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What is he doing in the toilet all this time?

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heartandflower · 18/04/2024 11:43

Dh gets up and goes straight to the toilet, he's in there about half an hour, comes home from work and the first thing he does is go to toilet for about half an hour, sometimes he will have additional toilet breaks all lasting around the same time.
I have asked him what takes so long and he just replies he's having a poo.
Is this usual behaviour? he does it when we are at my parents house or his, his mum once said he's always taken forever in the toilet.
We've been married over 10 years and there's no other strange behaviour but I do wonder why he feels the need to sit on the toilet so long.

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PercyJackson · 18/04/2024 11:54

Yep, another shit widow here. I'm convinced he is just looking at motorbikes on his phone (his version of porn...!).

My Dad used to have a shelf of books in the bathroom that were specifically for him to sit and read while on the loo. I don't get it, I've never been in there long enough to read!

MatildaTheCat · 18/04/2024 11:54

Is he leaving you to do drudge work while he’s lounging in the loo? If so I’d recommend asking him to leave his phone etc outside the bathroom while he focuses on his elimination.

If he refuses then he’s probably taking the piss.

Fancybed · 18/04/2024 11:54

I think it's really odd too, I don't remember my father doing it, but DH and ne of my sons take an age.

I went on holiday with friends in a large Air bnb, it took forever to get out in the mornings because each man needed his time in the toilet first.

TossieFleacake · 18/04/2024 11:53

It seems to be the norm amongst my friends.
After some discussion it appears that women go to the loo when they need a poo whereas men go, sit on the toilet and try for a poo in stead of just going when needed.
And it's a good excuse for half an hour away from family life and a break.

3526y · 18/04/2024 11:51

My dh takes forever. Definitely not porn though! Not sure why someone will assume that straight away!

He does get distracted with his SM, he enjoys the quite + he just needs longer, physiologically.

Boredwiththinkingofanotherusername · 18/04/2024 11:51

DH is the same. And the looking at his phone which is grim and unhygienic! 🤮

Up his fibre intake - that'll speed up his poo time! 😁

Darby3785 · 18/04/2024 11:49

It is quite normal
My DS (19) can be on the toilet for a good 25 -30 minutes as can my DH! If it's for a poo!! Wee is much more in and out in our house!
Most of the time they are on their phones or just sat chilling 😂
Don't worry 😊

Lemonnhoney · 18/04/2024 11:48

My DH does this too... I ask if he is constipated and he says no he's just having a poo 😂. I think he looks at his phone whilst doing it but seems to take forever!

ButterflyKu · 18/04/2024 11:48

He’s already told you, he’s doing a poo. Not everyone is straight in, straight out

sweetpickle2 · 18/04/2024 11:47

Porn on his phone is quite common for people to do in the bathroom. Although would be weird for that to be routinely the first thing he does when he gets home- a long poo (and a browse on the internet) is probably more likely.

whywonttheyeattheirfood · 18/04/2024 11:46

It's normal for most men according to what others say. Ages ago I did read a science article that said that men take ages in the toilet because it increases their testosterone levels which may have become depleted through stress or whatever.

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