To refuse to let DD drink coffee?

Literally the worst vegetable in the world

It certainly is addictive.

But that doesn't mean it's dangerous or bad for you.

Why the hell would you hope that?
You have a psychological addiction to a substance that is not physically addictive. Don't pass this on to your daughter.
I hope she loves it; coffee can be as pleasurable as wine. So many varieties, countries of production, flavours (not pumpkin spiced, just bean varieties). I hope she becomes a coffee expert, a buyer for a boutique coffee shop, travelling the world to source the right beans, and has many coffee-appreciating children.

Why so nasty to a young person? Would you do that to your child?
That's the same as saying give them a very strong spliff/chilli, or making them smoke 20 fags in a row because they have expressed curiosity about smoking.
Let them try a normal coffee. They will like it or they wont.

@Tinymrscollings You are my hero! Encapsulated the issues with food and unnecessary idiocy perfectly!
Perfect antidote to the pumpkin spiced latte!

I think you need to stop talking about how you rely on coffee to cope. She may see this as something she needs rather than as a hot drink.

You are making it appealing/ a legal high when school will be telling her caffeine is a drug. High caffeinated drinks are aged limited for a reason.

She wants this because you do. Change your behaviour. If she does find a taste for coffee then limit to one cup each morning.

Also address your reliance with your GP.

How do you know? Do you have some superpower that predicts what every child will and will not like?
You need to get on the one show

Ffs, caffeine is not addictive. Get a grip
I have been drinking coffe since I was seven. I have yet to become addicted to it.
Stop her having a snort of cocaine, yes. Coffee? Dear god

Haha me neither. We had 50p, which was spent on sweets :)

I agree, one milky coffee a day for a 13yo won’t cause any issues. Better she develops a taste for it at home rather than the coffee chains!

@exomoon lol. No. They didn't even really have those coffee shops when I was a kid. A greasy spoon caff was the closest thing. I drank it at home.
I spent my pocket money on diet coke and fags. So I'm no example!
I was more thinking they could easily access it if they wanted to, you can get a filter coffee for a pound or something in some places?

Thats a myth

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What's wrong with a 13 year old having a cup of coffee?

I'd presume they'd just buy it themselves on the way to or from school if they wanted

Did you get enough pocket money as a teen to buy a £4 coffee daily?! Because I sure didn’t!

I'm pretty surprised so many people don't allow teens coffee. I'd presume they'd just buy it themselves on the way to or from school if they wanted. And surely coke and energy drinks are just as bad, and again they have free access to that all the time?
I guess I'm the weird one as my mum gave me milky coffee for breakfast from aged 2 onwards. Apparently she thought it was chicken because the French do it?! Lol.
I find I can easily stop drinking coffee. Total cold turkey with no ill effects. I go months without it then get a craving. I can only drink one a day or I get too hyper. Peppermint tea is definitely the better option though.

Just stop, then.

But I mean...you could just stop if you don't like it? It's 1-2 days of having a headache and that's it, you are no longer "addicted". Why don't you do that?

My parents always drank coffee and I thought it was so “grown up”
I always asked for a coffee (despite actually hating it) when we went anywhere as I imagined I’d be seen as adult and sophisticated.
When I started getting offered it and no one was particularly impressed or interested I went back to asking for drinks I actually enjoyed.

I’m nearly 40 now and haven’t touched coffee (except iced) for over 20 years.

If you make something taboo it seems interesting, if it’s everyday it becomes banal and your daughter will either enjoy it occasionally or lose interest.

I think you are worrying too much about addiction, do you have other reasons for this?
If you don’t have caffeine for a few days you’ll experience discomfort and maybe have headaches but it’s not like heroin where the withdrawal symptoms are so strong that they cause relapse.

I think you need to address your own issues with caffeine addiction and let your daughter drink it with you if you are concerned.

How are you going to feel when it’s alcohol she wants or her friends are vaping and smoking weed?
You are getting off lightly with the fact she just wants a cup of coffee, at that age I was badgering my parents for alcopops to take to a party!
Guess what? We were bought some!

When all the 13/14 year olds were drinking cider in the park I was upstairs with a few girls from school with 2 bottles of hooch each on a Saturday night.
It took the mystery out of alcohol and I had champagne at weddings and a barcardi and coke at Christmas.

When I was a student it was the sheltered kids trying alcohol for the first time getting into states and having their stomachs pumped.

Your daughter wants to drink coffee with you where you can supervise. If you have concerns about your own addiction then be open. If you keep making this into a big deal it’ll be more appealing and she’ll sneak around.
Do you want that?

I agree. I was drinking coffee at 15 and have never become addicted to it. I only ever had one, or at most two, a day - unfortunately I can't drink it much now due to gastritis 😒A friend of mine used to drink a lot of energy drinks and had to have a lot of dental work done as a result. I think coffee is the lesser of several evils.

The more you hold out against it the more attractive it's going to make it for her.

I don't know why she won't try decaf though - any idea OP? Does she want it for the caffeine? Does she know that caffeine doesn't have a taste?

Even if she likes it, you can control how many she's allowed in a day at home.

At 13 she's quite old enough to be drinking coffee. As far as I know there's nothing wrong with coffee, and I read some research the other day saying it actually has protective effects against some serious diseases (sorry don't have link but it was in the press). Coffee is certainly better for her than sweet fizzy drinks anyway.

Meant to say Caffeine IS addictive

It's coffee, not cocaine
Let her have it.She may not even like it
I had milky coffee at her age.
Can I ask how much coffee you actually drink during the day and why you think you're addicted?
Caffeine isn't actually addictive it's habit forming

Latte satchets? Instead

Surely she can just buy it for herself when she’s out without you?

You could just buy decaf and put in neutral packaging though.

I drank coffee from very young and I don’t drink it at all now, if that’s any comfort. I’m addicted to tea though.