Rude or polite

I'm glad this thread hasn't turned into a man bashing thread. There is time yet though.

People can read, op.

Initially you were rude. You had no way of knowing what he wanted. Regardless of the fact he "came back and confirmed it". You didn't KNOW that when he first said excuse me, you were assuming. If you had simply said no after he asked, then no not rude.

You're obviously easily amused if you think your wittering is worthy of a cry laughing emoji, but you should really try to calm yourself. You're getting over excited now.

I’d say it’s pretty arrogant to look down on people waiting at (gasp, the horror!) a bus stop! What a weird thing to say.

The OP didn't know what he was going to say so yes if you act like that to strangers it is rude and odd.

We have a winner.

😂

Accept the fact that your post wasn't that clear.

So we (and possibly he) had no clue

OMG!

You are making zero sense Op.

A guy comes up to you and says “excuse me” and you just reply with a “No”.

Of course that’s rude.

He may have wanted the time, directions, a light for his cigarette, tens of possibilities. And you just cut him off with a No.

What made you assume he was showing romantic/sexual interest? A bit big headed if you really.

But why was he saying Excuse Me?

Did he want to get past?
Did he want to ask you the time?
Did he want to ask about the buses?

There is nothing wrong with Excuse Me, it's what goes with it that can be good or bad

Yes you were rude. Maybe justifiably so but still rude.

Very rude. Hope that helps.

Lovely! Stop assuming all women hate all men. Like you do. Sometimes even women can be wrong! Shock horror 🤣

lol this.

You are so bloody rude and presumptuous.

I am one of the politest persons you will ever meet. At work, in social contexts, with friends etc. And people frequently ask me for things like this and I help them if I can.

But I know the difference between people saying or asking something innocent, and someone sidling up to me and deliberately picking me out to talk to. I trust my instincts now; if something feels 'wrong' with the encounter it probably is. It is your prerogative to think I am 'rude and odd' if you must.

You didn’t know he was going to try to chat you up until he came back a second time so yes you were rude.
Why post on here when you want validation not opinions? Being chatted up is annoying so I don’t envy you tbh

LOL

It’s quite unusual for someone to make a romantic overture at a bus stop, with no previous interaction. Did he think you we touting for business maybe?

OP was rude to the man for not giving 5 seconds of her time to find out what he wanted, and has been rude to people on this thread by calling posters "dense" and being deliberately obtuse and bolshy.

Verdict: rude

YANBU to shut down a come on at the bus stop abruptly.

It’s always possible you could have misinterpreted what he was going to say but, frankly, we gave men FAR too much of a margin on this sort of stuff and they need to just stop being entitled arseholes first. Then we can start giving strangers who might or might not be about to come on to us more leeway.

The fact that he came back to you to tell you what form of words he thought you ought to have used to make him feel better about himself goes to show how completely self-centered the action was on his part.

I’d have to have been there. If he putting his hands all over you then you weren’t be rude to tell him no, in fact you were being ridiculously polite. I’d have said a lot more and worse things than No.
However if he just said Excuse me and you cut him off with “No” before he even got a chance to speak then you were very rude. Are you that stunning and breath taking you think that any time a bloke speaks to you it’s to declare his undying love and admiration for you.

Good grief you come across as very rude and argumentative just from reading the comments on here. Most people would allow a person to finish their sentence before shutting them down. He might have had a genuine enquiry, he might have been pointing out you had dropped something etc. Ok you weren't interested, it doesn't make you any less rude for not entertaining basic manners to another human being.
Wearing headphones in public to avoid the possibility of someone daring to talk to you is telling.
Personally, I think it is risky to not have your wits about you when out in public, I've never understood these people who walk around looking at gadgets with their ears stuffed, God forbid there was a crazed knifeman like Australia has seen, you'd all dead before you heard it coming.

I’m voting YWBU on the basis that you wrote “could have”…

Aside from that, yes, very rude. What if he was about to say I think you just dropped your purse/ glove/ keys? Manners are free.

@Livingtothefull You've never had anyone ask you the time, for directions or anything else innocent?

You bark you are not interested in random stranger's faces?

You are rude and odd too.

Judging from your opening post and your aggressive and rude tone throughout (especially when told you’re rude), I’d stay well clear of you.