuaintIrene · 19/04/2024 15:16

"Come on, connecting flights aren't so tight that the last person off the plane would miss it."

I envy your innocence!!

Idontjetwashthefucker · 19/04/2024 15:15

Weighnow · 19/04/2024 14:46

Come on, connecting flights aren't so tight that the last person off the plane would miss it.

I had 35 minutes to get off the plane at Doha in time to make the connecting flight to Brisbane - made it at the last call so yes, it can happen

Trickabrick · 19/04/2024 15:14

I think it’s fairly arrogant of you to decide that she wasn’t allowed to try and retrieve her case, that would have got my back up to be honest. You are giving off tones of your connecting flight being more important than anyone else’s onward plans, maybe that didn’t go down well with the other passengers who intervened?.

Noyesnoyes · 19/04/2024 15:14

@planeetiquette so you were being condescending, I would not let another adult speak to me like that.

I'd have absolutely told you where to go.

Haydenn · 19/04/2024 15:13

The fact that other people backed her up suggests despite your even tone, you were being condescending and a bit of a dick

planeetiquette · 19/04/2024 15:12

Noyesnoyes · 19/04/2024 15:08

@planeetiquette you were not being calm, you were being condescending!

It's not the same thing at all.

Yes probably, the way she was behaving (saying she was going to block the aisle, call the flight attendants over this non-issue) was insane. I think my tone was even though.

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Noyesnoyes · 19/04/2024 15:08

@planeetiquette you were not being calm, you were being condescending!

It's not the same thing at all.

planeetiquette · 19/04/2024 15:08

eurochick · 19/04/2024 15:02

This is pretty common. I've been in that woman's position when my modest bag was moved back by the flight attendants to make space for a late border's large case. And I've seen it happen to others lots of times. Generally if it is just a few rows and you can get someone's attention other passengers will pass it over. I'm not sure why you are put out that the luggage was passed over your head.

I've also been in the position where I was asked to move seat to accommodate a group that wanted to sit together. As everyone was on the plane by this point most luggage bins near my new seat were full so the attendants found some space about twenty rows back and said they would bring it to me when landing. They didn't. I was last off the plane and in a huge queue for passport control because I had moved to do someone a favour. No good deed goes unpunished.

Because they were cabin suitcases and could have easily dropped on my head. Usually you ask politely before getting in someone's personal space.

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Noyesnoyes · 19/04/2024 15:07

@Whatwillitbenext "whispers" you do know you can start needing the loo at any time don't you?

Tell me you're not an IBS sufferer without telling me you're not an IBS sufferer?

And needing the loo is laughable!

planeetiquette · 19/04/2024 15:06

stoneyfaces · 19/04/2024 15:00

They might have had a connecting flight too. You stood up and blocked the aisle- there was no way for you to leave so you could have just moved back to your seat. If your bag was so close you could’ve just grabbed it as you disembarked. I don’t understand why you blocked the aisle when there was no where to go, and why you were so rude and superior

Just to be clear, she was being aggressive and I was being calm back to her.

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eurochick · 19/04/2024 15:02

This is pretty common. I've been in that woman's position when my modest bag was moved back by the flight attendants to make space for a late border's large case. And I've seen it happen to others lots of times. Generally if it is just a few rows and you can get someone's attention other passengers will pass it over. I'm not sure why you are put out that the luggage was passed over your head.

I've also been in the position where I was asked to move seat to accommodate a group that wanted to sit together. As everyone was on the plane by this point most luggage bins near my new seat were full so the attendants found some space about twenty rows back and said they would bring it to me when landing. They didn't. I was last off the plane and in a huge queue for passport control because I had moved to do someone a favour. No good deed goes unpunished.

Whatwillitbenext · 19/04/2024 15:02

PuttingDownRoots · 19/04/2024 15:01

When I rule the world, the etiquette will be...

  • those with connecting flights disembark.
  • then those without overhead luggage,
  • overhead luggage lockers

Great idea

ChimneyPot · 19/04/2024 15:02

If there was room in the aisle for you and your luggage their would have been room in that same aisle for her and your luggage momentarily while you sat down to let her past.
You were just determined that you were right.

planeetiquette · 19/04/2024 15:02

HawkersEast · 19/04/2024 14:55

Generally the etiquette would be to stay in your seat and get your luggage down once it was getting closer to your row not block the aisle whilst waiting.
You were patronizing in the way you spoke to them and for all you know they might have had a connecting flight as well.

I've taken dozens and dozens of flights and in my experience, that happens very rarely. 90% of the time people stand up and move into the aisle if they are in an aisle seat when the seatbelt sign goes off.

They didn't have connecting flights, because I explained to them I had a connecting flight and they would have said something.

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Whatwillitbenext · 19/04/2024 15:02

Noyesnoyes · 19/04/2024 15:01

Connecting flight?

Someone waiting to pick them up?

Need to use the loo?

Shall I continue?

Needing the loo? Really? 🤣 I'm pretty sure on a long flight you'd have the chance to organise that so you weren't busting as the plane was landing.