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Telling my boss I have an interview.

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Poltershighclimb99 · 19/04/2024 06:43

Morning all. This is not really an AIBU but I’m
posting as it’s a lot busier here!

I received an invite for interview yesterday for a new job, I’ve only been in my current job around 10 months, it’s ok, a great team but it’s not a great fit for me, I don’t particularly enjoy it. I found out that the new (possible) job needs to get references before interview so I need to speak to my boss this morning but I’m not sure the best way to word why I’m leaving!!

the new job is closer to home (current job passes through a busy tourist area and can take me between 30-50 minutes to get there). New job is 10 minutes away. It just feels like a rubbish excuse to say it’s the distance.

I like my boss and another member of staff also handed their notice in a few weeks ago so I feel a bit guilty regarding the timing (ridiculous I know!) it’s also frustrating as I may not even get the job but my boss will now know I’m looking!

so I think I should say my circumstances have changed and I’m looking for something closer to home (dh thinks she may ask what the circumstances are)

AIBU to just say it’s the distance…

OP posts:
MiffedandMiserable · 19/04/2024 06:47

I’d use references from a previous job, it’s a bad idea to tell your current boss you’re actively looking for a new role.

LisaD1 · 19/04/2024 06:46

I’d say no to the new job asking for references before you get a job offer. That’s a risk for you and without your consent they cannot contact your current employer for this very reason (unless it’s an internal role)

jeaux90 · 19/04/2024 06:46

That's insane that a job requires referrals before an interview.

Why?

I'd push back and say that it's risking the current position you are in. And tell them you'd happily supply them if you are successful.

Otherwise yes just tell the boss the travel is too much.

Anameisaname · 19/04/2024 06:45

Can't you ask HR? Normally they provide references and they shouldn't tell your boss if you ask them not to

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