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Is this friend taking the piss?

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gailedit · 19/04/2024 14:29

My friend and I visit each other with our children (5 years old) often, we usually alternate hosting.

No long ago we were at her house and they were talking about this juice they started drinking, which is on the expensive side. She diluted it with water for the 4 of us saying that is because of the sugar content but also to make it last longer.
Fair enough.

DD and I really liked the juice and started buying it. I didn’t want to dilute it for myself so DD asked to try it undiluted and she prefers that way too.

So next time the friend is due to visit, I tell DD that I will dilute the juice for the 4 of us because this is like how they drink it (and I didn’t want to create friction between friend and her DD in case her DD wanted the juice undiluted too.

So they came, and when is snack time DD explains (not my instructions, out of her own accord) that we like the juice undiluted but we will dilute it today because they are visiting.

So friend very quickly say ‘absolutely not’ since it is our house, they can drink it undiluted too.
Okay no problem.
And they really love it and keep having more. I serve in a jar so topped up when needed.

Then it was our turn to visit them again and to my surprise, friend serves 4 glasses of the diluted juice and that is it.

Then her DD blurts out that she is looking forward to come to our house next so she can drink lots of undiluted juice again😅

Friend was mortified and quickly changed the topic.

Btw, her household income is double than mine. But I appreciate she might have debt as she is always complaining about money and the price of things… for instance she complained that her cleaner uses too much product and should use more elbow grease lol.

I don’t have debt. Nor a cleaner.

Should I serve unlimited undiluted juice next time?

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WhereYouLeftIt · 24/04/2024 18:25

StormingNorman · 21/04/2024 15:27

I’d find it cheap too. Bit like the friend who always has a small glass of the cheapest white on their round and a mojito on yours.

This, basically.

Goodtogossip · 24/04/2024 15:41

It seems to be a bigger issue to you than it actually is. She serves it at her house how they drink it, as you do in your home. Just pour out 4 glasses of juice next time they visit instead of offering the jar to top up themselves. She'll not be upset as that's what she does. You both obviously tell your little ones far too much detail into something they probs haven't even thought about which has prompted them to mention things you & your friend would've preferred not to have been said.

SalGlo · 21/04/2024 21:39

My opinion...
Give them the juice, and you open a bottle of gin / vodka / tequila / absinthe

🫠🫠

Engagebrain · 21/04/2024 20:25

And here am I wondering if it will be insensitive to have my hair done before I visit my friend who's lost all of hers due to chemo. For goodness sake grow up op!

LovePoppy · 21/04/2024 19:19

Why are they drinking so much juice? Surely you’d offer one cup then move on to water?

StormingNorman · 21/04/2024 15:27

I’d find it cheap too. Bit like the friend who always has a small glass of the cheapest white on their round and a mojito on yours.

LenaLamont · 21/04/2024 15:16

All that for POM? Pfft. I was hoping for Cawston's Rhubarb and Apple at the very least.

Doubledenim305 · 21/04/2024 14:59

What's the issue? You all drink it Ur way at Ur home and you drink it their way at their home. Sounds normal. If it's tasty the kids will obviously drink more because it's nice. That's normal behaviour.
If you don't want them to drink lots of it, don't have a limitless supply available.
Sorted.

3luckystars · 21/04/2024 13:58

I dilute baileys as I find it too thick, but would never dilute the whole bottle as that is selfish. Your friend is a cheapskate.

TriesNotToBeCynical · 21/04/2024 13:53

rollonretirementfgs · 21/04/2024 10:48

This!!

I still remember my granny diluting my Lucozade 65 years ago. For those who don't know, it's supposed to be fizzy! These things can have an impact even on well-adjusted children like myself.

rollonretirementfgs · 21/04/2024 10:48

BaconCozzers · 19/04/2024 14:36

Fuck me, I'm a boring sod and get stuck mulling over details sometimes, but even I couldn't get excited enough to remember or ruminate on this kind of thing more than a minute after it happened! Unclench op, it's fine ❤️
Ps, what juice ...? 😆

This!!

rollonretirementfgs · 21/04/2024 10:48

What the hell did I just read? Get a grip people

CheeseSandwichRiskAssessment · 21/04/2024 10:47

Isn't pomegranate juice meant to be diluted? I'm just relieved we know what it is, I don't think it's unusual though.

You could just buy the cheapest, nastiest one you can find and see their faces! I would do this because I dislike juice, ha!

EggChair · 21/04/2024 10:31

You’re under reacting if anything, OP. I think you should start a civil war about Juicegate.

LadyAddle · 21/04/2024 10:22

The word dilute is starting to look weird now, I’ve read it too many times.

3luckystars · 21/04/2024 08:04

She is a tight arse Scrooge and is probably diluting the milk too.

And the alcohol.

JMSA · 21/04/2024 08:01

What a big deal over nothing. Just don't bring out that juice again when they're at your house.

queenMab99 · 21/04/2024 07:54

Give them vimto next time!

catonmyback · 21/04/2024 07:27

It’s worse than fizzy pop

just get a big bottle of fanta next time

hottchocolatte · 21/04/2024 07:01

Why do people assume that if someone posts something relatively trivial it means they're dull, worked up over nothing or have nothing else going on?

SulkySeagull · 21/04/2024 06:45

Christ alive OP, you don’t ’just think it’s funny’ - it’s not funny. It’s sad and boring that you’ve got so worked up by this you’ve written a long ass MN post!

PeachCastle · 21/04/2024 06:29

Thats 120 seconds I'll never get back. Next week, watching paint dry.

JournalistEmily · 21/04/2024 06:20

Who the f cares. Sometimes I think it would be nice to have such a stress free life I could post a 500 word borefest about diluting juice on MN . Sigh.

Winterstormm · 21/04/2024 06:17

gailedit · 19/04/2024 14:46

I was going to serve it diluted to accomodate them and not make her worried about sugar but DD ‘spoiled’ the plan by revealing our habits

I think it would be rude to serve undiluted when I know they prefer diluted but friend changed her mind which is fine too

She only prefers to dilute it because of cost, not sugar. Otherwise she would ask for it to be diluted at her house and your house (and she'd served you it undiluted). She's a CF and I think you should hide it next time she comes round. Offer supermarket own apple juice or tea next time.

WhereYouLeftIt · 21/04/2024 02:34

Serve them water. For its low sugar content.

I'm not impressed with her hosting skills.