What is he doing in the toilet all this time?

Life long slow pooper here. Female. I can’t remember it ever taking me less time. And any time I’ve tried to rush the process by straining I’ve ended up constipated and/or worse. I can’t imagine what it would be like to go in one or two minutes, my body just doesn’t work that way. Maybe some of us have naturally slower function in that area 🤷‍♀️

Does he take his phone in the toilet with him? I would say that's probably why he's taking so long. Although having said that,my exH used to spend ages in the toilet,and this was back in the late 80s, before mobile phones were a thing. I think he was just having a break from family life.

I think we should all poo on company time!!

I read somewhere that men in general tend not to wait for the urge to shit. They just go and sit until it drops out. Something to do with it feels good on their g spot or summick.

Made sense, no idea if it's true. I just assumed they're wanking.

They don't seem to do it at work... we have restricted time on toilet breaks except if a medical issue and it wouldn't be allowed!

hes having a poo hes told you. might be IBS but you clearly have too much time on your hands to give this a second thought. let the man shit in peace.

If you train yourself enough biofeedback etc you can essentially "feel" that there's something there more easily and that you might be able to go. It becomes less habit and more that you are always aware of your bowel fullness like the fuel indicator in a car and can let it build up to full and then do your business

Before we leave the house, my partner will often say "I think I'll have another poo before we go". It baffles me! I've never been able to poo on demand!

As Micky Flanagan says, to do fak awwwwl (fuck all -for those who don't watch this comedian).

The only reason this should be talked about critically is if someone is doing it to leave work to their partner, otherwise, it's no-one else's business. Aside, I guess, if someone's doing something else while in there; porn if that's non-negotiable for you, or being unfaithful.

Otherwise, butt out, it's just not your business or something to try to control. Yes, they may be 'avoiding family life', but who doesn't at times, and why is that wrong? My wife would often like to sit upstairs in the bedroom, or have a 90min bath when we had young kids, cos everyone needs a break sometimes.

I didn't assume she was texting someone she shouldn't, or feel she was off-loading the kids on me. Time on your own, however it's taken, is important, whether or not it's in a way you'd choose.

That's not even including, that some people take longer to have a bowel movement than others, diagnosed medical condition or not.

There's a ton of stuff to judge men about, this is just ridiculous however, unless it's part of a bigger problem.

I don't think it's healthy to sit with open bowels that long... I remember a friend did a conference about bowel disease and was banging on about how bad sitting on the loo is! (I have no details... sorry... slightly pointless).

Mine is usually sat there for ages reading sports news/videos on his phone. Told him it’s gross but oh well 🤷🏼‍♀️

My dh has never done this, but my ds does.

Ban phones in your bathroom (dirty and unhygienic anyway🤢). Bet they're quicker then 🙄😄

The fact they assume that straight away probably says more about where thier minds are to be fair.

Normal! My husband can go to the toilet 4 or 5 times a day at 20 to 30 mins at a time... when I ask what he does he says. Shitting!

But he isn't... he's on his bloody phone! Playing games... watching up on sport, Facebook...

It does my head in cos you can also guarantee that when we are going out.... he will announce I need a poo...

I'll tell him to be quick... but nope! I've started telling him half a. Hour before we need to leave so I know he will actually be ready on time...

My partner can disappear for over an hour at a time. My legs would go numb if I was sitting on the loo that long!

I will never for the life of me understand why men spend so long in the toilet. It’s germy and smelly, yet they sit for ages smelling their own 💩 while on their phones or reading etc. Why don’t they want nicer surroundings? As a woman I go to the toilet to do what I have to do and leave, why wouldn’t you? 🤣 It does seem to be a pretty common phenomenon though.

Hiding. It's the modern day garden shed/garage, with the added advantage of a good cover story and a lock on the door.

According to MN, extended man poo time is completely normal, so it's nothing to worry about. However if he's hogging the only toilet in a house of 5 people for that long, he should at least have the courtesy to ask if anyone needs the loo before he goes for ages.

I know that when DH gets up in the morning, I've got a 45 min snooze..... Him flushing is my cue to get up

Crikey!

Speaking as a man I'm literally once a day about 3 minutes done, I guess bodies are all different but wow that's going to be a lot of your life sat on the toilet !

I hear this so often from blokes that at this point I genuinely think our muscles are just better at pushing.

Bloody hell, really?

I guess I really do have IBS if that is the norm!

His mum has said he’s been like that forever so I doubt it’s a new thing. Some people just take longer then others! Some people also like to scroll on their phone and hide from the children