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AIBU to think MiL wants to hurt me?

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Anusername · 18/04/2024 06:10

A little bit of background. My mil and me are quite different. She’s very assertive and says something that is not to her taste out loud. I am usually more soft and reserve. She came to stay with us to help with childcare (I gave birth two months ago) and we have had a reasonably good relationship. She turned out to be willing to listen to me when it comes to how to look after the baby. I am very grateful for her help.

while we were having lunch the other day, she wanted to gossip about a person we met in the park. She said can you believe she’s actually older than you?? I found it quite upsetting and I said: how did you find out her age? She said: I said to her she looks younger than you. It made me very upset since this person looks just her age. this is not the first time she said something like this. A very similar scenario happened a year ago which got me upset and my Mil noticed it. Yet she still did it again?

i am very conscious of how tired I look nowadays after what I experienced these two years (two mmc and a very difficult pregnancy, and now looking after a newborn). She knows my experiences and my worries about aging. Prior to these, I always got the comments that I look younger than my age.

It happened two days ago and I’m still not over it. I think she may not have done it on purpose but at the subconscious level, she still wants to hurt me. AIBU to think that she is not simply blunt and innocent to say it?

OP posts:
Janetime · 18/04/2024 06:24

I’m sorry op, I think maybe exhaustion and hormones have got the better of you. Congrats on your new baby, try not to strew on things.💐

sarahc336 · 18/04/2024 06:22

Sorry op I don't feel she's doing anything that wrong. I can tell your upset but I feel your reading into it too much 😊

Motnight · 18/04/2024 06:19

You've got 2 threads about this, Op.

Perfect28 · 18/04/2024 06:16

Yab way too sensitive, sorry.