"What does she actually do?"

Why? My husband cooks all the time and I home educate our daughter while he works.

Such comment says nothing about its intended victim but everything about its originator.

Leave him at home.e one weekend, see how he manages

This. It's incredibly risky to SAH without the legal support of marriage. He's happily building a career on the back of your domestic labour, but you won't get a share of the assets he's building if you split. So no pension, house, savings - literally only child support, which is capped at £1500 anyway so not enough even to live well on.

He had no reason at all to tell you that and it sounds like pretty bullying behaviour from him. Maybe no one said it at all and it's his cowardly way of having a dig at you. No mother should be under valued like that.

His reply to this person is the only important thing. If he politely told them to fuck off and back off, there’s no issue. If he didn’t, I’d be putting him straight.

Your husband sounds like a bit of a dick here.

Mine would've shut his colleague down immediately and if he chose to tell me about it, it'd be because he was still annoyed.

Just repeating what others have said, really:

Why did he feel the need to relay this information?

I'd suspect this was his 'clever' way of either complaining about the fact that he has to do the cooking or hinting that you're lucky to have such an amazing man and better appreciate what you have.

If you've had other arguments about the workload split, you can probably guess his motivation. I can't think of any good, kind reason for him to pass along this nugget. It's unlikely he wouldn't have realised that it might bother you, assuming the colleague actually said it at all.

ETA: It's probably more typical that a SAHP would do the cooking, but if that's what he wants, he needs to be an adult and address the issue head-on rather than taking such a cowardly approach designed to make you feel like crap.

Was the idea of you quitting work and him being solely responsible for funding the family a joint decision? Did he expressly say he was happy about it? Or did he BS around it and is now subtly but not subtly telling you he isn't happy with it?

Why would he relay this to you? X

and what does she “actually do? I only have one child and I am working part time but I feel like sometimes going to work is like a break. think sometimes people who don’t have a clue underestimate just how hard it is managing small children all day ! Also agree with pp why did your partner even mention this ? I think a child free weekend with friends is in order, leaving your partner in charge. This may serve as a reminder as to what you “actually do”. No doubt he would be frazzled upon your return!

Sounds like your husband is shit stirring. If it was said there was no need for him to pass on the message.

maybe you should have a chat with him as it seems as if he thinks you are not pulling your weight

Why on Earth would he tell you that? To try and make you feel indebted to him and like you should be slaving at home?

Your DP clearly isn't on board with you SAH or he wouldn't have relayed that comment, and it doesn't sound like you're married (you've said DP rather than DH). Honestly unless you've got independent wealth or you've got everything legally sewn up in case you split, I'd be going back to work. You're really vulnerable here.

Who the hell do you think you’re talking to you rude individual.

To pick up on someone’s typo - who you have no idea has a learning disability.

At what point did I agree with what he said?

Get a grip, you’re clearly such an unhappy person to be so outright rude.

Yes! I think ‘the co-worker’ might be a conversational mechanism.

Lol.
Time for a week away. Family emergency. Just drop it on him at short notice and go. When he has juggled family commitments, work and WFH for a whole weekend and a working week , he will know exactly what you do every day.

Be warned, on return he will be exhausted and the house and laundry will be in disarray.

Why do you even know about it 🙄 I would think DH is dropping hints tbh

Did this conversation actually happen or does it suit his narrative to say it did? That is, he's telling you that HE thinks you do nothing? Either way, let everything pile up for a few days and when he mentions it, tell him that's you actually doing nothing.

Generally the person staying at home to care for children is better placed to cook? It’s a clumsy question, but not that odd.

I’m thinking the same, I’m doubtful this conversation even happened and hubby used it as an excuse to say what he was thinking himself 👊🏼

YOU decided to stay at home. Was it not a joint decision?

I think the co-worker’s thoughts oddly mirror his own.

How does he feel about you deciding to be a SAHM?

If this were me, my husband better bloody hope that he stood up for me and didn’t entertain this sexist BS

Read the post properly. It’s young ones plural. Cooking is literally the only thing he does do and you would have him not do that either?