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"What does she actually do?"

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solucky1988 · 19/04/2024 14:29

Is a comment my partners work colleague apparently made when he turned up to work with last nights pasta, and when asked if I'd cooked it he told him no I didn't, he cooked.
Yes he cooks, but that's it.
I've recently decided to stay at home with our 2 children. What I do I stay home with our 2 year old and keep every single aspect of the house clean and tidy.
But apparently I do nothing.
AIBU to be hurt by this?

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Itsonlymashadow · 23/04/2024 18:22

Honestly, I wouldn’t give a shit what my dps work colleague has to say about me.

But I also am pretty sure Dp would tell him he was a dick AND not tell me.

I would suggest he is telling you for a reason. That he thinks he you should be cooking.

Notamum12345577 · 23/04/2024 18:20

solucky1988 · 19/04/2024 14:29

Is a comment my partners work colleague apparently made when he turned up to work with last nights pasta, and when asked if I'd cooked it he told him no I didn't, he cooked.
Yes he cooks, but that's it.
I've recently decided to stay at home with our 2 children. What I do I stay home with our 2 year old and keep every single aspect of the house clean and tidy.
But apparently I do nothing.
AIBU to be hurt by this?

I wouldn’t be hurt at something your husbands colleague said, it isn’t like your husband said it

Underestimated4 · 23/04/2024 18:09

I think he’s telling you think for a reason, maybe if you’re home with the young one he expects you to cook if he’s working full time?

Kattiekat · 23/04/2024 18:08

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SuperGreens · 19/04/2024 14:34

If your husband agrees with this comment then you need to go back to work full time and make sure he does his 50% of everything: childcare, pick ups drops offs sick days cleaning cooking organising planning laundry lifts etc. Refuse to do an ounce more.

AnneLovesGilbert · 19/04/2024 14:33

You had loads of replies to your thread this morning

BoohooWoohoo · 19/04/2024 14:33

Why would he tell you that story ?

fedupandstuck · 19/04/2024 14:32

I hope he told his colleague that he was being rude and over stepping the mark. What you do is of course childcare for your young child, as agreed between you and your husband.

Why would you be hurt by an idiotic comment made by this person? Their opinion shouldn't be important to you, it's more important that your DH pulled him up on it.

SuperGreens · 19/04/2024 14:31

How did he share this information, in what tone?

DrinkFeckArseBrick · 19/04/2024 14:31

Didn't you already post this? I think your husband was calling you lazy and shouting at you?

Grapesandcheesetwo · 19/04/2024 14:31

Why did he tell you?

NCDAParent · 19/04/2024 14:30

And what was his reply to that question?