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To let them babysit?

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pollypocke · 18/04/2024 18:37

So,
We asked my MIL if she could look after our little one at the weekend. She said yeah of course just drop him round.
Now the plans changed slightly so my MIL has asked us to drop our little one at my SIL's house where she'll be with SIL and her partner.
My question is, AIBU to not feel comfortable leaving my little one with my SIL's partner that I've met once (and my SIL has only known a year) and have only very recently moved in (this month)
I don't know if I'm right to feel a bit uneasy about leaving him with someone I hardly know or if I'm being over protective?

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pollypocke · 18/04/2024 18:43

AGodawfulsmallaffair · 18/04/2024 18:41

You’re not leaving him with someone you don’t know, your mil will be there.
Suppose it was plan A and sil and partner dropped in at mil’s for a cup of tea?
He’s been around for a year, not a week, you are way over the top I’m afraid.

I do realise I'm being over the top. I think it has more to do with the face my relationship with MIL and SIL is a bit strained and not the best. My MIL has only babysat my little one a few times so I'm not 100% comfortable with the situation

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Mrsjayy · 18/04/2024 18:43

But her aunt and gran will be there surely they won't just leave the baby with him? You can obviously do what you are comfortable with but I do think you need to take a deep breath and just leave her.

AGodawfulsmallaffair · 18/04/2024 18:41

You’re not leaving him with someone you don’t know, your mil will be there.
Suppose it was plan A and sil and partner dropped in at mil’s for a cup of tea?
He’s been around for a year, not a week, you are way over the top I’m afraid.

Lillers · 18/04/2024 18:41

I don’t think you’re wrong to check that it would be SIL who would be taking care of him and not the partner - ie she won’t be going out and leaving the partner in charge at any point. Does SIL have her own children at all, and would you have been comfortable with her looking after your DS if the partner wasn’t around? And would MiL be there as well or is she just out of the picture for this one now?

Edited to say: sorry, just realised you answered my question about MIL in the Op