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Gynaecologist remark to DH

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Gyneapologist · 19/04/2024 14:19

in response to my dh saying he wanted me to have an MRI so he could stop worrying about me “I get it mate, you want to trade her in for a younger model’. We were both 😲

male, 60s and also an oncologist as this was a post-cancer appointment. Im
53 btw.

I feel equally humiliated and outraged
as well as lost for words. It was a quip and I’m sure many will say it’s harmless but I think it speaks to the culture of misogyny in the NHS. For context, I requested an appointment in regards to on-going pain from a serious post-surgery infection.

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neverknowinglyunreasonable · 19/04/2024 14:22

VesperLind · 19/04/2024 14:21

Why was your husband with you in the consultation?

This really isn't a valid response or question.

I would be making an official complaint.

Meadowfinch · 19/04/2024 14:22

I think it speaks reems about the misogyny of that one idiot oncologist. It says nothing about the NHS at all.

I've just been through 3 years of cancer treatment. I can honestly say, with the exception of one slightly clumsy individual, the care from both men and women had been unstintingly supportive, sensitive and supremely professional.

Gyneapologist · 19/04/2024 14:22

VesperLind for support.

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QueenofTheBorg · 19/04/2024 14:22

Report it. Until this bullshit is challenged it'll keep happening, I am sorry, what a twat.

Andthereyougo · 19/04/2024 14:22

Awful.
Did your DH respond to him ?

Balloonhearts · 19/04/2024 14:21

That's really rude abs I would complain. It's not even funny. I don't mind a bit of off colour humour and even I don't find that funny... what a twat.

VesperLind · 19/04/2024 14:21

Why was your husband with you in the consultation?