Rude or polite

You weren't polite for sure but I'm not sure I blame you for wanting to be annoyed by some randomer.
I hate when people call to the door for stuff, I've worked all day and am trying to entertain kids and cook dinner and some poor guy calls to my door trying to sell me rubbish I don't want and then tries to keep me there for longer, obviously having been told the longer you keep them there the better chance they'll buy, and they're asking me nonsense questions. So I just open the door and say no thanks and close the door again! I don't care if it's rude.

Then they said 'no'.

We have no idea what's going on in other people's lives. No one is obliged to interact with us just because we ask them to.

But what if you did need to ask someone something, and they just said"no" before you had a chance to ask the question?

I think it's pretty rude if you dont know what the person is going to ask you. Andim sure you would feel that way if you were the one asking the question.

It’s not at all unusual if you’re young and pretty.

I've never just spoken to someone. I will always say excuse me first.

"Your all being dense"

Oh the irony.. .

@Bloopp If he had been leering at her she would have included that in her initial post and subsequent comments, it being very relevant to whether her response was rude or not. She hasn't, because he seemingly didn't. Nobody would ask if shutting down a pervert was rude because nobody in their right mind would think she was in the wrong in that scenario.

LOL at the bird shit comment.

You were rude and are rude on this post.

I think ALOT of people would say "excuse me" before asking a stranger a question actually.

This

At the end of the day, if a stranger wants to say something to you, they just say it. Do you know if the number 6 bus stops here? Can you point me in the direction of the train station? I think you’ve dropped your scarf.

What is the need to have someone fully engaged in a conversation before you even indicate what it’s going to be about, other than making it more difficult to extract yourself without feeling rude? That’s what the expectant “excuse me?” is for.

It’s got nothing to do with thinking everyone fancies you. She didn’t want to be in a conversation with a random man at a bus stop, simple. She declined his effort to say something with her rather than listen to everything he had to say and have to counter, which could then just be argued against. She didn’t want to be in that cycle, and I don’t know why the hell we’ve decided today that women are obligated to “hear out” total strangers trying to talk to them.

Amen. When I'm alone and going about my private business, asking for nothing and bothering no one, I don't want accosting by Random Men.

And it's always the lone female Random Man makes a beeline for, isn't it? If they're that desperate for company or a favour, or are chuggers who simply want to sell you something or mine you for information, why not approach the nearest man?

Rude? Maybe.

But unlike the 'Women Must Be Nice' contingent on MN who frequently pitch up on threads like this to tell other women off, I don't believe rudeness is necessarily the worst sin a female can commit.

The Be Kind brigade can humour these men all they want. I don't want to, and I won't.

Kudos, OP.

Come on everyone clearly this is the first time someone has approached OP and she's just had to tell us all about it humbly.

Your first post isn’t altogether clear, probably because it’s lacking grammar and punctuation. It sounded as though you shut him down immediately, but you’re saying that he was trying to hit on you.

It might have been more polite to say you weren’t interested when he first spoke to you.

what did he want?

I mean yeah saying no, without hearing what someone is about to ask, is obviously rude. Though sometimes rudeness is justified, for instance if he was trying to come onto you/acting creepy. If he just wanted to know directions it's not justified.

Oh dear 😑

OP is definitely the real life version of that annoying skit the girl does on "omg why does everyone want to be with me" 😂 bet your colleagues don't even dare glance your way!

I'm not going backwards and forwards arguing with you.

Somebody who says excuse me doesn't deserve a no.

We will have to agree to disagree if it's rude or not.

You are rude . It's coming across in your posts first and foremost -and I'd imagine your vain too. You done him a favour

It's entirely possible that OP could tell he was going to chat her up. Maybe he had been looking her up and down, trying to get her attention etc.

Or maybe a bird had shit down her back. We'll never know.

I don't go out of my way to be rude but tbh I don't lose any sleep over it. I don't owe anyone politeness and I have plenty of people in my life who don't think I am particularly odd. I am polite to people who deserve politeness.

I have had too many unsolicited encounters with strangers who have turned out to be wasting my time at best, become really rude & threatening at worst. I don't regard it as rudeness actually, more 'short shrift'.

Sad really that people would sooner listen to a device than engage with the real world.

The comments are getting as amusing as the post. Popcorn.

I’m abit baffled by this post. He said “excuse me” and you said “no”…..

Are you young and stunningly beautiful OP that you often get chatted up at bus stops?

Maybe if he said something that 100% implied he was trying to chat you up then I guess you wouldn’t be unreasonably to say no thanks I’m not interested.

If this is what passes for entertainment the hours must fly by in that basement.