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AIBU - Etiquette disembarking plane

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planeetiquette · 19/04/2024 14:30

I recently flew into LA, the flight was jam packed and the overhead lockers filled up quickly so the flight attendants took bags off people and put them wherever they could find space in the lockers.

I was in an aisle seat, and had a connecting flight, so when the seatbelt sign went off I stood up like everyone else, got my carry on out of the overhead locker and waited to disembark.

That's when an American lady from the row in front of me turned to me and said she needed to get past me to get to her luggage and then bring it backto her place in the queue.

I said sorry, that's not going to work as the aisle is really narrow and filled with luggage right now, it'd be best if you sat down and waited until some people have disembarked so there's more space.

She got angry and said "Fine, if you don't move I'm going to BLOCK the aisle. We'll get the flight attendants involved"

It wasn't just her, there was also a group of men in front who needed their luggage from the back of the plane as well and they backed her up (!)

After such a long flight I was over it, and said in my most calm but firm voice:

"Guys, waiting is a fact of life, you're just going to have to sit and wait.

"Your luggage is down the back of the plane. I'm sorry but that's not my fault. This is a very narrow space and I don't know what you want me to do."

In the end the flight attendants never got involved, as someone behind me passed luggage over my head to the lady and the men.

At the time I thought I was in the right (I fly a lot for work). But the more I think about it, is that just how they do it in the US? If you're "ahead" in the rows, you retain the right to get off first even if you're not prepared? If that's the case, I understand why she was angry.

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Ilivetosleep · 20/04/2024 09:36

Wow! Sorry bit.youre really being unreasonable. You're alright but don't care about anyone else!!!

mrsjoyfulprizeforraffiawork · 20/04/2024 09:31

I am with you, OP. If her luggage was within 10 feet or so and kind nearby passengers would hand it over to her, fair enough but if she was going to have to inconvenience and push past everyone in the aisle for half a plane's length or more (and was then intending to return to place, doing same again) then she was very unreasonable (and in my frequent flyer experience, once the seatbelts are off, the aisle is full). For those who think getting off the plane quickly is unnecessary for a connection, even if one is not catching another flight, lots of us are travelling on to other parts of the country that day which take many hours to reach, involving different forms of public transport, so delays can make it impossible to reach the destination that day. I rue the day oversized cabin baggage was ever allowed but it is a good moneymaker for airlines so they will continue to allow it.

Saymyname28 · 20/04/2024 08:33

If people hadn't got up from their seats to stand in the aisle she'd have been able to get her luggage and return to her seat. Perfectly normal thing to do. Not her fault her luggage was put elsewhere, why did you even think you had the right to manage the queueing etiquette of other people. Honestly it smacks of being a jobsworth and it wasn't even your job.

Biggybigbiggles · 20/04/2024 08:22

You sound horrendous. I've flown regularly all my life and have quite literally never come across someone who hasn't said 'Sure, no worries'.

Mouse82 · 20/04/2024 08:20

Mercurial123 · 20/04/2024 08:17

If I have a short connection, I'm only concerned about catching my flight. That's why I always reserve a seat in the front aisles in economy. I think most people feel the same.

So? Still doesn't make you any special. The world doesn't revolve around you. Regular long distance flier here myself ;) give take.

Mercurial123 · 20/04/2024 08:17

Mouse82 · 20/04/2024 04:27

Lots of others would have connecting flights, doesn't make OP any more special.

If I have a short connection, I'm only concerned about catching my flight. That's why I always reserve a seat in the front aisles in economy. I think most people feel the same.

beachcitygirl · 20/04/2024 05:28

Flight attendant here. You're the unreasonable one.

Asiatoyork · 20/04/2024 05:20

I mean, I wouldn’t have bothered to try and get back to my bag like that in her shoes, but I also would have let her past if I were you. Big drama about nothing.

Stopsnowing · 20/04/2024 04:44

If my bag is ever taken off me I try to get it in a bin ahead of me for this very reason

Guavafish1 · 20/04/2024 04:30

You should have moved for her instead of blocking the aisle

Mouse82 · 20/04/2024 04:27

fieldsofbutterflies · 19/04/2024 14:53

OP has already explained that she had a connecting flight and very nearly missed it. If she'd sat and waited for everyone else to go ahead of her, she would have done.

Lots of others would have connecting flights, doesn't make OP any more special.

Mouse82 · 20/04/2024 04:22

GrumpyPanda · 19/04/2024 14:40

What a about "connecting flight" was that hard to understand?

How many other's on that flight besides to OP have a connecting flight. How hard is that to understand.

wednesdaywoes · 20/04/2024 00:29

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Pepsiisbetterthancoke · 19/04/2024 23:59

Regardless what the etiquette is (although it’s perfectly normal in my experience for people to help each other out by passing bags to each other) you sound like an absolute prat

If you had spoken to me in that patronising manner I would have deliberately went slower to make you even more delayed

PrincessTeaSet · 19/04/2024 23:50

frankentall · 19/04/2024 16:42

but honestly, some of the planes I have been on in the US, two people cannot pass each other in the aisle.
Me too but I am pretty sure OP was describing arriving after a 10 hour flight - so on a larger transatlantic plane not a Bombardier CRJ or an Embraer or even a terror tube.

OP might be overweight?

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 19/04/2024 23:39

There’s no “place in the queue” - she needed to sit down and wait if her luggage was at the back.

Nonewclothes2024 · 19/04/2024 23:35

You were wrong , you should have let her past to get her bag.

GoodAfternoonGoodEveningAndGoodnight · 19/04/2024 23:33

olympicsrock · 19/04/2024 23:21

I agree with you OP . She should have sat down and waited to get her luggage

Why should OP get to be able to get her luggage and then stand there in the way of everyone else wanting to get theirs?
Said in the OP I think where it was a case of putting your luggage as and where .
So not their fault if theirs was past Blocky Mcblockerson?!

olympicsrock · 19/04/2024 23:21

I agree with you OP . She should have sat down and waited to get her luggage

DogsAreBetterThanHusbands · 19/04/2024 23:11

Not read it all but I probably would have let her past to get her luggage but then moved into her spot so I could get off the plane quicker. Would have been hoping that her bag was really far down the plane so she wouldn't get back to me before everyone started getting off. And if she had I'd just be nice and say I hope you don't mind I've got a connecting flight.

Whatifthehokeycokey · 19/04/2024 19:52

I would have thought the British were hotter on queuing than Americans. I've never heard of anyone getting to hold their place in the queue when they move out of it like that.

Auburngal · 19/04/2024 19:50

theescapeladder · 19/04/2024 18:20

This thread reminded me of one of my major pet peeves when it comes to my fellow plane passengers (upthread quite aptly described as gorillas).
I mean the ones that jump up as soon as the belt sign is switched off and then push forward down the isle from the rows behind as if they have some sort of priority. Having to actually ask them to stop and let me get out of my seat is a common occurrence unfortunately.
A little courtesy and consideration goes a long way.
Signed - frequent flier, familiar with the joy of tight connections 😂

Edited

If they have hold luggage to collect, it makes no difference. I remember finding which carousel to go to and lo and behold my suitcase was on the belt.

Stompythedinosaur · 19/04/2024 18:46

I think you were rude, and clearly could have moved back into your seat (with your luggage) for the second it took the other passenger to go past.

BrightLightTonight · 19/04/2024 18:38

Really! You were rude. How much would it inconvenience you to let her through.

whenever I fly, I sit back and let everyone off first and then take a stress free calm exit. And guess what? We all end up at the same place, at the same time, but My blood pressure is a lot lower

Brainded · 19/04/2024 18:24

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